If a guy is loaded,does that increase the number of people he could date in church?Will the Lord start telling a lot of sisters to hook up with the brother with money or people in church only look at the spiritual side of things?
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Are there gold diggers in church?
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Tamara224
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Maybe, depends on the church. Most churches have a limited number of single members to begin with and most of those are women. So, a single man usually has his pick of women at church regardless of his income level. Will having more money make him more attractive? Sure, most likely. But being employed is already enough to give a single man really good odds at church.
Define "hook up"? Because in my experience "hooking up" means anything from getting a cup of coffee to having sex.
God won't tell sisters to hook up with anyone, if by that you mean have sex. I also highly doubt that God would tell more than one woman to attempt getting with any one man. Not in our culture, anyway, since polygamy is frowned upon.
Unfortunately, people in church aren't any less likely than those outside of church to be superficial.
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I think there's a level of income that is considered acceptable, and it's usually based on the cost of apartments. 3x rent allows you to live independently.
It's the independence the woman wants, usually.
Flashing extra money around is usually considered obnoxious by the woman.
It's the independence the woman wants, usually.
Flashing extra money around is usually considered obnoxious by the woman.
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singlewv2011
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Yes, absolutely there are. I am sure you've heard the expression "Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going into a garage makes you a car". You'll find shallow, immature people at any church. Trust me, I met my fourth wife at church. 
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broken_one
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Yes, there's gold diggers in the church. There's gold diggers everywhere, really.
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trentlogain2
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True story.
Some churches will only allow you to become a member if your income exceeds a certain amount. I thought someone was kidding when he told me that a church they attended once had an ATM in the back of the building for people to get money for offering. Are there gold diggers in church? I think so.
Some churches will only allow you to become a member if your income exceeds a certain amount. I thought someone was kidding when he told me that a church they attended once had an ATM in the back of the building for people to get money for offering. Are there gold diggers in church? I think so.
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There are gold diggers in the church. However, I don't think it's as superficial as we think. Not every woman who wants a man with a nice income wants to become a "real housewife." (Or whatever that one show is called.) A lot of women want men with good money because they want to get married, start families, and not have to worry about finances.
For example, I ended it with a guy a couple years ago because a) I knew that he wouldn't be ready for a family financially for at LEAST 5 more years (pretty sad considering he was like 24) but primarily b) because he didn't seem like a go-getter. Didn't seem like he would be a good provider in general. It wasn't about the money, it was about, "would he be a good provider?" My current bf currently doesn't make that much money, but I know that with him, I would never have to worry about finances. I make my own money and wouldn't want to just "live off him," but women still want that security. And I don't think it's superficial.
For example, I ended it with a guy a couple years ago because a) I knew that he wouldn't be ready for a family financially for at LEAST 5 more years (pretty sad considering he was like 24) but primarily b) because he didn't seem like a go-getter. Didn't seem like he would be a good provider in general. It wasn't about the money, it was about, "would he be a good provider?" My current bf currently doesn't make that much money, but I know that with him, I would never have to worry about finances. I make my own money and wouldn't want to just "live off him," but women still want that security. And I don't think it's superficial.
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darktipper
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Yes. Gold diggers are everywhere..... Even in church. I know women who want to be housewives. It is cool if the guy agrees to it. If you are a guy who does not agree to something like that then run lol.
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Umm, it's not about money when the reason you dumped him was because you didn't feel he'd run the corporate rat race fast enough to provide you with money? That's an interesting bit of logic.
But I think this sums up gold digging in church. Gold digging in church is often hidden under a veil of ridged adherence to outdated gender roles that somehow magically became "biblical."
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Yeah, when I read her response my immediate response was an emotional one; and so I refrained from even responding.
I understand that women want a provider, financial security, and so on and so forth; but, it still irks me that because he doesn't have enough finances at the time that anybody would say that they're no good. Is not the vows of marriage to be that of in both richness and in poverty?
What if your husband became ill, what if he had a work injury that was to cause him to only be able to do a certain type of work that wasn't going to be the 'bread winning' income you may have expected him to have?
What then, shall you look for a way out of your vow before the eyes and heart of God?
I understand that women want a provider, financial security, and so on and so forth; but, it still irks me that because he doesn't have enough finances at the time that anybody would say that they're no good. Is not the vows of marriage to be that of in both richness and in poverty?
What if your husband became ill, what if he had a work injury that was to cause him to only be able to do a certain type of work that wasn't going to be the 'bread winning' income you may have expected him to have?
What then, shall you look for a way out of your vow before the eyes and heart of God?
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Yeah that response was kind of like a "Wow..." for me too. I get the desire for security but how MUCH security do you need? Do you need to end the month with thousands of dollars in your checking account with tens of thousands in your savings? Or does security to you mean that all needs are met, and no one is without, but you may not have much left in your checking at the end of the month and only a small amount in savings. Personally, I'm fine with the latter. I don't find security in monetary or material wealth, I find security in knowing that God provides.
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Nom De Guerre
Who amongst you doesn't see life as permanent?
Amen. Money comes and goes as simple as the wind blows, and still the hearts of people .. sigh, I don't even want to finish that statement.
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I pretty much agree with what's been said. If you're marrying for financial security at all and rejecting guys who can't "provide", it sounds like gold digging to me. And that's not to say there's anything inherently wrong with it...If it works for a couple and that's what they want, then have at it. But there's no point in sugarcoating it and trying to make it seem deeper than it is. It's still marrying for money, regardless if its to raise a family or live the high life.
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Thunder Peel
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There are gold diggers everywhere, even in the church. I knew a girl at church who found 42 cents in the parking lot. Talk about digging for treasure.
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