What do men want out of a woman? "Conservative homemaker or liberal lovemaker?"

[127.0.0.1]

She’s a good girl. She’s a bad girl. She’s everywhere in between. She’s the steamy release from every woman’s boiling pot of hidden thoughts, feelings, and desires, a pot stirred by the hand of sexual expression, but sealed by the lid of sexual repression. She’s the woman torn between the safety of being wholesome and the risk of being whoresome. The moment she enters puberty, she’s met with the paradox that will forever shape her sexuality. Men love openly daring, sexually confident women…but they won’t marry one.
And there it is. Her “how to” manual for landing a husband summed up in one contradictory message. Marriage…the big finale to her youth and launching of her “happily ever after.”
She sees but one road leading to the brainwashed bliss of marriage, babies, and baking so subtly implanted by society…that road is conformity.
She mustn’t be too in touch with her own sexual feelings, arousal, or satisfaction, in case she's labeled as promiscuous.
So, she plays down her sexuality, suppresses it, and denies it. She becomes a bit of a pro at it…so much so that she wouldn’t recognize her own sexuality if it crawled up out of her panties, grabbed her hand, and offered her a guided tour of the ghost town down under.
She’s a stranger to herself. But, hey, society must have been right. After all…she married, had children, and lived “happily ever after.” For a minute. Once the exhaustion from tending to everyone else’s needs wears off, she has a moment to think.
In that moment, she realizes that “happily ever after” came at the expense of her inner sexual powerhouse. Her lacking sexual satisfaction is starting to get on her nerves.
Not only that but her “prince’s” wandering eye indicates a desire for a sexual shakedown as well. Unfortunately, she still believes that he doesn’t want THAT out of HER.
That he prefers a conservative wife in the bedroom as he merely fantasizes about a liberal one night stand. And so, her struggle continues. Conservative homemaker or liberal lovemaker?
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Risk or no risk, the irony of sexual repression is blatant. He prefers her to be daring in the bedroom, as she does secretly. But society teaches her to be a “good girl”. This is code for “bore him to death.”

So...what do men want? And what do women want to be?

I'll take the liberal.


Quick tip for the ladies looking for a husband.
- Men like women who like sex, but not that much.
- They also like women who are kind of, but not really all that promiscuous.
- They like women who are kind of hearth and home oriented, but not a whole lot.
- They like women who can cook. That's a certainty.

Just apply these tips and you might sort of have a lot of men at your door.

 

[MehGuy]

A submissive girl would be nice. Though not for any religious reasons. Though when I was a Christian I was quite attracted to those type of girls. Probably made it better since I viewed it as "holy" and the way it should be.


But I certainty wouldn't repress her sexuality. Well maybe only when we visit my parents lol. They wouldn't think too kindly about that. But with everyone else I'd be straight forward and honest. I'm not going to be ashamed.

So I guess very liberal.

 

[JasperJackson]

Proverbs 31 + Song of Solomon = Awesome lady!

 

[dayhiker]

Ya, I prefer the liberal version.

 

[Qyöt27]

I just want her to be who she wants to be, not who she thinks I want her to be. After all, I would hope that who I was attracted to was who she really is, not some facade. This applies to everything in the relationship.

Is that idealistic? Maybe, but I also think it closer to what anyone, male or female, would want for themselves in a relationship.

 

[Niels]

Neither. Give me more options, then we'll talk. The third sentence does little to hide the fact that this is a false dichotomy.

 

[Fremdin]

That reading doesn't do right by women at all. At all.

 

[Riddik7]

I want someone i love who also loves me.... anything else shouldn't matter.... it can be worked around one way or another if you truly love eachother

hmmm still tryin to figure out how i managed that one in real life....

 

[stephanieamber]

i think to say that women fall under one of two extreme categories is boring. women are way more complex than that

 

[Brad2009]

Neither. Give me more options, then we'll talk. The third sentence does little to hide the fact that this is a false dichotomy.

Yep. This is exactly what I was thinking.

 

[Obzocky]

Quick tip for the ladies looking for a husband.
- Men like women who like sex, but not that much.
- They also like women who are kind of, but not really all that promiscuous.
- They like women who are kind of hearth and home oriented, but not a whole lot.
- They like women who can cook. That's a certainty.

Just apply these tips and you might sort of have a lot of men at your door.

Interesting tips.

that “happily ever after” came at the expense of her inner sexual powerhouse.

Indeed. Is this taken from that Chick Hughes blog? Wasn't it longer and had far more interesting paragraphs than the ones provided?


"It’s hypothesized that long ago, men felt threatened by her sexual capacity and feared her pleasure would entice her to leave and experience pleasure with other men. They didn’t want to share her, nor did they want the competition for sexual power."

"Synonymous with guilt, religion teaches that a sexual woman is a sinner and will take her rightful place in hell…alongside the other fornicating sinners. This is true for any religion. Guilt and fear are powerful suppressors. But, why do we conform to cultural traditions and religions that have negative effects on women, both mentally and physically? Because we dare not question tradition. "

"Regardless of the times, her sexual walls continue to surround her. Those walls are built by guilt, shame, and fear. Though she may be confined within them, she can begin the road to sexual freedom…express herself."


What do people want, it's always an interesting question.
To be themselves would be a good answer, but rather vague and boring.

 

[Gym]

I'll take a christian woman who loves me with a side of humour please
maybe with a litre of Russian love for good measure

 

[LyraJean]

I found a guy who is not afraid or jealous of my sexuality.

Women instead of conforming to what men think we should be find a man who accepts you just as you are.

 

[mina]

i think to say that women fall under one of two extreme categories is boring. women are way more complex than that

^this. Extremes on either side are probably rare. Women are more likely to be a wide range of inbetween. And a man that knows how to accept and love a woman for who she is and knows how to draw out her sensual side and give her a safe emotional environment to show that in her own way is gold.

 

[broken_one]

Easy answer: promiscuous women (aka "liberals" in this story) usually have high sex drives. So when you're not doing it, she's getting it from somewhere else.

Not a good thing to set yourself up with.

 

[welshman]

 

[Keri]

THIS.

 

[Rhye]

This again, and what Stephanie said too.

But, the thread title did make me giggle. Don't mind me I've been giggling at the silliest things lately. AND, why can't a conservative homemaker also be a lovemaker....but thats another story.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

Easy answer: promiscuous women (aka "liberals" in this story) usually have high sex drives. So when you're not doing it, she's getting it from somewhere else.

Not a good thing to set yourself up with.

That's not always true. I have a very high sex drive...if I'm not getting it, I'm just waiting patiently not getting it somewhere else.

Women shouldn't change for men, and men shouldn't change for women...otherwise you really have no idea who you're with.

 

[ulu]

Quick tip for the ladies looking for a husband.
- Men like women who like sex, but not that much.
- They also like women who are kind of, but not really all that promiscuous.

Are you kidding? I beg to differ.