Last year was a very tough year for me, my mom got diagnosed with cancer and I found out I had to have a major surgery in another state-we have two little kids so this was overwhelming. I befriended a male co-worker (yes, red flags should have started to go up-but they did not). We became super close and would talk at work and text outside of work, sometimes go for a lunch time walk or grab a meal. I talked to him a lot about my anxiety issues I had about surgery, and about issues at work etc. It got to the point that I was communicating with him more than my husband and I would say things like "you are my best friend and i love our friendship" and sometimes send heart emojis and I generally looked forward to talking with him and i often told him of news before i would tell my husband (i realize another big red flag), it was as if I craved the emotional attention and it almost seems as though i had a crush on the emotional support- sometimes i think he was flirting with me and maybe some of my actions could be seen as flirty, -i am not sure at the time why i did not run like h*** but it was as if i could not see out of my fog........Then one day the fog cleared and I snapped out of it (a few months after my surgery) and realized this could head down a really scary road.... so I told him I thought our friendship had gotten inappropriate, he apologized and said he never meant to make me feel uncomfortable. We now only talk briefly at work about work items. Now all of the sudden, 9 months after I ended that inappropriate friendship/emotional affair I am overwhelmed with guilt. I told my husband that I think my friendship with this person had crossed into inappropriate territory-he just casually said he loves me and forgives me and we should talk more so i dont feel the need to search outside for emotional support. But we did not get into any details. During this time I was also drinking alot-i have since pretty much given that up as i realized it was an awful coping method.....I have confessed all of this to God and begged for forgiveness but I feel like my husband thought it was no big deal......i think if i got into all of the details it would hurt his feelings. Our marriage is on a much better path and we have been communicating more, praying more and investing more time into church. I love my husband and my heart breaks to think I was so foolish to open my heart up to someone else. I guess I am just looking for advice, or similar stories....
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