referring to your deceased spouse

[By_the_Book]

When you're talking about your deceased spouse how do you refer to them?

I still call him my husband when I talk about him. I actually stopped myself one day and said to someone, 'I don't know how to refer to him because it sounds like he's still here when I talk about him but I don't know how to refer to him.'

For me I often talk to people who are not aware that I had a husband and that he has died. Therefore, I feel like it sends a confusing message and I have no idea how to clear it up simply, without having to say, I was married and he has passed away. That gets old.

 

[disciple Clint]

When you're talking about your deceased spouse how do you refer to them?

I still call him my husband when I talk about him. I actually stopped myself one day and said to someone, 'I don't know how to refer to him because it sounds like he's still here when I talk about him but I don't know how to refer to him.'

For me I often talk to people who are not aware that I had a husband and that he has died. Therefore, I feel like it sends a confusing message and I have no idea how to clear it up simply, without having to say, I was married and he has passed away. That gets old.

how about "my departed husband" "my husband, now in heaven" "my deceased husband" "my husband, God rest his soul"

 

[godisagardener]

My late husband? Many widows/widowers I know say 'my late husband' or 'my late wife'.

 

[DaveHTexas]

The same way I did when she was alive. As my beautiful bride.