Say what you will. You may agree with me, you may not. But these are things that Christians need to stop saying.
It doesn't matter whether it's your heart or not, to put people down with these words. It doesn't matter how genuine you are. It doesn't matter how you are wanting it to come across. What matters is how the other person receives it.
I'll be using 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter specifically, as a reference, 'cause the Bible says God is love. When love is described in 1 Cor. 13, replace the word love with God.
1. God will use you.
Oh, so we're nothing more than pawns on a chessboard. Slaves are used. Prostitutes are used. Children are not. We're not slaves or prostitutes, we're children of God. Love does not use others.
2. Love God more than your spouse
The only way to love God more than your spouse is to love God through your spouse. Jesus says as much as we do unto others, we do unto him, and vice versa. If you think you need to have private prayer time when your spouse needs help with the kids or something else, that’s not prayer. That’s sin.
3. God can't bless you until you get that sin out of your life.
Do you ever drive 5 miles over the speed limit? Is that a sin? Yes it is, you're breaking the law. You sin so many times in one day you don't even realize it.
4. I'm committed to Christ
That's like saying you're committed to never cheat on your spouse. But what that really means is, "Though I want to cheat on you, I won't do it 'cause I'm committed." Commitment isn't even an issue if you love God or your spouse or anyone.
5. Lord, I want to do whatever pleases you. I want to decrease; you must increase.
Imagine if you married someone who spoke like that. "I want to do whatever you want to do dear. It's not about me, it's all about you." That would be fun for about a week. "I just want to be used by you. I just want others to know how much I am committed to you." Then your heart would break.
6. God has unfinished business in my life.
What were some of Jesus's last words? "It is finished." As far as he's concerned, there's no past, present, or future. For him, it's already done.
7. We will be careful to give you all the glory God.
God actually wants to share his glory. Moses' face was shining with glory when he came down from Sinai. Paul says that if we share in Jesus's sufferings, we will share in his glory.
I could go on and on, but these are the biggest. Religion has sold us a bunch of lies about the love of God. We have been told that God is envious, distrustful, needy, angry, distant, and that He keeps a record of wrongs. Fall for these lies and it will dehumanize you. You'll waste your life trying to force-fit your dreams and desires into a religious mold and you'll be utterly miserable.
It doesn't matter whether it's your heart or not, to put people down with these words. It doesn't matter how genuine you are. It doesn't matter how you are wanting it to come across. What matters is how the other person receives it.
I'll be using 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter specifically, as a reference, 'cause the Bible says God is love. When love is described in 1 Cor. 13, replace the word love with God.
1. God will use you.
Oh, so we're nothing more than pawns on a chessboard. Slaves are used. Prostitutes are used. Children are not. We're not slaves or prostitutes, we're children of God. Love does not use others.
2. Love God more than your spouse
The only way to love God more than your spouse is to love God through your spouse. Jesus says as much as we do unto others, we do unto him, and vice versa. If you think you need to have private prayer time when your spouse needs help with the kids or something else, that’s not prayer. That’s sin.
3. God can't bless you until you get that sin out of your life.
Do you ever drive 5 miles over the speed limit? Is that a sin? Yes it is, you're breaking the law. You sin so many times in one day you don't even realize it.
4. I'm committed to Christ
That's like saying you're committed to never cheat on your spouse. But what that really means is, "Though I want to cheat on you, I won't do it 'cause I'm committed." Commitment isn't even an issue if you love God or your spouse or anyone.
5. Lord, I want to do whatever pleases you. I want to decrease; you must increase.
Imagine if you married someone who spoke like that. "I want to do whatever you want to do dear. It's not about me, it's all about you." That would be fun for about a week. "I just want to be used by you. I just want others to know how much I am committed to you." Then your heart would break.
6. God has unfinished business in my life.
What were some of Jesus's last words? "It is finished." As far as he's concerned, there's no past, present, or future. For him, it's already done.
7. We will be careful to give you all the glory God.
God actually wants to share his glory. Moses' face was shining with glory when he came down from Sinai. Paul says that if we share in Jesus's sufferings, we will share in his glory.
I could go on and on, but these are the biggest. Religion has sold us a bunch of lies about the love of God. We have been told that God is envious, distrustful, needy, angry, distant, and that He keeps a record of wrongs. Fall for these lies and it will dehumanize you. You'll waste your life trying to force-fit your dreams and desires into a religious mold and you'll be utterly miserable.
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