Impossible ?

[t4inted-]

I am 28M I have diagnosis that effects my mental health a lot at times I was diagnosed at 21 but before that I never had much signs of anything but I have been recovering well and have been having some stability in my life for once. I was a former drug and alcohol addict and a proud thief throughout my teenage years till God came into my life at the age of 22. I’ve been through alot since but God has been helping me to overcome since.

One thing that I’ve been desiring is to spend my life with someone but it seems impossible for me my diagnosis affects my ability to work I’m not really able to hold down a FT job because of it but I am still able to work to an extent currently working PT while receiving government help.

Just wondering if it is even possible for someone like myself to find a spouse ? I read of Christian love stories of those who were poor yet were married and loved each other and followed the Lord would give me hopes that maybe I’ll find a godly spouse.

Or

Do I just accept that I may never be with anyone and to learn to live life on my own with the Lord ? I know he never fails.

I hope this is a good place to post, sorry for anything if it isn’t

 

[DragonFox91]

None of us know, but it will be hard for you.

 

[VMaeLove]

I will pray you find His path for you and leads you to a partner who love and cherish you for who you are.

 

[linux.poet]

It will be very difficult for your lady friend, for she will have to work as well as take care of the little ones. If you can take care of some of the housework and child raising duties, that will be helpful to her.

Thinking about yourself as a dad might help you decide if your mental health condition would render that responsibility too much. If a child had you for a father, how would they feel? Would they feel safe and loved, like Dad is doing the very best for them in spite of his weaknesses?

From the description, I would be wondering whether I could leave the kids at home with you. Are you stable? Are you off the drugs and alcohol with no possibility of relapse?

I'm hoping this helps you think this through.

It's not impossible, but you will need a lady who empathizes with your mental health condition and is willing to take on the extra work it imposes on her without being resentful.

 

[tobyw]

Just wondering if it is even possible for someone like myself to find a spouse ?

Yes. Lots of single women around wanting a date, so ask around.

 

[TobiaAJoshua]

It will be very difficult for your lady friend, for she will have to work as well as take care of the little ones. If you can take care of some of the housework and child raising duties, that will be helpful to her.

Thinking about yourself as a dad might help you decide if your mental health condition would render that responsibility too much. If a child had you for a father, how would they feel? Would they feel safe and loved, like Dad is doing the very best for them in spite of his weaknesses?

From the description, I would be wondering whether I could leave the kids at home with you. Are you stable? Are you off the drugs and alcohol with no possibility of relapse?

I'm hoping this helps you think this through.

It's not impossible, but you will need a lady who empathizes with your mental health condition and is willing to take on the extra work it imposes on her without being resentful.

why does he have to be a father in order to find someone?

surely not all women want to be a mom.

 

[linux.poet]

why does he have to be a father in order to find someone?

surely not all women want to be a mom.

Two reasons:
1. Using the test of fatherhood helps him see if a lady friend would feel safe and comfortable around him.
2. No birth control method is 100% foolproof, and the worst case scenario of any physical experience is pregnancy. Therefore, even if the couple does not plan to have children, they should have a plan in case it occurs.

 

[bèlla]

This is a ministry and should be viewed from that perspective. That doesn’t diminish attraction or emotional connections. But your companion must see her role as a service unto the Lord and exhibit it through love and mercy without complaint.

Otherwise, the absence of proficiency in certain areas may become a source of frustration or discontent when comparing able-bodied men. Some become resentful of the workload or absence of spoils and experiences.

We cannot be content in and of ourselves or love one another the way God commands. We need the Holy Spirit’s assistance.

Your wife is a help meet and this is one of the areas you require support. I’d look for someone rich in helps, mercy, and compassion. An encourager who enjoys pouring into others and serving. They’re not me driven

Women like that exist. Oftentimes they go unnoticed. They don’t look the part or have the bells and whistles most are seeking. Their gifts are secondary to physical beauty and the rest.

But she loves the Lord and would be an asset to her husband. Keep your eyes peeled. Look for the hidden gems. They’re usually right in your face.