Bikini on the Beach

[Oddish]

I am going to start swimming regularly soon and need to get a costume for it. Not sure if I should get a bikini because I am too self conscious about my body.

I don't think it is necessarily immodest to wear one, it depends on the attitude of the one wearing it.

 

[TanteBelle]

I am going to start swimming regularly soon and need to get a costume for it. Not sure if I should get a bikini because I am too self conscious about my body.

I don't think it is necessarily immodest to wear one, it depends on the attitude of the one wearing it.

I like a good tankini and then a shirt over that. Some boardies for the bottom. That way you CAN play on the beach too without trying to hold your strings up around you! That's one thing I've noticed here; girls who wear bikinis don't play on the beach; they're too conscious of the immediate possibility that something'll slip!

 

[Stravinsk]

Do you think a woman who is after God heart it's appropriate to wear a bikini? I know there are some bikini's that do show your all your breasts but very few are like this. I'm not talking about a thing bikini or a skimpy one

If this was an issue to the Lord - he would have decreed somewhere that all women wear a Burka - so as to hide the inherant shamefullness of the female body.

Lust is in the heart, not neccessarily what meets our eyes. For instance, in some Arab countries where women are completely covered with a Burka - men have been known to be inflamed with lust at the sight of an exposed ankle.

 

[Oddish]

I like a good tankini and then a shirt over that. Some boardies for the bottom. That way you CAN play on the beach too without trying to hold your strings up around you! That's one thing I've noticed here; girls who wear bikinis don't play on the beach; they're too conscious of the immediate possibility that something'll slip!

Unfortunately, I can't wear that combo in a swimming pool. Shorts are not allowed

 

[TanteBelle]

If this was an issue to the Lord - he would have decreed somewhere that all women wear a Burka - so as to hide the inherant shamefullness of the female body.

Lust is in the heart, not neccessarily what meets our eyes. For instance, in some Arab countries where women are completely covered with a Burka - men have been known to be inflamed with lust at the sight of an exposed ankle.

I have to disagree with this one and not meaning to be a horrid person, but the bold has me reminded of a previous post of yours where you made it quite clear that lust does and can come from the eyes! Wearing a bikini and wearing a burka are on two totally opposite ends of the spectrum! There is a middle ground.

Unfortunately, I can't wear that combo in a swimming pool. Shorts are not allowed

Shorts aren't allowed???? I've never heard of such a ridiculous thing in my life; what is the reasoning behind that?

 

[white dove]

Perfectly put, Welsh. You wouldn't parade around outside in your skivvies, but a bikini? Would you be comfortable with your wife or daughter doing it in front of a slew of guys? Does the fact that there are a hundred other nearly-naked chicks around make it somehow OK?

Yeah, I know, I seriously need to avoid this thread lol. It always amuses me that I'm the only chick who ever thinks women should dress modestly AT ALL TIMES; being at the beach isn't a license to lose your modesty.

Not trying to offend anyone, I love all of ya, so... I'm done!

My line of thinking is that it depends on the individual. If someone thinks that by wearing a t-shirt and regular shorts over their bathing suit while splashing around a pool or body of water is more modest than one wearing a 2-piece, they're really only fooling themselves. Wet clothing sticks to the skin (wet t-shirt anyone?) and again, if someone is easily-tempted just looking at people, it stands to reason that wet clothing, regardless of the cut, is going to pose a problem or temptation for that person. That doesn't mean we should all avoid water sports and splashing around the pool during the summer months in order to help those that refuse to "help themselves" by minding themselves, their eyeballs and their own thought life.

By the way, how I know about the t-shirt business is because I've been there. I enjoy spending time with my family, which includes a niece and nephews. I love playing around with them, but I realize I need to watch how my skin shows. Years upon years ago, thinking I was being modest by wearing a shirt over my bathing suit, I realized while diving in and out that the shirt was sticking so much to my skin and accentuating my curves so much, I took it off and just managed with my bathing suit. I felt so much better - and comfortable... modest, if you will - by doing so. Again, to each their own. If you're convicted to wear a little skirt over your bathing suit, by all means then do that. But, if you think you're being any more modest than someone wearing a 2-piece or anything else, think again. That little skirt cover-up could easily be said to be immodest by someone else who thinks a mini-skirt is immodest. You wouldn't go to the grocery store or church in a mini-skirt, would you? So why is it suddenly okay if you're at a pool? Just saying, the same could be said for all things.


Love to you all, too. And Merry Christmas!!!! All this talk about bikinis.. there's snow outside by some of us!

 

[Stravinsk]

I have to disagree with this one and not meaning to be a horrid person, but the bold has me reminded of a previous post of yours where you made it quite clear that lust does and can come from the eyes! Wearing a bikini and wearing a burka are on two totally opposite ends of the spectrum! There is a middle ground.

If that were true, then Adam and Eve would've been in trouble before they ate of the tree of good and evil. Before then, there was no shame.

I did post a thread on this, but I'm going to assume we have a different idea of what lust is.

 

[TanteBelle]

If that were true, then Adam and Eve would've been in trouble before they ate of the tree of good and evil. Before then, there was no shame.

I did post a thread on this, but I'm going to assume we have a different idea of what lust is.

For a start, there was no such thing as sin before then. Lust can be appropriate and also totally inappropriate. When a wife seduces her hubby, yeah, lust comes into the equasion but it's totally appropriate! When a girl is flashing herself to a hoard of blokes, that's not appropriate! Shame isn't the issue here; virtue and intergrity is.

 

[Stravinsk]

For a start, there was no such thing as sin before then. Lust can be appropriate and also totally inappropriate. When a wife seduces her hubby, yeah, lust comes into the equasion but it's totally appropriate! When a girl is flashing herself to a hoard of blokes, that's not appropriate! Shame isn't the issue here; virtue and intergrity is.

Again, we have a different understanding of the definition of "lust":

http://www.christianforums.com/t7516132/#post56189726

 

[TanteBelle]

Again, we have a different understanding of the definition of "lust":

http://www.christianforums.com/t7516132/#post56189726

Thanks for the link; I'll look into that one! But again, I stand by what I believe; you want to have some bloke drool over you, fine. Make sure you're married to him and you're behind a closed door!

 

[HisW0rd]

What if she is already struggling with lust and can't keep her legs close? Would it still be the same?

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

I had often wondered about this topic. I know a lot of Baptists won't even approve of going to the beach with the oppostie sex (which I think is nonsense), so the subject of whether wearing a bikini is okay has often made me think.

At the end of the day I came to the conclusion that a bikini is indeed essentially the same look as a woman's underwear, only a different material. I think people can try and justify it as much as they want...it is the same look. Funnily enough, what has really re-affirmed my belief that something else might be more appropriate is when I watched a show on tv the other night. A comedian (definitely not a Christian) made a point that there is no difference between a bra and knickers and that of a bikini. He made a joke that suddenly women become hysterical if someone saw them in their underwear, yet it's the same design as a bikini. That kind of re-affirmed for me that even the world knows there is no difference.

I am not saying that all women go out to show off their body and make gusy lust...but as Christians, we need to do all we can (upto a point) not to show our bodies so that other people may lust after you. Even if one bikini is not that revealing compared to others, God has made us to be attracted to each other and it is easy for us all to fall into the temptation of lust. We should do all we can not to cause others to stumble.

And I don't think putting the blame on the side of those who lust as the right response. Yes, some...some people will lust no matter what you wear. However, to have the idea that it's someone else's problem is very insensitive and arrogant.

Totally off topic:

This may be the strangest "Christianity vs. the world" reference I've ever read.

 

[AllForJesus]

I am sure a long sleeve and Eskimo jacket is more decent...

 

[MehTeh]

If you're convicted to wear a little skirt over your bathing suit, by all means then do that. But, if you think you're being any more modest than someone wearing a 2-piece or anything else, think again. That little skirt cover-up could easily be said to be immodest by someone else who thinks a mini-skirt is immodest. You wouldn't go to the grocery store or church in a mini-skirt, would you? So why is it suddenly okay if you're at a pool?
Love to you all, too. And Merry Christmas!!!! All this talk about bikinis.. there's snow outside by some of us!

You ladies do realise that a skirt that hints yet doesn't reveal, or short shorts or whatever it is that just covers what you are trying to hide can be a bigger deal than having whatever it is 'on show' right?

Why do you think mini skirts are so sexy? Or cami's, or even a burka. If a guy is inclined his imagination will do the rest of the work. Even if you were to wear an old fashioned diving suit people would notice you have legs and then they'd run wild.

By all means dress modestly, but please realise that modesty is dependent on the people and the environment. Heck at one time upper class society thought that women wearing pants were immodest because you could see that they had two legs. If a person has two legs, guess what, they have to meet somewhere. Therefore lustful thoughts were the result.

So ladies, please wear long skirts from now on, everywhere, and ignore any comments I might have made about long skirts in another thread.

 

[MehTeh]

Oh, and it's summer time here, so I'm going for a swim later on, where I'll be wearing board shorts and a rashy because I'm a readhead and burn easily, and I don't want to frighten anyone, nor have people start calling out 'Save the Whale'.

 

[Oddish]

Shorts aren't allowed???? I've never heard of such a ridiculous thing in my life; what is the reasoning behind that?

No idea actually :o

 

[TanteBelle]

No idea actually :o

Now I really wish I could be there to rock up, on purpose, in a pair of my daggy boardies and just say, 'Stuff you!' Not to sound horrid but really ............ a law against wearing shorts in a pool!? I should post up 'An Ode to the Death of Common Sense'!!!

Really, though, you should just rock up in a pair of shorts and demand an explanation! Who has the right to make up such lunacy as that? Free world? You've got to be kidding me! What's the dress code there? Nothing at all?

 

[K9_Trainer]

You ladies do realise that a skirt that hints yet doesn't reveal, or short shorts or whatever it is that just covers what you are trying to hide can be a bigger deal than having whatever it is 'on show' right?

Why do you think mini skirts are so sexy? Or cami's, or even a burka. If a guy is inclined his imagination will do the rest of the work. Even if you were to wear an old fashioned diving suit people would notice you have legs and then they'd run wild.

By all means dress modestly, but please realise that modesty is dependent on the people and the environment. Heck at one time upper class society thought that women wearing pants were immodest because you could see that they had two legs. If a person has two legs, guess what, they have to meet somewhere. Therefore lustful thoughts were the result.

So ladies, please wear long skirts from now on, everywhere, and ignore any comments I might have made about long skirts in another thread.

Meh. This is why I'm a firm believer that people are responsible for their OWN thoughts. If a man lusts over a woman (however you define lust), he doesn't get to stand before God when he dies, and when God asks him about it, blame it on the woman. It doesn't work that way, it didn't work for Adam, its not gonna work for anybody else.

There's just too many things that one guy will say is a stumbling block, while another guy will say it doesn't affect them at all. It shouldn't be the womans responsibility to try and cater to every man on earth and avoid things that make each one lust. She can't. No matter what she wears, somebody is going to find an issue with it. She should wear what SHE feels like wearing with innocent intentions, and the guys need to man up and take responsibility for their own sins.

 

[welshman]

Maybe while a lot of women don't like some guy parading around in speedo's...some of us guys don't like seeing women strutting around in bikini's. Leave something to our imagination girlsWorks both ways.

My reference about "the world" was that even a non-believer (comedian) made a joke about the absurdity of women wearing bikini's out in public but how they would react another way if they were in their underwear when both sets of garments have the same basic design...just one uses another material.

 

[kevlite2020]

I assure you your salvation and general well being does not depend in the slightest on whether you wear a 1 or 2 piece swimsuit. Although I will agree that there is never a right time for speedos