Hi guys,
I posted on here a while back lamenting the fact that I basically just can't get any interest from girls or a date or whatever - I'll be honest with you I don't really want dates for the sake of dates, I'm of an age now where I really want a long term loving relationship and ultimately marriage.
Anyway, I'm really starting to wonder if I should try to lower my standard ( I don't mean that to sound as shallow as it does but I don't know how to put it otherwise) and look at trying to pursue and maybe finally get a relationship with someone who I'm not attracted to. this girl seems interested from what I can gather and she's a nice enough girl. I just don't feel attracted to her like that (physically or otherwise). And so I don't know if it's right for me to be even thinking like this? I mean I don't want to play with her or be nasty. I'm just genuinely asking if I've been really shallow thus far and should consider this and maybe find that someone has some sort of inner beauty??
This might also sound a little crude - in which case I apologise - but say we did get on well and things went in the right direction so to speak, could I realistically marry someone who I wasn't sexually attracted to? Is that something that should be an issue for us as christians??
I'm sorry to be so blunt and genuinely apologise if anyone thinks I'm well out of line but I'd really just like to gauge opinion.
I posted on here a while back lamenting the fact that I basically just can't get any interest from girls or a date or whatever - I'll be honest with you I don't really want dates for the sake of dates, I'm of an age now where I really want a long term loving relationship and ultimately marriage.
Anyway, I'm really starting to wonder if I should try to lower my standard ( I don't mean that to sound as shallow as it does but I don't know how to put it otherwise) and look at trying to pursue and maybe finally get a relationship with someone who I'm not attracted to. this girl seems interested from what I can gather and she's a nice enough girl. I just don't feel attracted to her like that (physically or otherwise). And so I don't know if it's right for me to be even thinking like this? I mean I don't want to play with her or be nasty. I'm just genuinely asking if I've been really shallow thus far and should consider this and maybe find that someone has some sort of inner beauty??
This might also sound a little crude - in which case I apologise - but say we did get on well and things went in the right direction so to speak, could I realistically marry someone who I wasn't sexually attracted to? Is that something that should be an issue for us as christians??
I'm sorry to be so blunt and genuinely apologise if anyone thinks I'm well out of line but I'd really just like to gauge opinion.