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Well, they often are. Or to put it slightly differently, enacting personal priorities creates relationship boundaries.
It's irrelevant. The distinction we are trying to discuss here is the difference between boundaries (how I manage my wellbeing) and control (the attempt to manage someone else's behaviour).
It certainly doesn't establish that "boundaries" are about controlling someone else.
Sure. That's also no justification for controlling attitudes or behaviours.
Yes. Because boundaries are about managing our own needs and wellbeing.
We are free to choose how we respond to our spouse. Neither party to a marriage has the right to control the other.
One cannot intend what is not an end-in-view of the objectively defined act. The physicality of the act objectively described may have subjectively multiple ends-in-view. You would limit those ends-in-view subjectively to be but one.
No, the person performing the massage, whether displaying on the wall some diploma or not, remains a fallen human being.
That is not my point in describing the massage as therapeutic. I am making an objective description of the style of massage being done.
Sure. But that does not mean that they are necessarily conducting themselves unprofessionally in any given instance.
Sure.
Nor does that diploma guarantee that the masseur will always act professionally.
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No, it doesn't. But the professional training and qualification of the therapist is one of the objective facts of the situation which qualifies how one might interpret the client's state of undress and so on. This is not just a random couple in a room with someone nearly naked.
But that subjective (in the mind of an observer only) interpretation is merely one of two, or more, that might also be an interpretation. And because other interpretations exist, the notion that the masseur is professional serves only to detract from the objectivity of the physical act as described.
No, I disagree. It's not just subjective. There are objective differences between a professional therapeutic massage, and other kinds of massage.
Can you really not conceive of loving relationships without controlling dynamics?
But that's not the necessary outcome of renouncing controlling dynamics. One can freely choose to prioritise the other; great.
