I see no reason to make parenthood a matter of obedience and disobedience. My daughter (now 22) has never in her whole life disobeyed me, because I have never in her life laid down the law in this way. The only rule I set is that she should treat me the way she wants to be treated. When she was old enough to understand I told her that if she were to lie to me, or to disrespect me, I would do the same to her. I said she could use what language she liked outside the house, but to keep it civil in the house unless she wanted to learn a few new words from me. Funnily enough, she has never rebelled. I have tried to accept that she is her own person, with the right to make her own choices. Wherever she could safely make those choices for herself, I let her make them. Where it was not safe, I made them. And where we could decide together, we did.
She has never sinned against me because I have never set her up to fail in that way. I don't really see the point. Life is going to be hard enough on her, without beginning that harshness at home. I see myself as her first and greatest ally in life, not her controller or dictator.