What's on your mind?

[MotherFirefly]

I have analyzed his role in mine for months, now. I know it was for good- overall. The final analysis is he was there for good. I hope I was in his life for a good purpose, too. I am haunted thinking I may not have been. But, I won't ever know. You're right, wondering is just pointless speculation.

Yes, pointless speculation can somewhat define it. But it stems much deeper. I remember I had similar feelings one time for a person that split ties. A few times a week, if I woke up earlier than usual, or was sitting in trafic, or taking a shower, my mind would just wander through the basic routine questions. I constantly worried about whether or not he thinks about me positively, or thinks about me at all. It got especially bad if I thought about the possibility of him thinking negatively about me. That would just devastate me!
Eventually, I got the opportunity to find out. I ran into him at some public place, a supermarket maybe. The three of us exchanged hellos, and they went on their way.

I later realized that I spent a lot of time, living in an unhealthy mindset, for basically no reason. The time I wasted dragging myself down was time I could have used building myself up. It was just one of those life lessons that some of us must learn the hardway. The only thing I regret now is that I didn't have someone to tell me how needless it is to worry about what other people think. Or about what could be, or could have been. It only opens the door to those dark corners.

Keep your head level, your mind high, and your heart beating strog. Life is too precious to spend time wrapped up in negativity.

 

[Galatea]

Yes, pointless speculation can somewhat define it. But it stems much deeper. I remember I had similar feelings one time for a person that split ties. A few times a week, if I woke up earlier than usual, or was sitting in trafic, or taking a shower, my mind would just wander through the basic routine questions. I constantly worried about whether or not he thinks about me positively, or thinks about me at all. It got especially bad if I thought about the possibility of him thinking negatively about me. That would just devastate me!
Eventually, I got the opportunity to find out. I ran into him at some public place, a supermarket maybe. The three of us exchanged hellos, and they went on their way.

I later realized that I spent a lot of time, living in an unhealthy mindset, for basically no reason. The time I wasted dragging myself down was time I could have used building myself up. It was just one of those life lessons that some of us must learn the hardway. The only thing I regret now is that I didn't have someone to tell me how needless it is to worry about what other people think. Or about what could be, or could have been. It only opens the door to those dark corners.

Keep your head level, your mind high, and your heart beating strog. Life is too precious to spend time wrapped up in negativity.

Thank you so much for these words. I needed them. I think I'm more bothered by the thought of coming into his life as an agent of harm than what he thinks about me. I suppose because I think of what transpired between us was a good experience, overall. I kind of tend to remember the good parts and forget the bad, and I hope he doesn't feel like it was all bad. I am probably WAY overestimating my effect in his life, lol. You're right, it is better not to worry needlessly, but just look to God through it all. I know if God meant it to be, it would have been.

 

[MotherFirefly]

Thank you so much for these words. I needed them. I think I'm more bothered by the thought of coming into his life as an agent of harm than what he thinks about me. I suppose because I think of what transpired between us was a good experience, overall. I kind of tend to remember the good parts and forget the bad, and I hope he doesn't feel like it was all bad. I am probably WAY overestimating my effect in his life, lol. You're right, it is better not to worry needlessly, but just look to God through it all. I know if God meant it to be, it would have been.

Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk

I have the ability to type a lot of things and you can kind of pick and choose what to read and still get the gist of what I'm saying.
Perhaps I need to rethink my personal stand against oversimplifying what I want to say. Lol

 

[Jack of Spades]

While yes, we are blessed that our problems lie more in mental contemplation than in physical need, sometimes the realization of mortality can be just as devastating to an adult as a child losing his favorite toy.

In the end, we all worry what pictures our legacy will paint, and the greatest boon of an artist is knowing the difference between a doodle and a work in progress.

True, true. As insignificant as my problems might sound in some other context, they still have the potentiality of destroying me.

That's a very good metaphora. I've been thinking of similar one with a heavy piece of rock, and a heavy piece of rock with an uncut diamond inside it. For practical purposes, what makes them different (from the point of view of the owner, that is) is the decision to clean the diamond of the rock, that makes it immesurably more valuable compared to just a heavy piece of rock.

 

[Galatea]

Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk

I have the ability to type a lot of things and you can kind of pick and choose what to read and still get the gist of what I'm saying.
Perhaps I need to rethink my personal stand against oversimplifying what I want to say. Lol

Thanks, you're very kind. I don't know why I am constantly surprised at how sweet everyone is on this site. It is a Christian site, after all. I've been out of church for a while and miss having a church family. Talking to people here kind of reminds me of having a church family.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I have faith Christ will not be proven false. We walk by faith, not by sight.

Exactly. We cannot absolutely, 100% prove God exists and that Christ arose. That's why it is called faith. We choose to believe it is true, and that it is the Holy Spirit who guides us to believe that very thing, because within us He testifies that Christ is Son of God and died for us.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I don't know why I am constantly surprised at how sweet everyone is on this site. It is a Christian site, after all.

As it should be, Miss Galatea (you possess a cool-sounding user name, by the way ^-^ ). We believers have spent far too much time judging and insulting one another and those on the outside in all sorts of passive-aggressive or outright cruel ways, already.

 

[Galatea]

As it should be, Miss Galatea (you possess a cool-sounding user name, by the way ^-^ ). We believers have spent far too much time judging and insulting one another and those on the outside in all sorts of passive-aggressive or outright cruel ways, already.

I know people online can be kind of rough, so it is refreshing to meet so many people online who are really nice people.
Thank you, it is from Greek mythology, the myth of Pygmalion and Galatea.
I think a problem with the church nowadays is speaking the truth, but not in love. Many people outside the faith get turned off of God altogether by strident voices within the church. And infighting doesn't help. I heard a pastor once say that if we as Christians can't agree on every bit of doctrine, we CAN agree on Christ- His beauty and what He has done for us. If we can fellowship around Him, we can get along better, regardless of which sect we belong.
I like your quote about knights, very chivalrous.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I heard a pastor once say that if we as Christians can't agree on every bit of doctrine, we CAN agree on Christ- His beauty and what He has done for us. If we can fellowship around Him, we can get along better, regardless of which sect we belong.

I wholly agree on that one.

I like your quote about knights, very chivalrous.

Thank you. I must always try to live up that standard. ^-^

 

[Galatea]

It's a good standard to have. From what I have read of your posts, you seem to be a real gentleman.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

I had the scariest dream last night

I walk into the kitchen to check something and there was nothing there, so I turned my back to it and started to walk out the door

All of a sudden, all the cupboard doors start aggressively swinging back and forth and thing flew out of the cupboards in the dimlight room

I turned ready to run in shock and then I felt an invisible force grab onto my shoulder to pull me

I screamed in my deep voice AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

As in reality my eyes shot open and I wasn't sure whether I had actually yelled or not

I woke up and I was in the most awkward contortioned sleeping position with my head into my chest at the base of my pillow!

 

[EyesOfKohl]

It's a good standard to have. From what I have read of your posts, you seem to be a real gentleman.

A pity mate, you should know from all the threads on here girls don't like gentlemen, you have to be a bad guy

@SarahsKnight

 

[Galatea]

Not true, gentlemen are rare commodities- and anything rare is more valuable.

 

[Swan7]

Reminds me of searching for that diamond in the rough Oh, Disney!

 

[MotherFirefly]

A pity mate, you should know from all the threads on here girls don't like gentlemen, you have to be a bad guy

@SarahsKnight

I am sure your tongue was planted firmly in your cheek while typing this, however I have seen this used as a legitmate excuse. So to those I say, perhaps the issue isn't that you have gentleman-like qualities, but that those qualities may be tainted with other less desirable ones. Such as under/over- confidence.

 

[Toro]

A pity mate, you should know from all the threads on here girls don't like gentlemen, you have to be a bad guy

@SarahsKnight

You're right. Girls love bad boys.

What you want though is a woman and they like men.

 

[CodyFaith]

I sometimes stare at the sun too long (especially if it's a nice sunset)

badboys4lyfe

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

The biggest lie my childhood cartoons have told me is that women are not attracted men like this guy...

 

[Jack of Spades]

*History-geek mode on*

When someone talks about gentlemen, I just picture black and white images of 1800's British aristocrats in my mind.

*History-geek mode off*

Nevermind, everyone continue...

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

*History-geek mode on*

When someone talks about gentlemen, I just picture black and white images of 1800's British aristocrats in my mind.

*History-geek mode off*

Nevermind, everyone continue...

Maybe nowadays a gentleman's reputation has been tarnished thanks to the Supreme Gentleman...