Do you think it's a good idea to settle for someone you don't think is attractive? We hear all the time how looks don't matter, and how looks are fleeting, so is it a bad idea to settle for someone who is not so attractive to you?
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Should you settle for someone you don't find attractive?
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Ha yeah I like that sign! Honestly I don't think I could ever be with someone I don't find attractive. Marriage is such a physical relationship, and I honestly believe we were creaed with the ability to feel physical attraction for a reason. Doesn't mean that the guy has to be super good looking... some of the guys I have found attractive have not been all that great to others. But there does have to be some sort of physical spark for me... enough so that a kiss and embrace would seem like a good and natural part of us, not something I have to force.
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Beauty is subjective
Not really.
If you asked 100 men what they thought of that lady in the picture I posted, most would say she is hot. Contrarily, if you asked 100 women if they find that guy to be hot, most would say no.
So don't think you've claimed victory yet, my friend.
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kevlite2020
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You are asking the wrong question... It's not about if they're hot. It's about if they are attractive. Like I think the girl in the picture is hot... But I'm not attracted to her. The whole fake boob barbie look doesn't appeal to me. On the other hand, I don't think anybody would be saying that guy is hot, but a girl might be attracted to him.
And it's not a numbers game. It only matters in the long run if 1 girl is attracted to him, not a perfect 100/100.
Nobody has to date someone that's hot, that's sexy looking to just about everybody. The goal is to date someone that you are attracted to, that you desire to be with. My friends and I, we've all dated girls that the others thought were ugly, but to us they were attractive. So yes, it is subjective, and yes, it is important.
Go marry someone you aren't attracted to and see how long that marriage lasts lol... It's trouble.
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kevlite2020
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oh and since I didn't keep up my trend of pics with every post in this thread, here... Don't want to let you down 
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Well if the person looks pretty unattractive to begin with I would say it would probably be for the best. People like to say beauty if subjective and all that, but at the end of the day there are some looks that are more cherished than others....
If they are not even going to go with an ugly person why should they except someone beautiful not to do the same?
If they are not even going to go with an ugly person why should they except someone beautiful not to do the same?
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You are asking the wrong question... It's not about if they're hot. It's about if they are attractive. Like I think the girl in the picture is hot... But I'm not attracted to her.
That is puzzling.
The whole fake boob barbie look doesn't appeal to me.
They may not be fake. Don't assume too much.
On the other hand, I don't think anybody would be saying that guy is hot, but a girl might be attracted to him.
That's a stretch, but even the poor can sometimes win the lottery.
And it's not a numbers game. It only matters in the long run if 1 girl is attracted to him, not a perfect 100/100.
Not really. He also has to like the girl. What if he doesn't? Then he's back to square one and no better off.
Also one's self image may be badly damaged if he is aware that no one finds him attractive.
Nobody has to date someone that's hot, that's sexy looking to just about everybody. The goal is to date someone that you are attracted to, that you desire to be with. My friends and I, we've all dated girls that the others thought were ugly, but to us they were attractive. So yes, it is subjective, and yes, it is important.
Well as long as you were happy, that's all that matters. I have friends who date girls I don't the least bit find even remotely close to being attractive, but they are happy. So I'm happy for them.
Go marry someone you aren't attracted to and see how long that marriage lasts lol... It's trouble.
I agree. But, and I've said this before, what about someone who cannot get someone they find attractive? What do they do then? Either settle or be alone. I choose the latter.
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what Sketcher said above. And the thing about settling that I don't like is it's unfair... to both you and the person one is settling for. The idea of settling sounds like usery, like I'll take you because I don't like the alternative... not because I'll take you because I love you...and NO human being should EVER be used!!
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HazelWings
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I beleive if they are yolk of your yolk you will find them attractive. I understand what you mean about the difference between atracted to that person and being stuck on looks. If you are stuck on looks you need to re evaluate your relationship with Jesus.
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It depends on what traits you hold most important. If "good looks" is #1 on your list, then don't torture some poor, uknowing, average-looking person by getting into a relationship with them, because they'll never measure up to your physical standards and you'll wind up dumping them or cheating on them.
If, however, you have "good looks" wayyyyyy down on your list of must-have's, then go for it. You might find someone with an amazing mind, a beautiful heart, a dazzling sense of humor, and their appearance won't bother you a bit.
If, however, you have "good looks" wayyyyyy down on your list of must-have's, then go for it. You might find someone with an amazing mind, a beautiful heart, a dazzling sense of humor, and their appearance won't bother you a bit.
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