Question to Muslims:
Can you be really Love a "Non Muslim" who has absolutely No intention to convert to islam.I am adding the extra clarification to avoid wastage of time, since i know how islamic deception works.
Ignoring your deception remark... yes, I can. My first proof... a Muslim man can marry a Jewish or Christian wife. God says in the Qur'an that God created partners so that love and mercy could exist between them. When a Muslim man is married to a non-Muslim wife, it is natural that he love her. I've read at least one narration that exemplifies the love felt by one of Prophet Muhammad's (pbuh) closest companions to his wife who is reported to have been from Ahl Al-Kitaab.
Many times parents are also non-Muslims. One loves his/her parents as well. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) clearly loved his uncle Abu Talib and his mother. He cried at his mother's grave which shows his love for her, although she had died as a non-Muslim.
To be honest, my love for other people is often mixed with other feelings. I dislike things about everyone, including myself. No one is perfect. I do not like the fact that a non-Muslim has made the choice to not accept who I believe to be God's final Messenger (or for other than Jews and Christians, more than that), and that feeling will be there. I dislike that choice to disbelieve in Islam, just like I dislike anything that I feel could be of harm to people. I will not love their kufr, but I will love their good.
God is Al-Wadood.. the Loving. I believe that I should emulate the characteristics included within God's Most Beautiful Names. In the verses that state that God does not love the 'kafireen'.. I understand that to mean He does not love that choice. I also notice that it is always said that God does not love such people (could also refer to certain kafireen, plus.. who we consider kuffar in this world might not be so in God's eyes)... and never that He hates.
Additionally, there are different types of non-Muslims... those who are peaceful, and those who try to fight. There are those who seem sincere, even when opposing, and those who seem like they are just working for personal agendas (though only God knows the affairs of the heart in the end). There are those with good manners and humble attitudes, and there are those who are pompous and condescending in their speech. My feelings towards each would be different based on what I perceive from them.
The Qur'an says that God sent Muhammad (pbuh) as a mercy to mankind. You cannot be a mercy to people whom you loathe. When I read scenarios of how he dealt with non-Muslims on an individual and personal basis, I see concern, not hatred. I want to be that kind of person, too.
Generally speaking though, I do feel a stronger affinity and relationship with Muslims.. then with others who believe in God (such as Jews and Christians, etc.) than I would with people who do not believe in God.
P.S. I love Chava. She's nice.