Have craving or urge to wear ex-wife ring on ring finger

[Juan777]

These past couple of days, I want to put that ring in my finger. I'm not talking to my ex-wife and only wished her a happy birthday this year, and she did the same to me on my birthday (our birthday is just a few days apart in the month of March). I saw her once at Nature's Emporium but was too shy to approach her.

We divorced 8 years ago. I find it hard to believe I was ever married in the first place because I don't generally talk to any women period and don't deal with women and believe they don't like me, etc.... and have been tuning into all sorts of blackpill & incel content online that I have been in denial that any woman ever loved me and I was ever married. It is just hard to believe I was ever married and its like this ring it the only evidence against this delusion and I feel I must wear it, at least to remind myself that a woman did love me in the past enough to give me this, if nothing else?

I'll see if the craving to wear this ring goes away. I will acknowledge that I was married and won't deceive myself into thinking it never happened. Maybe if I "negotiate" my acknowledging a marriage took place in the past rather than feeling blackpilled, the craving will go away on its own.

 

[returntosender]

So, wear it. Who cares. I wear rings all over my fingers. I'm sure she wouldn't care either. why do you have her ring?

 

[returntosender]

So, wear it. Who cares. I wear rings all over my fingers. I'm sure she wouldn't care either. why do you have her ring?

You need to feel better about yourself. You're God's child and he loves you. You are worthy. Start telling yourself that and keep a journal of your attributes and God's blessings. On you .

 

[Juan777]

You need to feel better about yourself. You're God's child and he loves you. You are worthy. Start telling yourself that and keep a journal of your attributes and God's blessings. On you .

That is not the issue.

 

[Juan777]

The ring was placed on the ring finger. I showed it to my mother. She told me to take it off and stop living in a fantasy. I obeyed her and took it off and returned it. After all, the Bible says "Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right" (Eph 6:1). I'm 46 y/o BTW. Either way, her advise sounds right.

My ex-wife asked me if I loved her or my mother more. We are divorced now 8 years. I wrote a draft email to her explaining that I was putting her ring back on and encouraging her to do the same. Leaving everything alone.

 

[returntosender]

When you marry your wife becomes second in your life not your mother. You're 46.

 

[Juan777]

When you marry your wife becomes second in your life not your mother. You're 46.

She's 84 years old. Who will take care of her if I don't?

 

[GodDoesListen55]

I love my engagement ring. I designed it. I would still like to wear it. But I just do not know if it would feel right doing so. Therefore, I totally get where you are coming from with this.