This thread -_-
Not that this was your intent but it really just seems to be kicking up some kind of "watch out for men" and "get those heathens" kind of attitude.
Can relate. I once *kind of* dated a Christian girl who initiated conversation (whether or not she was actually pursuing me is questionable), and for some reason thought it was a good idea to start sexually flirting with me, bringing up all kinds of sexually explicit subjects, etc, without my invitation and later after I hadn't come down hard on her with the heathen hammer (because I thought it was natural but a bit misguided), she turned on me and started accusing me as being some sort of a heathen myself. I did like her a lot for other reasons, but thankfully we never got so far as having had sex since she seemed to have some sort of psychological problem that could have caused us both a lot of trouble in the long run.
The reason I bring that up is to provide a little contrast. Not that you personally have done this, but why should we think that men are evil because they're interested in, God forbid, something He created and made men to do, whereas anything up to and including stabbing folks in their backs with our words, judgments and accusations is considered to be a-OK? There's just something oddly sick about that sort of thinking, and what I think we should not condone is unfaithful, unloving treatment, including using people for sex, and for that reason it is smart to wait.
As for some of the other posts here, and I'm kind of just putting this out there in an indirect manner, I have a short story for consideration. There's a friend who I've known since grade school, who was a christian when he was a child but later departed and dabbled in some other religions. Needless to say, he didn't agree with the generally accepted conservative christian ethic, he met a girl in his mid 20's, and they cohabited. At that point I was faced with a choice. I could have treated him as if I were the boss of his life, destroyed their relationship, my relationship with him, and walked away beaming with the righteousness of a bright and shining pharisee, but I didn't. I chose to treat him decently. Now, years later, those two are officially married with a child, and he has reconverted back to Christianity. Did I make the wrong decision?
I don't think so, and the following comes to mind:
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith. -Gal 6:10
Also consider that the Samaritans were considered heretics by the established order back in Jesus' day, and what sort of example did He leave for us concerning them?
P.S. I think LOTF had some good advice.