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Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (22)

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Tehchad

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Actually, I decided to try to stop having crushes since no one crushes back, and caring about someone comes very easily to me. I guess I need to guard my heart, even though that leaves me afraid...

Yeah, I echo this. Romance is a bit frustrating at the moment. It seems to be that it's always one way and never reciprocated. I've made some great friends. And don't get me wrong, friends are sick awesome. But I believe that I need a partner. I think that I've learned to guard my heart recently (past year ish), but I don't want to. That's not what I was built for.

I am crush-free here! Just working on my relationship with God. :)

Me too. :thumbsup:
 
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I just love how if you read the title of this thread from outside of the forum it's abbreviated as "Do You Have a Crush on..." followed by a name, so now it says "Do You Have a Crush On Thunder Peel?"

Can you hear the screams of terror?
 
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On second thoughts I don't even know if this is the right way to think. It's very un-romantic. Maybe I'm being biased by how much I want to be in a relationship. I want a baby, and sometimes I think the man himself doesn't matter so much. It's tempting to just get married as soon as possible, to anyone I can feasibly stand to live with for the rest of my life.

For the other post I was going to say, being afraid never gets you anywhere with this. We all lose friends. All of us, at some point in our lives have good friends and lose them. This is why I don't understand the "friend-zone" stuff guys say. I mean, I get it, it stinks you don't want to be friend-zoned, but even if you are, it does not matter. If you lose him, then that means you were not suppose to be with him. Not ever crush, or romantic interest should stay around in your life, for the rest of your life. So, fear in this matter, is just temporary fear that is stopping you from moving forward, and its definitely not making you make the right choices.

Which leads me to this.

Having a child is a big, big step in life. I don't have children, and wish I could give you this answer without sounding like I know anything but, I would go to Vicky and WD for this advice, and they can maybe help you more.
But, having a child, just to have a child because thats what you want and not the father...I don't know. I guess, I don't feel comfortable in that. Though, it is not my life, nor is it my business who does what with their children, but know if you have a child, he/she becomes apart of your life, and the choices you make, effect him/her. Its not one way. Never will it ever be one way. You have to ask yourself, is this what you really* want? I want a child, but I would not want it this way. So, maybe you are different and I just don't understand it. I apologize for that.


I just saw your last edit: I really don't feel like deleting that after writing it. ^_^
 
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Actually, scrap all of the above. I like him a lot and I think he's adorable.

Okay, one more thing. The other night my friend wanted to go to Starbuck in her area because she likes the barista there. She told him, "you really make me smile and make my day." He completely flirts with her, and she took the step to tell him how she felt. She even said, that her sisters both got asked out by a barista while on their shift.
Anyways, after saying that to him, she did not go back for about 3 weeks, cause she was so shy about it. So, the other night, I told her, "we are going! and I'm taking you." So we went...and she flirted with him even more (which I completely encouraged-shame on me :D).
So, my point is....just doooo ittttt!
 
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Okay, one more thing. The other night my friend wanted to go to Starbuck in her area because she likes the barista there. She told him, "you really make me smile and make my day." He completely flirts with her, and she took the step to tell him how she felt. She even said, that her sisters both got asked out by a barista while on their shift.
Anyways, after saying that to him, she did not go back for about 3 weeks, cause she was so shy about it. So, the other night, I told her, "we are going! and I'm taking you." So we went...and she flirted with him even more (which I completely encouraged-shame on me :D).
So, my point is....just doooo ittttt!
OK, I will :)
 
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I have dark brown/brown eyes! I don't really like the color but I do like the shape of my eye.

For a guy, any color is fine as long as it's natural. ^_^
So no pink contact lenses then? :p
 
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I know it might sound weird of me to say this at such an early stage, but the more I think about it, the more I believe he's the right guy for me. He has lots of good qualities, and lots of flaws too - but his good qualities are those I value, and his flaws are those I don't mind.

I'm not in love with him, not even a little. I'm not even sure how much I romantically like him. But in a practical, pragmatic way, he matches my needs so much it's almost scary. I've never met anyone who matched me this much, and that's why I'm willing to be a bit more aggressive in this case, because I'm afraid to let him go.

On second thoughts I don't even know if this is the right way to think. It's very un-romantic. Maybe I'm being biased by how much I want to be in a relationship. I want a baby, and sometimes I think the man himself doesn't matter so much. It's tempting to just get married as soon as possible, to anyone I can feasibly stand to live with for the rest of my life.

But I think I do have some personal affection for him.

I don't know.

Argh. I'm really confused right now and I need to go pray before this party.

Actually, scrap all of the above. I like him a lot and I think he's adorable.


lost you seem to be all over the place. you like him, but you're not romantically interested in him. You think he's adorable, but you admit that you just want a baby and think that sometimes the man doesn't matter so much.

Please don't pursue anything with this guy until you've settled how you really feel about him. Because if you do get involved with him and you're on this same emotional rollercoaster about whether or not you really like him, you're going to wind up causing a lot of grief and drama for the both of you. and its not fair to either of you.
 
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Once upon a time...there lies a crush...that crush was a lonely little crush until one day that crush will never forgot how that crush met another crush...irony enough both of these crushes were crushes each other for the past 7 1/2 years.

It first started with an innocent church crush picnic...it happens every year around late September, to be more specific, September 28. They met at the pie section it was between blueberry pie or new york cheese cake. The first crush started to lead for the NYC cheesecake awhile the other was heading for the blueberry pie when their hands met. Innocently they smiled and blush, but soon enough they begin talking...talking led to after church lunches...after church lunches led to picnic at the park. They never truly express their true feelings to each other because of fear of rejection and the human nature of things. Seven and an half years later they met at the same spot where they met, it seems perfect and right. The crushes lock eyes to each other's souls, their heartbeat soon skip a beat, when the boy crush started to gain up the courage to bear his little crush soul out...before the girl crush slowly takes one finger to his lips to say...I know, my love...

Soon after the two crushes talked...soon an relationship unfolded...it was something special and God-sent. After a year of courtship the boy crush had enough courage to ask the girl crush to marry his little crush heart and to confess that he wanted to have little crushes with this beautiful crush. The girl crush grinned and replied...it is about time mister. They waited until late September, September 28 to be exact to get married together as one soul.

Later on they had 3 girl crushes and 2 boy crushes...and the two crush lovers lived happily ever after for the rest of their lives...AMEN.

The moral of this story is:
You never know when you are going to met that lucky person that puts you in Cloud 9 mode. But when you do...embraced it to the fullest.

The End

God Bless,
Drewski
 
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So no pink contact lenses then? :p

Pink contacts?! ^_^ As tempting as that sounds, no. :p

Crushes
Written By: Drewski

Once upon a time...there lies a crush...that crush was a lonely little crush until one day that crush will never forgot how that crush met another crush...irony enough both of these crushes were crushes each other for the past 7 1/2 years.

It first started with an innocent church crush picnic...it happens every year around late September, to be more specific, September 28. They met at the pie section it was between blueberry pie or new york cheese cake. The first crush started to lead for the NYC cheesecake awhile the other was heading for the blueberry pie when their hands met. Innocently they smiled and blush, but soon enough they begin talking...talking led to after church lunches...after church lunches led to picnic at the park. They never truly express their true feelings to each other because of fear of rejection and the human nature of things. Seven and an half years later they met at the same spot where they met, it seems perfect and right. The crushes lock eyes to each other's souls, their heartbeat soon skip a beat, when the boy crush started to gain up the courage to bear his little crush soul out...before the girl crush slowly takes one finger to his lips to say...I know, my love...

Soon after the two crushes talked...soon an relationship unfolded...it was something special and God-sent. After a year of courtship the boy crush had enough courage to ask the girl crush to marry his little crush heart and to confess that he wanted to have little crushes with this beautiful crush. The girl crush grinned and replied...it is about time mister. They waited until late September, September 28 to be exact to get married together as one soul.

Later on they had 3 girl crushes and 2 boy crushes...and the two crush lovers lived happily ever after for the rest of their lives...AMEN.

The moral of this story is:
You never know when you are going to met that lucky person that puts you in Cloud 9 mode. But when you do...embraced it to the fullest.

The End

God Bless,
Drewski

That was proabably the cutest love story ever! ^_^ I loved it, good job. :thumbsup:

My sister just got engaged and there has been a lot o' lovin' going around. If only y'all could see how excited she is. :)
I thought I'd be sad about in you know, now that she's already getting married, and I've never even been on a date. But I'm okay... really! ^_^
If anything, the only thing I'm sad about is I'm not going to see her as often once she's married.
It's actually been pretty hectic around here, too. She's planning to get married in January so for the past two days all I've ben hearing is talk about flowers, dresses, houses... it's crazy, lol.
 
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I just got a text from ethnog asking me to post for her (since she's at work and cannot get on right now) that she misread things and did not connect your posts earlier and she agrees that you should wait until you've worked things out with yourself about how you feel for this guy before moving forward to pursue a relationship.
 
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I finally after so long have a crush on a very sweet girl I met at church. I see her today at 7:00 pm. Too bad it is one of those from afar crushes. So it is safe to say I am looking forward to getting to know her spending time around her.
 
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