I hate my ex husband

[peaceplease]

My ex husband is a terrible father. He has his girlfriend pick my child up for the weekend and he doesn't come home to see her. He sends nasty text messages to me about things because he feels bad for being a pitiful father.

I hate him. He hurts my child and I hate him. Every time she cries that she spent the weekend with his girlfriend, I hate him more. Every time my child asks me why her father doesn't want to see her, I hate him more still. I am in a cycle that is not like me and I can't get out.

My child is my entire world. When he hurts her all I can think about is how much I hate him because I can't do anything to mend her broken heart. She always has me and we do all kinds of great things together but how do you explain to a small child that her father is just a piece of ...well you know.

I hate him so much it keeps me up at night- hating him for hurting my child.

 

[Officer]

Praying for a solution to your problems and that your ex husband change his lazy and uncaring ways.

 

[Ash8676]

Lord, lift all her anger away and let her know you will help her. Show her ex, how he hurts his daughter by not being there and help him to change his way. Be there for her and her daughter, show them you are listening and that you will be there every step of the way. Send her and her daughter; your love, peace, comfort and strength. I pray for this, in Jesus name, Amen.

 

[Stephanie7]

Heavenly Father, thank You for her honesty and her will to come on this board and ask for prayer. LORD, You know what she is needing and how painful it is for her to watch her child being ignored because of the short comings of the father. I ask LORD that You will reach him at heart level, so he may know and understand how this is hurting his little girl. Teach him to take responsibility as a father and not flaunt or pass on the care of his daughter to another woman in his life. Heal the broken hearted and the wounds of the past, and present, and help forgiveness to come, In Jesus Name, Amen

 

[christsoccer]

My ex husband is a terrible father. He has his girlfriend pick my child up for the weekend and he doesn't come home to see her. He sends nasty text messages to me about things because he feels bad for being a pitiful father.

I hate him. He hurts my child and I hate him. Every time she cries that she spent the weekend with his girlfriend, I hate him more. Every time my child asks me why her father doesn't want to see her, I hate him more still. I am in a cycle that is not like me and I can't get out.

My child is my entire world. When he hurts her all I can think about is how much I hate him because I can't do anything to mend her broken heart. She always has me and we do all kinds of great things together but how do you explain to a small child that her father is just a piece of ...well you know.

I hate him so much it keeps me up at night- hating him for hurting my child.

Praying for this bad situation

 

[Eurasia]

Praying for you to surrender your anger and hurt to God. We had a really inspiring sermon at church recently. Our pastor spoke about breathing and how we inhale oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide. In life we have things that are good for us that we inhale like oxygen these include God's peace, joy, contentment and freedom. While we have things in our life we need to exhale like the carbon dioxide which is bad for us.. This would include worry, hurt, doubt, unforgiveness and fear.

Lord, I lift this lovely lady and her child I pray she exhales all the bad things which are leaving her feeling hurt and angry and pray she inhales the good things you have in store for her life like your peace, joy, contentment and forgiveness and courage. Thank you in Jesus precious name.. Amen..

 

[tturt]

Please forgive him for your own sake and your child's. You can do it with Yahweh's help.

Praying for Yahweh's wisdom, guidance, healing, peace.

 

[saved24]

Praying. God bless.

 

[nicedream]

it's easy to hate someone who is deliberately hurtful. i'm praying for your daughter, but also for you to find release from the anger you are feeling towards your ex. he holds you in his power when he makes you angry, and that might be what he wants. don't give him that power over you. give all these feelings to God. when He deals with people, things *really* start to change. He said, "it is mine to avenge," and He protects single mothers.

 

[achristian2]

Praying

 

[PopesFollower]

Hatred does not hurt your ex husband. It only hurts you. He is out having fun and you are at home with your hate. Hate is a destructive emotion. Let him go live his life and you start living your life.

Now, on another topic, you say he is hurting your child. What does that mean exactly? Do you just think he is hurting him/her because he is hurting you, or do you have evidence that he is actually really hurting the child? That is a serious charge.

 

[peaceplease]

He upsets her. She does not understand that he's a piece of....and it's not her fault.

 

[JacquelineDeane55]

I thought that hatred was a sin.

Galatians 5: 19-20 -- Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

Surely you can find some love for your husband despite what he has done to you.

 

[SaphireOwl]

Keep everything that he or his girlfriend put in writing.

Do you have an attorney? I'd hope you'd seek some sort of legal counseling to see if there is anything you can do to amend the shared custody order.

If he's picking up your child but he's never home to see her, and he hurts her in some way, physically or mentally, I'd think that could be a case to have his custody revisited by the courts.

If you can't afford an attorney certainly there must be a child services or family services office that can assist you.


Don't hate. It eats you up because you commit your energy to all that negativity you feel about someone else being who they are. And that is something you can never change.

Imagine if who he is calls you to hate him how bad it must feel to be him.

Pray for him. You loved him once. He gave you your beautiful child. When you look at her you see part of him. Don't hate him because part of him will always be part of your child. Pray that he becomes a better man and a better father. Because something inside him has disconnected from remembering when he looks at his daughter he sees his legacy to the world.

God be with you all.

My ex husband is a terrible father. He has his girlfriend pick my child up for the weekend and he doesn't come home to see her. He sends nasty text messages to me about things because he feels bad for being a pitiful father.

I hate him. He hurts my child and I hate him. Every time she cries that she spent the weekend with his girlfriend, I hate him more. Every time my child asks me why her father doesn't want to see her, I hate him more still. I am in a cycle that is not like me and I can't get out.

My child is my entire world. When he hurts her all I can think about is how much I hate him because I can't do anything to mend her broken heart. She always has me and we do all kinds of great things together but how do you explain to a small child that her father is just a piece of ...well you know.

I hate him so much it keeps me up at night- hating him for hurting my child.

 

[LoricaLady]

We are told to love our enemies, to not exchange insult for insult or rancor for rancor. You have been terribly hurt, and in the way you seem to naturally be the most vulnerable, through your child. Yet there is help and hope.

"Pray for those who spitefully abuse you." Instead of getting all upset, and incidentally harming your health since hostility is shown to weaken our immunological system, you could be getting closer to Messiah and be getting blessings instead of the curses that hatred can bring.

I have tried this technique before and it worked... I really felt very hostile toward someone who had hurt me. I learned to pray for him every time I thought of a hurtful thing. To be honest, I hated praying for him! Lol. However, knowing that I would have to pray for him if I got on the mental treadmill of rehearsing how he had hurt me, helped me to get off that treadmill more and more as time went by.

Messiah is there for you. Pray for your ex. Pray for your child. Pray for yourself for peace. Also praise. We are told to praise, in the Bible, far more than we are told to praise. Sing praise songs. Read the stories of how singing praise is spiritual warfare, as seen with David and Saul, Paul and Silas, Jehoshaphat.

How much are we supposed to pray? That would be a lot of prayer. Well, we are told "Pray without ceasing." So, you won't be overdoing it!

Praying for a spirit of praise and prayer to be given to you that more and more replaces, and finally extinguishes, your hostility toward you husband so that you have great peace.
You have the weapons you need.

 

[brinny]

My ex husband is a terrible father. He has his girlfriend pick my child up for the weekend and he doesn't come home to see her. He sends nasty text messages to me about things because he feels bad for being a pitiful father.

I hate him. He hurts my child and I hate him. Every time she cries that she spent the weekend with his girlfriend, I hate him more. Every time my child asks me why her father doesn't want to see her, I hate him more still. I am in a cycle that is not like me and I can't get out.

My child is my entire world. When he hurts her all I can think about is how much I hate him because I can't do anything to mend her broken heart. She always has me and we do all kinds of great things together but how do you explain to a small child that her father is just a piece of ...well you know.

I hate him so much it keeps me up at night- hating him for hurting my child.

Bless yer heart...praying that God ministers to you and your li'l one in spite of what is going on, and how very heartwrenching it is. Praying for your protection and your child's, and that God defends both of you and your household. May nothing that is meant to hurt you or your child or household come to fruition. May God's blessings and inexplicable favor and His peace and joy fill you to overflowing and His grace that supersedes ALL things, be poured out on you and may He HIMSELF guide you safely thought these stormy waters. Father may it be so, in Jesus name, amen (((hug)))

 

[peaceplease]

Thank you everybody. I'm trying with little success. Every time I don't hate him for a minute he goes and does something idiotic and makes me mad all over again.

 

[brinny]

Stay calm dear heart. You have every right to be concerned about his behavior and how it's effecting your li'l one and you. Try not to focus on his behavior as the barometer of how you are feeling or yer gonna be bouncin' around like a tennis ball. GET your mind on something that gives you inspiration and thus an "oasis of sanity" in the topsy turvy world he attempts to impose on you. Remember to stop, and breeeeeathe when yu find yourself getting caught up in his drama. Praying for you for extraordinary wisdom, discernment, clarity, and God's protection for your daughter, you, and your household, dear heart. (((hug)))

 

[brinny]

....by the way, hang in there...yer quite a survivor (((hug)))

 

[puppii]

My ex husband is a terrible father. He has his girlfriend pick my child up for the weekend and he doesn't come home to see her. He sends nasty text messages to me about things because he feels bad for being a pitiful father.

I hate him. He hurts my child and I hate him. Every time she cries that she spent the weekend with his girlfriend, I hate him more. Every time my child asks me why her father doesn't want to see her, I hate him more still. I am in a cycle that is not like me and I can't get out.

My child is my entire world. When he hurts her all I can think about is how much I hate him because I can't do anything to mend her broken heart. She always has me and we do all kinds of great things together but how do you explain to a small child that her father is just a piece of ...well you know.

I hate him so much it keeps me up at night- hating him for hurting my child.

I hate my ex too. I try so hard not to hate him because of what he's done to me. I know unforgiveness will consume us but I don't have great self control in this area.

It's been almost 15 years I should get over it and move on.

I find myself looking back on the terrible things he did to me and hating him entirely from my very core of existence.

I know this is wrong.

Sometimes I can rise above it and look passed his faults but not very often. Most of the time when I think about him I think about how much I wish bad things would happen to him and that he would pay over and over because of how he treated me and my family.

I'm going to pray that we both find forgiveness in our hearts and heal from these negative forces that threaten our freedom from unfavorable influence.

I pray that we both seek and find absolution. That we find security in the comfort of His love. Teach us to surrender and let go of harsh memories that inspire despair.