Over here marriage weighs little, it's a formality to establish the father, especially compared to living in the same apartment (which in turn is not possible in the long run as it gets more and more expensive as the years go by, housing is the actual expense). Even so I see marriage and finding a wife as very important now, haven't always insisted on it. My children were born into marriage, of course, I proposed a year after meeting her, my ex-wife. Anyway my point is: I'd take responsibility if I were given it, could cut down a bit on the expensive and time-consuming theological research I'm doing and focus more on Ancient Languages first. How would someone else's not-aborted child enter my life? I'd welcome it, but how would it happen exactly? Trying to wrap my mind around what kind of males (may (and will)) adopt a child when the original Mother decided not to abort just because of feeling/knowing the baby will get well taken care of?! I.e. how rich do the males need to be? Adopting then actually requires the kind of patriarchal system where the male - whomever's husband (or ready to take care of a child by himself initially) makes a sizable profit from work or a Sole trader or Co.
