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My last Detroit Friend...

Chrystal-J

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There is a book on how to make friends and influence people. The advice is to find out what people are interested in and talk to them about that. It could be golf or their grandchildren. Often people find common ground of subjects that are of interest to both of them. My mom was the mayors daughter and she was popular with many people. The main thing she taught us is that you have to be like a duck and let the water roll off of your back. You can not be offended by what people say. You have to overlook it when people do or say something inappropriate Her dad was re elected and served the community for 22 years.
I'm good at letting stuff roll off my back. Think that's why I keep friends forever. The problem is most of them are old and either pass away or move to be close to family.
I like the idea of finding common ground.
 
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The problem is most of them are old and either pass away or move to be close to family.
Yes around 70 I lost a lot of my friends. I did not even realize we were that close in age. In a way maybe they are better off than we are because their work is done and they can go onto their reward.
 
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Would joining a book club be of any use?
Or volunteering a few hours at an animal shelter to take the dogs for a walk? You could strike up casual friendships at these places but i doubt they'll want to "hang" after one or two meetings (they may be crazy if they do).
Is there a Legion of Mary in Detroit? They offer a befriending service to the old, lonely and housebound. It's not exactly what you're looking for but it is a way to go chat to people for an hour a week.
And my last - and most serious- recommendation: ring the Samaritans hotline. You can talk away to them and they can't hang up on you.
 
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Would joining a book club be of any use?
Or volunteering a few hours at an animal shelter to take the dogs for a walk? You could strike up casual friendships at these places but i doubt they'll want to "hang" after one or two meetings (they may be crazy if they do).
Is there a Legion of Mary in Detroit? They offer a befriending service to the old, lonely and housebound. It's not exactly what you're looking for but it is a way to go chat to people for an hour a week.
And my last - and most serious- recommendation: ring the Samaritans hotline. You can talk away to them and they can't hang up on you.
I am in 2 city clubs that do informational meetings. They have guest speakers, like the health department or the fire department. But, that's only 2 days a month.
Thanks for the Samaritans hotline info. I appreciate it.
 
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They have guess speakers
My dad use to do a lot of that. He would come home from work. Eat dinner and then go out and give a speech somewhere. Even he had this thing he would do with hypnotism. He claimed he could hypnotize a whole audience. Although a lot of that has to do with the power of suggestion. People think they were because you tell them they were and they believe you. Although there are pastors that do what when giving a sermon.
 
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My dad use to do a lot of that. He would come home from work. Eat dinner and then go out and give a speech somewhere. Even he had this thing he would do with hypnotism. He claimed he could hypnotize a whole audience. Although a lot of that has to do with the power of suggestion. People think they were because you tell them they were and they believe you. Although there are pastors that do what when giving a sermon.
I was hypnotized once and nothing really happened except that time seemed to go by fast.
 
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I was hypnotized once and nothing really happened except that time seemed to go by fast.
Then that must be the opposite as school. Time went by so slow that the clock almost seemed to stop.
 
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That bit was a joke!
Are things that bad?
They were a few weeks ago. But my dad got out of the hospital and I've been visiting him. And an old friend resurfaced. So, I was able to get out and visit some people. I was feeling really down when I wrote the original post. But, feeling better now.
 
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Is there a safe charity to hang around and help?
I got invited to help create a voting slate the other day, so I'm going there today. That should be interesting.
 
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