That "manly" handshake

[Lilymay]

I think it's just overcompensation for the "man hug," you know... lean in and bump shoulders with a back slap, followed by quickly pulling away to look furtively if anyone saw that.

LOL.

I mean absolutely no offense when I say this, but what's up with becoming so huggy. Or maybe it is just something where I live, seems people want to greet or exit with hugs. It is slightly difficult for me as I don't want to seem stand-offish, but I really like my own personal space...not a touchy person.

 

[Mixolydian]

Ha! Me too. I like the personal space. I definintely would be uncomfortable with a "holy kiss" greeting, even if commanded by Paul!

 

[Lena75]

I've had my fingers cracked quite a few times by some men. My hands are so tiny so it doesn't take much!

 

[highlife]

I would be pretty upset if someone reserved a "manly" handshake for me just because im a guy. I would view that person as lower less professional and likely not associate with them.

 

[LovesToBless]

I would be pretty upset if someone reserved a "manly" handshake for me just because im a guy. I would view that person as lower less professional and likely not associate with them.

Well, this was a social situation, not business. It happened to me.

My concern stemmed from the issue being in part that I'm old enough to be this young man's mom...he attends college with my son. And..I just think a man should take care with a woman. His handshake was, in my opinion, beyond just "manly"...it was that overly hard one that can easily hurt.

I'm not looking for a namby, deadfish hand shake. However, there is a lot of room between fishy and a vise.

 

[BigDaddy4]

Well, this was a social situation, not business. It happened to me.

My concern stemmed from the issue being in part that I'm old enough to be this young man's mom...he attends college with my son. And..I just think a man should take care with a woman. His handshake was, in my opinion, beyond just "manly"...it was that overly hard one that can easily hurt.

I'm not looking for a namby, deadfish hand shake. However, there is a lot of room between fishy and a vise.

I'm wondering in situations like this if a good "Ouch" or a *wince* would drop the hint that a death grip just isn't necessary at the moment??

 

[FaithPrevails]

Right? I would probably bust out with, "Yikes! I think I just felt a bone crack!"

 

[highlife]

Well, this was a social situation, not business. It happened to me.

My concern stemmed from the issue being in part that I'm old enough to be this young man's mom...he attends college with my son. And..I just think a man should take care with a woman. His handshake was, in my opinion, beyond just "manly"...it was that overly hard one that can easily hurt.

I'm not looking for a namby, deadfish hand shake. However, there is a lot of room between fishy and a vise.

Sorry I was refering to another poster when he said thoes sorts of hand shakes are reserved for other men. I guess it just boils down to being careful who you associate with, I can usually tell thoes individuals that dont have many big boy accomplishments and feel the need to compensate but assulting someone to feel "manly".

 

[LovesToBless]

I'm wondering in situations like this if a good "Ouch" or a *wince* would drop the hint that a death grip just isn't necessary at the moment??

Right? I would probably bust out with, "Yikes! I think I just felt a bone crack!"

Actually I did say something! I told him it hurt!

Since I had met this guy before and he didn't do such a strong handshake that time...I was wondering what had changed.

Not a big deal really...just thought I'd throw it out for discussion for further insight on how guys think.

 

[LovesToBless]

Sorry I was refering to another poster when he said thoes sorts of hand shakes are reserved for other men. I guess it just boils down to being careful who you associate with, I can usually tell thoes individuals that dont have many big boy accomplishments and feel the need to compensate but assulting someone to feel "manly".

Interesting point...I have wondered that in other situations where the same thing has happened.

 

[WalksWithChrist]

I remember I saw my friend's brother after he got out of Army Ranger School and I walked right up to him and shook his hand.
I regretted it right away! lol
He had the most righteous vice grip I'd ever felt. It was like every bone in my hand was cracking at the same time. I wasn't exactly weak at the time as I had been doing martial arts, so I was able to brace my hand just enough to avoid multiple fractures.


I too get creeped out by the dead fish "grip." Especially if the person has a sweaty hand.

Anyone got the "handshake with forearm clasp" handshake?

Something like this:

That one can be nice, but only if you're Reagan apparently!

Or this one. The Terrorist Fist Bump:

Or one of my favorites the "Over the Top" grip:

One I really don't like is when someone just grasps your fingers before you can really commit and then they just kinda waggle them. This is the first cousin to the dead fish grip.

The correct handshake is to move in, clasp firmly but not tightly and give two good pumps...then release.
Do not dispute me! I have had this talk a number of times beginning in middle school.