It is worth pointing out that most of the charging stations, that were not Tesla, were built by Electrify America. For those not aware, part of Volkswagen's punishment for "diesel gate" in the US was to invest a couple of billion dollars into charging stations. If you believe the "conspiracy theories," VW didn't care when they set up Electrify American, they basically used the money to put a bunch of fast chargers across the country but didn't care about how long they'd last, about repairing them when they broke, etc.
What I've seen, that seems somewhat more accurate, is that Electrify American was pioneering fast charging in the US in many ways -- at least in terms of CCS charging (which is what every but Tesla used to use). They also had a deadline to get the chargers built in order to meet the requirements of the VW settlement, so they did hurry and put most of their money in building out the network. It was this that led to many problems, including the fact that they built out the network when there were few EVs; so very little money was being made from people charging.
So, with little money to support the chargers, EA got behind on maintenance and was slow to fix broken chargers -- at least until they started to get more money. Additionally, they bought chargers from a few different companies, since they were on a "fast track" timeline, which complicates the issue of getting the units repaired, and they were often "cheaper" units that were more prone to failure -- but it added the complication of having technicians with the proper qualifications show up at the site based on which units that station had and doing it in a timely manner.
In some ways EA's issues were made better by their agreements with various car companies, where companies gave them upfront money to give "free charging" to customers who bought their cars. I know VW offered three years of free EA charging with the purchase of a new EV; Hyundai gave a couple of years free with the purchase of an EV, etc. So this gave EA cash it needed but, at the same time, put a large strain on their chargers as all these new EV owners were using their free charging. Since then Siemens has become a minority investor in EA, so EA finally got some added cash that could actually be used to "catch up," and many of those free charging deals are now expiring. At the same time, there are serious competitors to EA -- as mentioned in this thread EVgo, and then Ford has teamed up with Xcel Energy to install charging stations, Rivian is installing charging stations, Mercedes is building charging stations (including some located at Buc-ee's, I believe they've teamed with ChargePoint), Shell (the oil company), and others -- and the manufacturer charging stations are available for any EV to use.
Last, the Tesla charging standard, now called the North American Charging Standard (NACS) has become the accepted charging standard in the US and Tesla chargers, which have rarely ever had complaints, will largely be opened to all EVs; including current EVs with CCS plugs where they will use an adapter to use the Tesla chargers.
I know, likely far more than you wanted to know -- but the complaints have been about CCS and those seem to be improving, though it won't really matter as cars (and other charging companies) switch over to the NACS standard.
It depends on the car, there are definitely differences. Because of how the conversation seemed to have stated, with comparisons of how much less a Kia ICE sedan cost than their CUV EV -- much of the conversation has revolved around the Hyundai/Kia/Genesis cars based on their Electric Global Modular Platform (E-GMP) which can charge from around 10-80% in 18 minutes -- and that is an accurate time on a 300kW charger. The others that can do this on CCS tend to be "high end" cars -- such as the Porsche Taycan and (I believe) the German Luxury sedans. Current Teslas can also charge quickly, though they slow down more after about 50% of charge.
There are a lot of cars that charge in the 150 to 200kW range. GM's new Ultium platform (which all their current EVs are built on, and also the Honda Prologue, somewhat oddly) can charge at 200kW. I think Fords 2024 EVs can charge around 190kW, the VWs I believe are around 170kW -- basically most of the long range EVs can charge 150kW or faster. The one exception to this was the Chevy Bolt, which was limited to around 60kW; though it is sold out, not being built this year, and next year will be built on the Ultium platform.
I could get into "charging curves" -- which is how long a car will maintain its peak charging rate at a fast charger, and then how quickly it slows charging after 10-ish minutes of sustained peak charging but I think that is more information than you probably want. Suffice it to say, that peak speed isn't the only qualification for how fast a car charges, but also how long it stays near that top speed. The complaint about how long some EVs have taken to charge is often because they advertise a fast peak charging rate, but quickly ramp the speed downward, so the charge takes much longer than they expected.
Again, this is as true for gas engines as for EVs -- just that the gas tank is much larger.

At the same time, I can't help but feel this is overrated; as pointed out, the EV is likely, at least, 4,000 lbs. Adding an extra 200 pounds to that is only adding 5% to the total weight. I could also point out that the weight of gasoline is over 6 lbs per gallon; so if the fuel tank holds 20 gallons, having a full tank is about like having an extra adult in the car.