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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
 

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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
Welcome to CF. Sounds like it's time for you to initiate a singles group. Most, if not all ,congregations have one. Blessings.
 
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Welcome to CF. Sounds like it's time for you to initiate a singles group. Most, if not all ,congregations have one. Blessings.
All the singles in my church are men along with a couple of older widowed ladies. We already have a men's group. There are other churches in my area, but their doctrine is weak and full of "woke" ideology. I don't know where these people get this idea that churches are full of women. Women love the shopping malls, it's all they care about!
 
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All the singles in my church are men along with a couple of older widowed ladies. We already have a men's group. There are other churches in my area, but their doctrine is weak and full of "woke" ideology. I don't know where these people get this idea that churches are full of women. Women love the shopping malls, it's all they care about!
Oh! If you are on the hunt for a woman you will need to widen your scope. And FYI, women don't "only" care about shopping malls. If you are willing, try https://dating.christianmingle.com
I know online dating isn't for everyone but it is fun!

Blessings
 
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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
Welcome to CF! I hope you find the content here edifying. :)
 
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Hi! Welcome to the forums! :)
Funny thing about church and women.
Why is church seem to be the only place a man can find a good match?

I will also say, after Covid...the number of people who are continuing online services is definitely outstanding.
So, less people to interact at church. Sadly.
Also, sorry to hear your experience with the churches you’ve been to make it seem like they only truly care for married couples.

It’s not how a true church should be.
Community is everything as it is the one effective way to share God’s word.

Hopefully you’ll get a different and positive experience here, in CF.

L4H
 
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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
I think you'd be surprised. # of singles is skyrocketing. At least my generation.

Try a different church & keep trying. I'm sure one will have some singles you can become a part of a community w/ :)
 
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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
Wouldn't let it trouble your heart.
Welcome to CF, Brother

May The LORD Bless You and Keep You
 
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My name is BlackNBlueXtian. I chose this name because my life as a Christian and more specifically, as a church member has been anything but wonderful. As an older single male I find that the church only cares about married people and it is becoming increasingly irrelevant to me. It has left me "black n blue"!
Hi there. I'm 51, always been single, so understand what you mean.

The main reason I haven't been into church much for quite a long time is spiritual more than anything else. Church is supposed to be where you can meet with God... theoretically. Everything else is secondary.
 
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