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Sometimes I feel like a rotten person.

I really do think I once had something verging on borderline personality disorder myself. Depression just killed my mood swings, and self-reflection took care of the rest.
 
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I think a lot of people are too hard on themselves. Maybe they don't get enough opportunities to show that they are good people, but that doesn't mean they aren't.

I'll be honest I was a pretty rotten person for much of my life. Some of it is genetics, my mother's side has what I'd describe as evil people. Only reason I didn't turn out as bad as them was because I grew up in a loving home. Even then... I still harbored extreme anger and bitterness.

I describe the problem as hyper empathy. Empathy is usually seen as a good thing, but it can often lead to problems. Sure, you can be hyper empathetic and thus sympathize to someone who is homeless, but you can also be very empathetic and thus sensitive to those you feel have wronged you.
 
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I'll be honest I was a pretty rotten person for much of my life. Some of it is genetics, my mother's side has what I'd describe as evil people. Only reason I didn't turn out as bad as them was because I grew up in a loving home. Even then... I still harbored extreme anger and bitterness.

I describe the problem as hyper empathy. Empathy is usually seen as a good thing, but it can often lead to problems. Sure, you can be hyper empathetic and thus sympathize to someone who is homeless, but you can also be very empathetic and thus sensitive to those you feel have wronged you.
Anger and bitterness are very common, particularly in America the last couple of years. Having those thoughts and feelings doesn't make us bad people. However, it's better to let go of them as much as we can, even if just for ourselves. Negative feelings are like a poison. We're usually only hurting ourselves by giving them a home inside us.
 
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Anger and bitterness are very common, particularly in America the last couple of years. Having those thoughts and feelings doesn't make us bad people. However, it's better to let go of them as much as we can, even if just for ourselves. Negative feelings are like a poison. We're usually only hurting ourselves by giving them a home inside us.

Yeah, but much of my family seems to have them to an unusual extent.
 
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husband said pkg delivered but not on porch so we went to 7 or 8 neighbors @ 8:30 pm to find pkg

now so embarrassed to bother them cause husband read it wrong on phone...all he saw was word "delivered"

but it said "delivered by fed ex"
meaning to be delivered by them

hasn't even been shipped yet!
 
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husband said pkg delivered but not on porch so we went to 7 or 8 neighbors @ 8:30 pm to find pkg

now so embarrassed to bother them cause husband read it wrong on phone...all he saw was word "delivered"

but it said "delivered by fed ex"
meaning to be delivered by them

hasn't even been shipped yet!

Delivered is past tense.
 
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form should have written "delivery by" then

he checked the business & it has NOT been sent

I have used on-line shopping a lot, there has never been a problem.

Until a couple of weeks ago, recieved a mail from a delivery service I have never
heard of before.

Usually the packages are delivered to a sercive point where on showing of ID
they can be collected.

Not so in this case, I kontacted the store without result,

then I recieved a bill, which I have now paid, even though I have not recieved
any packet.

But will never use that particular store again.
 
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Speaking of stores, the grocery store I shop at is really messed up. The vegetable section is like three times bigger than the cookie section. They're doing it wrong. They should have a much wider selection of cookies. They should make the cookie section bigger. They should make the cookie section bigger.
 
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"NSAIDs such as ibuprofen may cause ulcers, bleeding, or holes in the stomach or intestine. These problems may develop at any time during treatment, may happen without warning symptoms, and may cause death."

Family was talking about this last night. Apparently my dad takes handfuls of advils.
 
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Really hoping by some miracle, it doesn't snow too much where I live tomorrow.
Although it has been a pretty mild winter so far, so I cannot complain too much overall.
 
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I'm trying to give myself a crash course in Bhutanese etiquette, since I have an unexpected meeting with Bhutanese community leaders this afternoon. Who knew there were so many different ways to bow?
 
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I have used on-line shopping a lot, there has never been a problem.

Until a couple of weeks ago, recieved a mail from a delivery service I have never
heard of before.

Usually the packages are delivered to a sercive point where on showing of ID
they can be collected.

Not so in this case, I kontacted the store without result,

then I recieved a bill, which I have now paid, even though I have not recieved
any packet.

But will never use that particular store again.

Surprise, surprise, today a neighbour came with my packet.

I had forgotten about it.

I mailed the store to let them know.

More I cannot do but pretty much happy it came at last.
 
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