Hi all, I would love other's opinions on this 
My fiancé and I are both 24 years old and are recently engaged (we have been together for 6 years). We have also recently bought a house, and were planning on having tenants live there until we were married and we would move in together. However, our current tenants and left and the rental market in our area is so low at the moment that rental payments from tenants will NOT cover our mortgage repayments, plus we are BOTH paying rent at our current houses. So unless we want to jeopardise our financial security, it makes sense that we both move into the house now so that we are only paying mortgage repayments and don't have to pay mortgage repayments AND rent.
The problem is that we are not married, yet we will be living together. We have decided that we will have separate bedrooms and bathrooms in the house until we are married. We cannot move the wedding forward because a lot of our family live overseas and travel arrangements cannot be changed. We are both committed to God and our faith and are both comfortable with this decision and know that we will be able to control ourselves. I have also consulted the Bible and found scriptures about marriage, and my interpretation is that there is nothing about living together, only about sinning by having sexual relations. If we are living together but NOT tempted by sex, is there a problem? Here is the scripture I found that I thought might relate to my circumstance:
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
Ecclesiastes 3:1,5 There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven a time to embrace and a time to refrain.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 It is Gods will that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
I honestly do not believe that my fiancé and I will be lead into temptation, as we have spent lots of time together in the 6 years that we have known each other and holidayed many times, we have always gone to bed separately and never been lead astray from our beliefs. I feel this is the time to "embrace" the situation and go with what I think is right - which is moving into the house.
I still find myself being judged for this decision, though. What do you think?
My fiancé and I are both 24 years old and are recently engaged (we have been together for 6 years). We have also recently bought a house, and were planning on having tenants live there until we were married and we would move in together. However, our current tenants and left and the rental market in our area is so low at the moment that rental payments from tenants will NOT cover our mortgage repayments, plus we are BOTH paying rent at our current houses. So unless we want to jeopardise our financial security, it makes sense that we both move into the house now so that we are only paying mortgage repayments and don't have to pay mortgage repayments AND rent.
The problem is that we are not married, yet we will be living together. We have decided that we will have separate bedrooms and bathrooms in the house until we are married. We cannot move the wedding forward because a lot of our family live overseas and travel arrangements cannot be changed. We are both committed to God and our faith and are both comfortable with this decision and know that we will be able to control ourselves. I have also consulted the Bible and found scriptures about marriage, and my interpretation is that there is nothing about living together, only about sinning by having sexual relations. If we are living together but NOT tempted by sex, is there a problem? Here is the scripture I found that I thought might relate to my circumstance:
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.
Ecclesiastes 3:1,5 There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven a time to embrace and a time to refrain.
1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Galatians 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 It is Gods will that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
I honestly do not believe that my fiancé and I will be lead into temptation, as we have spent lots of time together in the 6 years that we have known each other and holidayed many times, we have always gone to bed separately and never been lead astray from our beliefs. I feel this is the time to "embrace" the situation and go with what I think is right - which is moving into the house.
I still find myself being judged for this decision, though. What do you think?
