Is this scripture below saying a Christian man should only marry a divorced woman if her divorce was because of sexual immorality or a Christian man should never marry a divorced woman full stop?
If the man does marry a divorced women would that mean his sins are going to be continuous in adultery as long as he is in that relationship, just as if someone carried on with fornication or any other sin after coming to and accepting Christ. Which would then make his sinning wilful after being saved.
31"Furthermore it has been said,
"Whoever divorces his wife, let him give
her a certificate of divorce.'
32But I say to you that whoever divorces
his wife for any reason except sexual
immorality causes her to commit
adultery;
and whoever marries a woman
who is divorced commits adultery.
Well, this response is going to be long.
The Love of God is the primary rule of direction in what Jesus said.
But because people don't interject God's love as a motivation into what he said.. people get the idea that no one can morally marry a divorced person. Who divorced because the spouse was unfaithful.
But Jesus is saying that once married you cannot use a waned affection reason or incompatibility reason for divorce.
He said, divorce not for any reason except for adultery.
Because if you do divorce for any reason other than adultery, then morally whoever divorces because of waned affection or incompatibility reason and then marries another is committing adultery.
The non adulterous reason for divorcing becomes as sinful (or against God's laws of love) and therefore the same as adultery while married.
[there are exceptions such as spousal abuse or child abuse, or child rape] With Jesus' marriage rules of Love those exceptions shouldn't happen. But if they do then by all means get a legal and moral divorce. Such extreme reasons will not bring any condemnation upon the divorced spouse or the children. If anyone does condemn it, then they who so judge against divorce for those reasons are to be condemned.
Jesus is saying that the only morally allowable reason to divorce the spouse is for sexual immorality. He is not ignoring or anulling verse 31.
That's why the usual Christian or civil wedding vows are given that basically say that no matter what circumstance of life the married couple will stay married.
Why? Because you are getting married because you love each other. So like the song goes.. Love will keep you together. As long as you practice God's Love in your marriage even at times when your feelings don't feel loving to your spouse at some particular moment. It is something that loving forgiveness can erase.
So whoever (man) marries a so divorced woman (because of a waned affection or incompatibility with her spouse) has committed adultery with her.
Because Jesus also said that if a man looks on a woman with thoughts of having sex with her, then he has already committed adultery with her.
So in Love's eyes, even the wedding vows to another don't make the marriage morally legal if the spouse is not divorced because of actual adultery.
That is to say, morally according to God's perfect will.
That is not to say that you can't legally morally marry a person who was divorced for waned affection or because of incompatibility though not because of adultery. You can. But, it's God's permissive will.
And it could even be a good marriage. Faithful, Loving, all the good things for marriage. But still, it will not be God's perfect will. Because His perfect is having stayed with the first spouse. Because bringing God into the problem could have eliminated the problem.
Because only actual adultery is the only perfect will-moral reason in Love's eyes, to have divorced.
Jesus is in that text giving the rules of Love concerning marriage. If affection wanes then rekindle the affection and enjoy the marriage bed once again. If there is discovered incompatibility then ask God for His love to smooth out the rough edges and actively practice God's love toward your marriage spouse, reaching for the goal of having an affection between you. And enjoy the marriage bed.
God loves you and wants for your marriage to be loving and enjoyable. Even a marriage of one part of the wedding couple having been divorced.