Struggling with how to deal with people.

[_GodIsGreat_]

_GodIsGreat_, we are called to become like Christ. That means eventually attaining a love for others that does not ask for anything in return, nor measure the amount of hard work that is involved.

I have struggled loving people. Then I had an experience of unconditional love bestowed upon me, when I most definitely did not deserve it. Had I seen this love lavished upon another wretch, I would have been offended at the injustice of it. I would have grumbled and complained that it simply wasn't fair. But because the wretch was me, I could do nothing but weep with thankfulness as my heart of stone crumbled.

After this, loving others was no longer an odious duty I had to perform to avoid being sent to hell. From then on, within all the wretches that I thought were unlovable, I saw myself. I saw that loving others was meant to be a passion, like being in-love with the human race.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Becoming Christlike is something we have to learn. Be patient, and God will teach you.

Thank you. This is a process, definitely. I will keep praying to God for help on this.

 

[LilLamb219]

How is it not horrible if you are deliberately ignoring someone? And how do you call that a friend?
I'm still missing the pieces to that one. You're calling me 'my dear' (all words to show some superiority), yet you're an adult and you don't know these things.....?
Sounds like you need some growing up to do.
And if you think I'm being nasty, go and blame that girl. This is what happens when people are nasty, rude, and selfish. They make other people hateful instead of what God wants us to be: loving.
This is what happens when you coddle the little offender. You are ultimately encouraging the breaking of God's commandment: Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

I call lots of people, My Dear without it coming across as superior (if you knew me in person, you would know that, but it's hard to read things online the way they are intended).

I'm not coddling anyone either. I'm just giving you some other things to think about as to why she might be behaving in a manner that has hurt your feelings.

 

[Bella Vita]

It is difficult don't get yourself down you are not the only one with this issue. I have been a Christian for 2 years and I still struggle with this. I am the only Christian in my family so it makes things very hard. I feel alone much of the time and very misunderstood. They mock me behind my back they think I'm crazy to read the Bible or go to church they just don't understand me at all. And when I married a Christian guy oh gezz!! Anyways the point is I am learning that I can't change people they have to want it for themselves all I can do is love them and pray for them. I know that doesn't seem like much but all you can do is really focus on yourself make sure you are doing the right things and pray for them.

Satan attacks us through our relationships with others and when he can get in there just in one little crack like an unanswered text message he will. You can't let this cause you turmoil or unhappiness after all that is exactly what he wants. Hang in there prayer is your friend and don't beat yourself up it takes years to learn how to handle others.

 

[_GodIsGreat_]

I call lots of people, My Dear without it coming across as superior (if you knew me in person, you would know that, but it's hard to read things online the way they are intended).

I'm not coddling anyone either. I'm just giving you some other things to think about as to why she might be behaving in a manner that has hurt your feelings.

You are coddling people, my dear. You are giving me 'other things to think about' because you simply can't handle the truth: that not everyone has the same intentions as you do.

If you knew me in real life and you were in this situation, you would probably stop your excuses. But like you said, this is the internet, and people like you will try hard to convince others of things they don't know about. (Well, actually, I've shown evidence of why this girl is not a good friend, but for whatever reason, you are trying your best to convince me otherwise. Because you are so sure everyone is like you.)

 

[_GodIsGreat_]

It is difficult don't get yourself down you are not the only one with this issue. I have been a Christian for 2 years and I still struggle with this. I am the only Christian in my family so it makes things very hard. I feel alone much of the time and very misunderstood. They mock me behind my back they think I'm crazy to read the Bible or go to church they just don't understand me at all. And when I married a Christian guy oh gezz!! Anyways the point is I am learning that I can't change people they have to want it for themselves all I can do is love them and pray for them. I know that doesn't seem like much but all you can do is really focus on yourself make sure you are doing the right things and pray for them.

Satan attacks us through our relationships with others and when he can get in there just in one little crack like an unanswered text message he will. You can't let this cause you turmoil or unhappiness after all that is exactly what he wants. Hang in there prayer is your friend and don't beat yourself up it takes years to learn how to handle others.

Thank you. A lot of what you said resonates within me. I have learned the hard way that you definitely can't control others. Sometimes you can't even control yourself. Something that is easy for you to realize may not be easy for someone else, and vice versa. We have to be patient about these things.
I am just trying to stay strong and not give up, no matter what times I'm in. I do realize the tests I'm getting (whether from God or Satan), and I'm just trying to stay strong. I'm trying to do the right thing. Sometimes I think God is disappointed in the way I act when I know I'm doing something wrong, but I'm trying to hang in there.
This is definitely a process. I know this is just the beginning.

 

[Shannon4237]

Sometimes the best thing you can do, is continue to love her a sister and christ, and walk away from the relationship. There are times when it is just not worth the hurt. Pray for her, with her, around her, and go on about your life. People like that, have alot to reevaluate in there life and you need to grow and go forward in your walk. She will only be a stumbling block.