What's on your mind?

[SarahsKnight]

When it comes to certain things, following social norm is totally fine and makes no difference in the long run. But it's annoying and stressful for people who do follow social norm to the minutiae of the detail to expect the same from others. People who follow social norm usually can't wrap their minds around people who do not but rather choose to do their own thing, and unfortunately, they're usually given a hard time about it.

My niece is dealing with this very problem concerning her up and coming wedding in the spring. It's getting so bad she's literally considering just going down to the courthouse and tying the knot there. It'll be a darn shame if she actually does that because deep down inside I know she wants to have an actual wedding. What needs to happen here is this, she needs to finally learn to say "No" to everything she doesn't want that everyone else is insisting/expecting she do and brush off everyone's butt-hurt feelings, which is precisely what I told her. ...Welcome to adulthood, welcome to having in-laws, welcome to this-is-forever married life.

Amen, Miss Spaulding. And I'm glad you let your niece know that.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

She already knew it, she just needed someone to actually say it to her face. Now, whether she decides to do it, that's her deal, but I hope she does. Either she learns to be crunchy or she remains a doormat. The latter is going to make for a stressful and exasperated life, so she better wise up.

This is one of the many, MANY downsides to marrying so young... you don't know how to handle the pressure. I'm not saying there aren't young folks who can or have, but that is rarely the case.

 

[mojoboy31]

She already knew it, she just needed someone to actually say it to her face. Now, whether she decides to do it, that's her deal, but I hope she does. Either she learns to be crunchy or she remains a doormat. The latter is going to make for a stressful and exasperated life, so she better wise up.

This is one of the many, MANY downsides to marrying so young... you don't know how to handle the pressure. I'm not saying there aren't young folks who can or have, but that is rarely the case.

Yeah, if she doesn't have "her wedding" how she's dreamed it, she'd gonna regret it for a loooooong time.

I guess it's one of those things you have to learn by doing, and you never know what you can handle until you have to.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Right. I agree.

Oh well, we'll see I guess.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

 

[mojoboy31]

Hey, hey. What's up?

 

[LadyOfMystery]

Hey, hey. What's up?

Hi, hi. Nothing much, about to voice chat with my bestie. Whats up with you?

 

[MehGuy]

Watching early HDTV broadcasts from the early 1990s. Amazing how modern it looks, and it's nice to see clarity of events that happened in the 20th century.

 

[Bumble Bee]

I have 3 pen pals now

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Let's write her a message, here goes, let's see....

 

[EyesOfKohl]

I have 3 pen pals now

Penpals are awesome. I started penpalling when I was a teenager and still keep in contact with some many many many years later now

 

[Bumble Bee]

Penpals are awesome. I started penpalling when I was a teenager and still keep in contact with some many many many years later now

Mine are a friend from college, my aunt back home, and the pastor's wife from the church I used to do youth group at.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

 

[mojoboy31]

Ahh, nice.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

Night, everyone...I've been trying to go to sleep for the last 2 hours. Now, I'm off to give it another try.

 

[SeekerOfChrist94]

I just ate cake for breakfast.

 

[William67]

I just ate cake for breakfast.

Ha, I had leftover pizza. lol

 

[Swan7]

I just ate cake for breakfast.

 

[Swan7]

OMM: Hoping I don't lose my job if I say Merry Christmas...

 

[William67]

OMM: Hoping I don't lose my job if I say Merry Christmas...

Why would you lose your job?