A powerful letter from the wife of a inappropriate content addict...

[Michie]

"Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of inappropriate contentography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating – not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression. Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie...

A powerful letter from the wife of a inappropriate content addict...

 

[vercingetorix82]

I told her this was a private matter and she goes and tell it to the world

She also watched with me. I bet she didn't tell you that.

 

[Michie]

I told her this was a private matter and she goes and tell it to the world

She also watched with me. I bet she didn't tell you that.

How about addressing the OP instead of making cheap jokes about a serious problem?

 

[vercingetorix82]

Oh but it is no joke. This is something we struggle with. We even been to counseling. It's not really that I'm a inappropriate content addict, it's that she just doesn't rock my boat anymore. I tell her if she would just get back in shape I wouldn't need the inappropriate content anymore. And she does watches with me.

 

[Sword of the Lord]

Oh but it is no joke. This is something we struggle with. We even been to counseling. It's not really that I'm a inappropriate content addict, it's that she just doesn't rock my boat anymore. I tell her if she would just get back in shape I wouldn't need the inappropriate content anymore. And she does watches with me.

What do you gain by trolling Christian Forums?

 

[Michie]

What do you gain by trolling Christian Forums?

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[JBMM]

A powerful letter from the wife of a inappropriate content addict...

To be honest I used to look at inappropriate contentography. Then I realized it was desensitizing me and making me see women as objects. I felt horrible when I realized this. I was judging women by their breast size, for instance. Terrible way to look at life.

inappropriate contentography is a real problem. I gave it up, and so should everybody.

 

[Michie]

I'll just post the letter.

This was passed on to me from a priest who received it from one of his parishioners.

Dear Father:

I write to you in an anonymous fashion because if I were to tell you who I am, I would be ashamed to come to the confessional, to Mass, to the place where I am gratefully being nourished. I thank you for the wonderful priest you are and for the pastoring you provide to all of us.

Anonymously in your pews are women holding families together against the destructive forces of inappropriate contentography on our husbands and sons. We are hurting and ashamed, tolerating – not enjoying – marriages and dealing with our inadequacies and depression. Personally, I feel like the 15 years of my marriage before my discovery were one big lie; that I have been “duped” by an otherwise faithful, church-involved, Knights of Columbus husband. In the three years since my awareness was heightened, I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this. That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core; my very sense of who I am and what I am worth is utterly destroyed. My world was turned upside down and I know if not for our children, I would have left the marriage. Unbecoming of me, I daydream about that day when I might still.

I am certain you are hearing it in the confessional from the husbands; my own husband has now been forthcoming in his challenges with inappropriate contentography and about his frequent confessions of the sin. He initially felt great relief that I knew and somehow thought that my knowing would give him greater resistance against the temptation. Unfortunately, I think it just makes him deceive and “hide” more. If this doesn’t destroy our marriage, I fear my “response” will.

The other side is the woman’s side: our sin is the profound anger and inability to forgive because it doesn’t stop; how do we trust it even would? Some husbands regret their failure to stand up against this temptation; many do not even think there’s a problem, but it has them held captive. I have heard another woman say she would rather her husband were doing drugs; at least there are programs to get past that demon. I am confident this is affecting my husband’s ability to do his job, and I imagine it is threatening the security of his employment. My now sinful thoughts and giving in to anger; my energy expended trying to keep our home free of the temptations that come with every latest technology; my “revengeful spending” – these are not what God has called me to. I constantly replay Jesus on the cross saying “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they do,” but I answer myself with a “but, no one told Jesus they would love him and honor him all the days of their life.”

I have sons who serve at the altar, and I fear for them and their futures; for their future wives. I try to teach my teenage boys about purity, the value of their sexuality, and the Theology of the Body, but they know the magazines and websites of their father, who is a “good man” and “receives the sacraments”—so I am just the “old-fashioned” prude of a mother. I feel constantly under attack, and it doesn’t seem there will be an end to my hurting.

I wish there were a support group for the women suffering this way, but we are all so ashamed that we can’t satisfy our husbands enough, and afraid to make it public and destroy our husbands’ reputations, that none of us would come. We simply suffer and die inside alone. I am not offering any advice or asking you to do anything about this. Perhaps you can just say a prayer now and then for the wives in your parish trying to hold a family together. Thank you for tolerating my rambling here.

Thank you.​

 

[Michie]

Further Reading

**What Is Wrong With inappropriate content?
**inappropriate content Hurts Others
**The Science Of Internet inappropriate content - What Happens To The Brain & The Body
**The Cost of inappropriate content
**inappropriate contentography Research
**inappropriate content Is More Addictive Than Cocaine or Heroin!
**inappropriate content & Support For Same-Sex Marriage
**If You Aren't Convinced inappropriate content Is Destroying Our Culture - Read This!

 

[JBMM]

Thanks, Michie. It's a real problem.

 

[gusord]

I too have a problem with inappropriate contentography at different levels starting
with being infatuated with women in high heel boots and at times
escalating to nudity. I have had this problem my whole life as I am
67 and I have erectile dysfunction.
Me and my wife have an effective sex life in spite of the ED. My
wife wears lingerie in the bedroom to spice up our sex life.
My hope and prayer is that my thoughts about women would be
confined to the bedroom with my wife.
I put this here because I cant post anything.


gusord

 

[Rhamiel]

I too have a problem with inappropriate contentography at different levels starting
with being infatuated with women in high heel boots and at times
escalating to nudity. I have had this problem my whole life as I am
67 and I have erectile dysfunction.
Me and my wife have an effective sex life in spite of the ED. My
wife wears lingerie in the bedroom to spice up our sex life.
My hope and prayer is that my thoughts about women would be
confined to the bedroom with my wife.
I put this here because I cant post anything.


gusord

may the Lord bless you and your wife
may He keep your heart pure
I pray that you have the strength to resist temptations and stay faithful to your wife both in action and in thought

thank you for sharing your problems here, we are honored that you feel comfrotable enough to speak in such a candid fashion

 

[Tigg]

A powerful letter from the wife of a inappropriate content addict...

Thanks. Totally sad. And inappropriate content hurts no one huh. Anyone doing inappropriate content, IMO, also desplays lack of self control, no empathy, and just plain sick-o in my book.

Prayers for all those women and children, who deserve so much better.

 

[Sword of the Lord]

Why did the priest share the letter to begin with?

 

[Michie]

I imagine he was given permission. It is still anonymous.

It's a serious problem that needs to be brought to light & discussed.

 

[Rhamiel]

Prayers for all those women and children, who deserve so much better.

lol do not leave out us guys in your prayers

there is a tendency to view male sexuality as preditory and female sexuality as passive. This is not the case

you can find noble love and fidelity in both men and women
you can find abuse and perversion in both men and women

 

[Chrystal-J]

This seems a little extreme to me (from the article): That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core.

I don't think finding out my husband looked at Playboy would "shake me to my core" or effect my self esteem.

I totally disagree with this (From the article): I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this.

Really? A inappropriate content mag can't stalk you, cause your husband to leave you and marry them or give your husband an STD.

I'm not pro-inappropriate content, but this lady's a little loopy in my opinion.

 

[Michie]

This seems a little extreme to me (from the article): That pleasure and satisfaction can come to my husband from something so 2-dimensional has shaken me to the core.

I don't think finding out my husband looked at Playboy would "shake me to my core" or effect my self esteem.

I totally disagree with this (From the article): I have come to believe that an affair would have actually been easier to tolerate; for perhaps I could compete with flesh and bones, but not with this.

Really? A inappropriate content mag can't stalk you, cause your husband to leave you and marry them or give your husband an STD.

I'm not pro-inappropriate content, but this lady's a little loopy in my opinion.

I completely see her point. Having been in a relationship with a inappropriate content addict myself I know all the things it can entail that she was too polite to bring into it. inappropriate content leads to other things that can easily bring a STD home among other things. inappropriate content addiction rarely is just inappropriate content. It's a launching pad.

 

[JoyToTheWhirled]

No, I'm sorry, but I get it. A partner looking at inappropriate contentography is different to an affair, but just as painful and soul-shocking. The women in inappropriate content are very often so completely removed from reality there's no hope of 'competing' with them. It smashes your self-esteem.

 

[Tigg]

lol do not leave out us guys in your prayers

there is a tendency to view male sexuality as preditory and female sexuality as passive. This is not the case

you can find noble love and fidelity in both men and women
you can find abuse and perversion in both men and women

I stand corrected...and for those men, I also pray,