Instead of saying.......

[ChicanaRose]

"A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger." Prov. 15:1

What is your:

Instead of saying, "____________________";
use: "_________________________" ?

Mine is:

Instead of saying, "None of your business!";
use: "That's a very personal matter for me."

 

[Chris V++]

On the job as an insurance adjustor:

Instead of saying, "You're a liar, liar, pants on fire."
use: "That damage just isn't consistent with the facts of the loss."

 

[bèlla]

For gossip:

Instead of saying, “Get a life!”
Use: I don’t know.

For creepy date requests:

Instead of saying, “Are you mad?”
Use: I have other plans.

For offers of food that look inedible:

Instead of saying, “Yuck”
Use: I’m stuffed.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

"A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger." Prov. 15:1

What is your:

Instead of saying, "____________________";
use: "_________________________" ?

Mine is:

Instead of saying, "None of your business!";
use: "That's a very personal matter for me."

oh?

When a disciple asked Jesus: "Master, how many in that town will be saved, a lot or a few?" (while looking over a town he was headed to to preach )
JESUS ANSWERED: "IT's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS" ..... "just go and do as the Father told you to do" ....

 

[childeye 2]

"A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger." Prov. 15:1

What is your:

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Instead of saying, "You're wrong";
use: "Respectfully, I don't agree".
Our words should be considerate so as to be forthright and not be perceived as a personal attack.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Our words should be considerate so as to be forthright and not be perceived as a personal attack.

Why ?

Is that how they all did throughout Scripture ? (God's appointed men and women)
I think not.

(not approving of anything personal either , attack or blessing; - only as the Father in heaven directs)

 

[timothyu]

Rather than .. are you trying to stir up ****
Instead... did you stub your toe?

 

[bèlla]

How do I look? (male)

Instead of saying, “Are you wearing that?”
Use: This is my favorite (hand him a better option).

Does this make me look fat? (female)

Instead of saying, “I don’t like it.”
Use: This matches your hair/eyes (point it out).

 

[timothyu]

Does this make me look fat? (female)

Don't answer. Run.

 

[Sam91]

I love the idea of the thread. Words don't come naturally to me and I end up looking vacant trying to find words that are still truthful.

I upset my 12 year old daughter when she said
'Do you think I could win a noble prize?'

I said 'No, only the very best in their field get to do that.' What does one say to that? I had to then stop her crying (she has autism) with explaining that if she wants to do that she will need to work really hard for a long time etc and then there is no guarantee because most people who have done remarkable things just won't get one.

I like to reply to someone bad mouthing people by bringing up the other persons good qualities. I was in a committee meeting yesterday and they were speaking about an ex member who is still active in the community garden (a subgroup). I piped up with 'he is such an asset and works harder than anyone else. I don't know where the garden would be without him and he has knowledge and expertise that most people don't...'

That stopped it immediately.

 

[A_Thinker]

oh?

When a disciple asked Jesus: "Master, how many in that town will be saved, a lot or a few?" (while looking over a town he was headed to to preach )
JESUS ANSWERED: "IT's NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS" ..... "just go and do as the Father told you to do" ....

Do you have a reference for that ?

 

[A_Thinker]

Does this make me look fat? (female)

I've tried ... with my wife ...
Let's see if we can find something which is more flattering.

Sometimes it works ...

 

[A_Thinker]

Instead of saying, "That's a dumb idea.";
use: "Let's think through the implications of that idea."

 

[Sam91]

What do you say to a four year old who hasn't got their own way so has said

'I hate you now mummy'

(So far I have pretended to be sad about it and explained it hurts.

Then the last 3 times I've said 'It doesn't hurt any more because you've said it too much. Saying that you hate me won't get you what you want.')

 

[timothyu]

Saying that you hate me won't get you what you want.')

Sound advice for Trump haters who want him gone lol

 

[Resha Caner]

Instead of saying, "That's a horrible idea", say, "Let's try it both ways and see what works."

 

[Chesterton]

I love the idea of the thread.

Me too. Thread reminds me of the words of St. Seraphim when it comes to words: "You can never be too gentle, you can never be too kind".

 

[Resha Caner]

Me too. Thread reminds me of the words of St. Seraphim when it comes to words: "You can never be too gentle, you can never be too kind".

Yeah, I've never been accused of being too gentle.

 

[timothyu]

A reversal of saying the usual funeral obit

The Best Obituary Ever, and the Wacky Funeral That Followed

 

[IceJad]

It's great that we are more diplomatic in our response to certain heated situations. But it's not the right thing all the time. Sometime a firm and straight answer is what is needed. And I don't mean the insults as a response.

Sometimes when something is clearly wrong we need to tell it as it is. Even if it hurts the other party. Don't beat around the bush and say there are two ways to the same thing.

Matthew 5:37
But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.

Jesus didn't held back when confronting the Pharisees or the community leaders or even His own disciples.

Matthew 16:23
Jesus turned and said to Peter, "Get behind me, Satan! You are a stumbling block to me; you do not have in mind the concerns of God, but merely human concerns."

It is great to not spurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Think and reply based on the situations in hand is all I'm saying.