Guys, teach me some game

[Nom De Guerre]

Be picky, be very picky and don't settle... if you notice a girl might like you, but you've got nothing going with her; be her friend, she may have a ton of hot lady friends that she'll speak quite highly about you to (and they'll be curious to see what you're all about).

I've also gotta go with what everybody else is saying, be yourself man... I know how hard that may seem, because you overthink almost everything, but don't be that part of you; listen to the part(s) of you who isn't all flustered. That's who you truly are.

Laugh, have fun, and do things you love... a girl wants somebody she can have adventures with; unless she's a homebody, or a student, or something along those lines... Be daring, be fun, and you'll find that people, women especially, are attracted to guys that already have plans of their own apart from a relationship.

Dress appropriately all the time, dress how you want to be perceived; ie, I dress up in my street clothes when I'm out running errands usually (because I don't care to be a show-off to anybody, I wear what I want to because I like it), or if I need to do them quickly I will just go in my steel toes and mortar covered sweater and overalls... either way, I look like I have things going on and that's no lie.

Smile, that's probably one of the biggest things you can do to impress a girl... make her think you are happy, and happy to see her.

After all of that, it's all about experience and picking her brain apart... some girls don't have a whole lot going on up there, but they still want you to think they do, it's a good idea to lend them that extra brain cell.

 

[leothelioness]

Be picky, be very picky and don't settle... if you notice a girl might like you, but you've got nothing going with her; be her friend, she may have a ton of hot lady friends that she'll speak quite highly about you to (and they'll be curious to see what you're all about).

This is probably the douchiest advice ever.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

And yet I've had more than my share of ladies... weird how that works, huh?

 

[Nom De Guerre]

I will say this, when I first joined the Singles area after my long hiatus to CF I was introduced to Vicky by herself (I think); I allowed her to do all the talking for me, I just talked to her about stuff.

Take it from a hustla, I know what I'm doing.

 

[broken_one]

Sarah, I think the best/worst part is that he's right. This girl I'm friends with has a WAY hotter friend who is semi-available. I say semi because I'll find out next week, lol.

I do have some self-confidence, not with any sort of female relationship but I do have it. I made this thread because I was hanging out with this dude a couple days ago that I just went "wow"....he had some skill. It was like watching an artist paint a picture.

I want that.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

It really is all about the cards you play, and never blowing your cover...

ETA: meaning, you don't throw your 'in' hand too soon and you've always got an 'out' ready.

 

[broken_one]

I think it's more of a comfort thing. I have no problems easily talking to guys and unattractive women....I can often be seen as a man's man.

I just really suck at talking to pretty girls. And I'm the kind of dude that hates doing things that I am terrible at, so yeah. Defect of my personality.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Practice makes perfect, go places you've never been or never will be again... ask out pretty girls there; always remember that if they turn you down, you'll never see them again.

 

[broken_one]

Practice makes perfect, go places you've never been or never will be again... ask out pretty girls there; always remember that if they turn you down, you'll never see them again.

Yeah, that's true. I guess getting turned down doesn't mean that much....it's a fear of rejection.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Yep, nothing ventured... nothing gained.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I know I've posted something like this before but it bears repeating:

Relationships and interactions with the opposite sex are not a "game". Hearts and emotions are sacred and everyone deserves to be treated as the unique human being that they are. Asking for pointers and tips cheapens what meaningful relationships are supposed to be about. If all you want is someone on your arm and the chance to sleep around then playing "the game" is good for only that. If you're looking for something long-lasting and permanent (which I suspect you probably are) then you need to look at them from God's viewpoint and aspire to the higher calling He's given you.

You're not inferior, However, you WILL become outdated and left behind if you continue to pursue women based on what the world and some men here on CF will tell you. Try asking God and faithful, mature men how they handle relationships and what they desire. That will be far more beneficial and Christ-centered than merely making yourself a player. Any man can be that: it takes a true man of God to aspire to something better. I think you deserve to aim for that.

 

[leothelioness]

And yet I've had more than my share of ladies... weird how that works, huh?

Yeah, and you've bragged about how badly you treated them and how they didn't "deserve you". You're a self-described player. Leopards can't change their spots.

You may have had many women, but that doesn't mean you were worthy of any of them.

 

[broken_one]

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[broken_one]

Yeah, and you've bragged about how badly you treated them and how they didn't "deserve you". You're a self-described player. Leopards can't change their spots.

You may have had many women, but that doesn't mean you were worthy of any of them.

What, he can't be flawed?

He can be the recklessness to my all-time fecklessness. Aristotelian ethics, and all that noise....balance.

 

[leothelioness]

No, we're all flawed. But to bask in that and brag about how badly you treat others is a whole different thing. It's digusting, frankly.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

lol Maybe I wasn't worthy of them, in that they got used and abused by me; but, I certainly didn't care at the time. I generally don't. I'm not sure if you've noticed this about me, but unless I'm actually truly, deeply, madly, in-love with somebody... kickin' them to the curb doesn't phase me one bit; and yeah, they probably didn't deserve it (but, they certainly don't deserve me either... I am not going to just be like, oh, well since I got to this point in the relationship I'd better follow-up on it and basically ruin my own happiness for the sake of your feelings - nope, you get in, and then you get out if it's not worth your time [in the end, it's better for them]).

Whereas, let's say, somebody like Sieben came along and made me remember what real love was about... I actually cared, still care, and will always care about her.

I'm more than positive I could go out and hustle a bunch of girls right now, does that do me any good!? Nope, it's pretty boring actually.

It was Sieben who made me like this now... I can't seem to quite shake that feeling yet, but, I'm getting closer and closer.

 

[leothelioness]

BTW, in case anybody's ever wondered, it's guys like him that make me hate men so much. I'm sure there's other women who feel the same way (although I'm sure none are on this forum).

 

[mindfulness]

If you really wanted to learn game, you are asking in the wrong place, friend. lol Wrong place.

 

[broken_one]

BTW, in case anybody's ever wondered, it's guys like him that make me hate men so much. I'm sure there's other women who feel the same way (although I'm sure none are on this forum).

I've certainly met more than a few. And then dated them. And then....*sigh*....yeah.....

Partially a reason why I want to change myself is to change the balance of power a little bit.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Oh no, I'm absolutely positive I've ruffled more than my share of feathers on here, and there's gotta be plenty of girls whom hate me; doesn't really bother me though, people hate me all the time.