Well, you can certainly reject authority (the whole civil disobedience thing), but that may not gain you much. I've run into this attitude quite often that democracy makes obedience a choice, but that is not true. If you look at some foundational thinkers like John Locke they deal with the issue of choosing to obey and reject such a notion.
People seem to think that voting for a leader means they are choosing authority, but that is not the case. It is why we often speak of separating the person from the office. The executive branch of government always has police authority over you. What you are choosing is the person who will execute that authority.
Here's where I'd accuse you of not thinking though this subject conceptually.
Authority isn't a thing, just like freedom, country, love, government, etc... are not things.
In this case, authority is a claim of one party having a power to give orders to other. And here's where we really run into some very troublesome moral implications of such ideology.
If you strip away all of the current "societal presets" and evaluate what we have... we have a collection of individuals that occupy space on this planet. They do vary in their abilities, but NONE would have inherent "authority" to give orders to other. It would be absurd. There are no inherent reason for a person X order around person Y.
That's why societal dynamics isn't build on authority, but rather on engaging in contractual agreement and cooperative co-existence. Contracting with government actually means that one is contracting with every single member of society to play by certain rules. It's not "government" that's the authority over everyone. Government isn't anymore of an "authority" than a referee is authority in a basketball game. Government is merely a facilitator and arbiter of disagreements, and it's a contractual enforcer of societal rules.
But, "Government" isn't some omnious entity. It's comprised of people to whom we delegate certain responsibilities... so that we wouldn't have to do these individually. These people have "authority" simply because as people we contract and delegate certain responsibilities.
And that's where I see you really are confused about the contractual nature of any modern society.
It's sometimes easier to think in terms of physical law. I can't simply choose not to obey the laws of physics.
Again, laws of physics is a construct of human mind. There are no written things out there that every atom must "obey". What we refer to as "laws of physics" are simply certain consistency of nature that we observe and record as a "law". These are not prescriptive. These are descriptive, and these are always contextual. You don't "obey" physical laws, and it's certainly not a choice

. You live in the universe where we have some constants when it comes to behavior of matter.
When it comes to belief, people are playing with Pascal's Wager (as much as they may deny it). If God exists, choosing to ignore him isn't going to help. It doesn't negate his authority. The church, on the other hand, is admittedly a better bet. The current western structure allows you to ignore church authority with little to no consequence.
Don't you see that it's very much like the "Emperor's new clothes" type of argument. The clothes are invisible to stupid people, and the makers of the elaborate gown have the authority to tell you all about it.
But the Emperor is naked as to how we get to observe the reality. Thus any talk about "authority" in this context is absurd. Hence, it was a useful political tool in the past, but we have better information and understanding. I wouldn't fall for the "you can't see because you are stupid" type of argument. The king is simply naked, and pretending that there are clothes makes it very awkward.
That's what I'm trying to do, and I think authority plays a role. I get the impression you think otherwise. So what would a "church" look like where no one has decision-making power? Or, for what tasks would you grant decision-making power?
You understand that a church is a voluntary function, right? Authority in the church thus should be a function, and not a hierarchical power to give orders. Most of the problems we have with runaway politics in scope of our society comes with this idea of inherent "kingly" type of power that comes with some office. It's problematic in the scope of how all of this works... through us contracting with each other to co-opt some structure with delegating responsibilities, and specializing in our strengths.
Church community shouldn't be much different, since it's a microcosm of a nation. A family shouldn't be different, because it's a microcosm of the community.
Approaching these issue with ideas of almost dictatorial authoritarianism is where most of our problems come from. People think they have some sort of "divine right" to order other people around as opposed to understanding that it's more of a responsibility to the people who grant them certain delegated responsibilities and not the other way around.