From what we know, we are judged by our works, justified by our works, and that they are part of making our faith alive. All three of those statements are true because they are statements literally ripped out of Scripture.
Yes, they are "ripped," not consistent without the totality of Scripture on the subject.
First, works do not make our faith alive, except in the sense of making it manifest that it is alive, justifying one as having saving faith, which is the sense in which we are justified by our works. For everything you voluntarily do is a result of what you truly believe, at least at the moment of action. We are contending here as a result of believing in our doctrine, and that it warrant defending.
And in James 2, which is where you take all your text from, the issue is that of what manner of faith justifies, one that is inert - which is not faith - or effectual: "What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?" (James 2:14)f effectual, "Yea, a man may say, Thou hast faith, and I have works: shew me thy faith without thy works, and I will shew thee my faith by my works." (James 2:18)
It is the one that shew their faith by their works that actually have faith. For as Peter testifies, God purifies the heart by faith, (Acts 10:43; 15:9) referring to the faith which was expressed in baptism after regeneration. (Acts 10:44-47)
It is faith in the heart that appropriates justification, but which must be the manner of faith that confesses the Lord if it is salvific, and thus salvation is promised not simply to those who believe, but in the light of their confession of the Lord Jesus, which is in word and in deed. Those who have not the latter fruit do not have true faith.
That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. (Romans 10:9-10)
A controversy arises with the statement by James that,
Was not Abraham our father justified by works, when he had offered Isaac his son upon the altar? Seest thou how faith wrought with his works, and by works was faith made perfect? And the scripture was fulfilled which saith, Abraham believed God, and it was imputed unto him for righteousness: and he was called the Friend of God. Ye see then how that by works a man is justified, and not by faith only. (James 2:21-24)
Yet if James is speaking of justification in the same sense as Moses (And he believed in the Lord; and he counted it to him for righteousness. Genesis 15:6) and Paul (For if Abraham were justified by works, he hath whereof to glory; but not before God. For what saith the scripture? Abraham believed God, and it was counted unto him for righteousness. Romans 4:2-3) then we have a clear contradiction. Which is not because Paul is only referring to the works of the Law, for that is representative of all systems of justification by actual merit: "for if there had been a law given which could have given life, verily righteousness should have been by the law." (Galatians 3:21)
But instead, while Abraham was certainly a good man before his act of faith in God to do what he was helpless to do, it was his faith that was counted/imputed for righteousness, nor was it because he was regenerated at that time, but,
"being fully persuaded that, what he had promised, he was able also to perform. And therefore it was imputed to him for righteousness." (Romans 4:21-22)
However, James places Abraham's justification in Gn. 22 with the offering of Issac, thereby leaving Abraham as not being justified before that, if speaking in the same sense as being salvifically counted as righteous as Paul is, in contrasting justification" by the merit of one's works versus faith, and being "accepted in the Beloved, and "made to sit in Heaven together with Him" by faith, on His account.
But contextually James is dealing with effectual, saving faith, versus mere profession, and in the sense of a confirmed saving Abraham was justified by works in Gn. 22, having a complete faith, which was the fulfillment of the declaration of his justified faith in Gn. 15:6, as true as that was.
For while faith, not the merit of works, whereby the heart sees the washing of regeneration and sanctification and justification, (Acts 10:43-47; 15:7-9; 1Co. 6:11; Titus 3:5) it is only effectually faith that does so, and thus salvation is promised to those who believe and to those who believe and obey, and excludes those who manifestly do not.
Now to him that worketh is the reward not reckoned of grace, but of debt. But to him that worketh not, but believeth on him that justifieth the ungodly, his faith is counted for righteousness. Even as David also describeth the blessedness of the man, unto whom God imputeth righteousness without works, (Romans 4:4-6)
Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; (Titus 3:5)
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: (Ephesians 2:8)
My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. (John 10:27-28)
Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. (Matthew 5:3)
Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. (Matthew 25:34-36)
(For not the hearers of the law are just before God, but the doers of the law shall be justified. (Romans 2:13)
That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. (Romans 8:4-5)
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. (Romans 8:13-14)
For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)
For the earth which drinketh in the rain that cometh oft upon it, and bringeth forth herbs meet for them by whom it is dressed, receiveth blessing from God: But that which beareth thorns and briers is rejected, and is nigh unto cursing; whose end is to be burned. But, beloved, we are persuaded better things of you, and things that accompany salvation, though we thus speak. (Hebrews 6:7-9)
But Christ as a son over his own house; whose house are we, if we hold fast the confidence and the rejoicing of the hope firm unto the end. (Hebrews 3:6)
Take heed, brethren, lest there be in any of you an evil heart of unbelief, in departing from the living God. (Hebrews 3:12)
For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end; (Hebrews 3:14)
For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. (Hebrews 10:26-27)
Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the saving of the soul. (Hebrews 10:38-39)
He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches; He that overcometh shall not be hurt of the second death. (Revelation 2:11)
Blessed are they that do his commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. (Revelation 22:14)
Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me hath everlasting life. (John 6:47)
"The fact is that salvation isn't about heaven or hell, or forgiveness. It's about a relationship to God. It's about becoming like God."
Which is a false dilemma, for salvation is about forgiveness, and being saved from Hell to Heaven, with a faith that effects characteristic holiness and obedience, and will finally result in being not simply presently being the sons of God, but that "when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is." (1 John 3:2)
The idea of souls having to become practically perfect in character in this life or in Purgatory in order to see and be with God in Heaven is contrary to what Scripture teaches, including wherever it manifestly speaks about the next place of believers after this life. (2Co. 5:8; Phil. 1:21-13; Acts 7:59; Lk. 23:39; 1Ths. 4:17)