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Well, I called him today just to see how he was doing and check on him since I felt horrible about what happend. We are gonna be friends and only that.

He's coming to my church Sunday. :)

thats awesome but be warned people may assume your going out, whenever a girl brings a guy to church or a guy a girl, its assumed. Here anyways. So Jerimi and Red eh? I thought Jerimi liked Guitargirlmeg. So who does Guitargirlmeg like? And I think Miles is inkas crush. Thoughts?
 
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Ya know guys, I had a weird vibe about this guy that I haven't been able to place since we first went out, despite the fact that our date had gone well.

I placed it tonight. He doesn't live like a Christian in a sense that's HUGE to me-- he doesn't have any respect whatsoever for people or ideas that he thinks are "wrong." See, the coffee shop that we went to again tonight is owned and run by a lesbian couple. He didn't know this until it came up in our conversation and I told him, and he went into this very loud, very obnoxious rant about how these women are disgusting, how God hates them, how they are headed for hell. He accused me of feeding into/fueling their sin by giving them my patronage on a regular basis. I told him that I don't care about their orientation, only about how they make the best chai smoothies I've ever had and their prices are incredibly fair. He told me that I wasn't as Godly as he thought. I wanted to try to figure out his point of view so we talked about Scripture and basically, he's a "gays-are-demon-possessed, jews-and-muslims-are-bad, repent-sinner, brimstone-and-hellfire" sorta guy to the extreme. He even said to me, "If we were married, I wouldn't let you out in public like that- saying the things that you have been." Um, excuse me?! This all was such a shock to me because at the Bible study I went to, I was referencing the Bible with a rather liberal interpretation and he was agreeing with me. So, at the end of another heated rant on his end, he asked me if I could find my way home (we had plans to be together until later on when I was going to a friend's), stood up and walked out without another word.

NOW I know where the weird feelings were coming from. Needless to say, I don't think we'll be going out again.


Moral of the story: LAME.
Second moral of the story: Where ARE you, Christian guys?!

Gah, what a letdown. I'm surprised some of this stuff didn't come up on the first date. Wish it had so I wouldn't have had to waste my friday night on date #2.
 
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Ya know guys, I had a weird vibe about this guy that I haven't been able to place since we first went out, despite the fact that our date had gone well.

I placed it tonight. He doesn't live like a Christian in a sense that's HUGE to me-- he doesn't have any respect whatsoever for people or ideas that he thinks are "wrong." See, the coffee shop that we went to again tonight is owned and run by a lesbian couple. He didn't know this until it came up in our conversation and I told him, and he went into this very loud, very obnoxious rant about how these women are disgusting, how God hates them, how they are headed for hell. He accused me of feeding into/fueling their sin by giving them my patronage on a regular basis. I told him that I don't care about their orientation, only about how they make the best chai smoothies I've ever had and their prices are incredibly fair. He told me that I wasn't as Godly as he thought. I wanted to try to figure out his point of view so we talked about Scripture and basically, he's a "gays-are-demon-possessed, jews-and-muslims-are-bad, repent-sinner, brimstone-and-hellfire" sorta guy to the extreme. He even said to me, "If we were married, I wouldn't let you out in public like that- saying the things that you have been." Um, excuse me?! This all was such a shock to me because at the Bible study I went to, I was referencing the Bible with a rather liberal interpretation and he was agreeing with me. So, at the end of another heated rant on his end, he asked me if I could find my way home (we had plans to be together until later on when I was going to a friend's), stood up and walked out without another word.

NOW I know where the weird feelings were coming from. Needless to say, I don't think we'll be going out again.


Moral of the story: LAME.
Second moral of the story: Where ARE you, Christian guys?!

Gah, what a letdown. I'm surprised some of this stuff didn't come up on the first date. Wish it had so I wouldn't have had to waste my friday night on date #2.

um.wow. sorry that happened to you :hug:

although i guess the silver lining is, if you want to see it, at least this all came out in the beginning before things got too serious with you guys.
 
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I am so sorry Bitnd!!! We are going ot find you a good christian man!

Starts looking.

You know, I'm not even upset about the fact that he fell through, I'm upset because I didn't see that he was like that. I'm glad that I now have something to confirm my weird feelings, at least.

Back to the Bat Cave or/and single obscurity. :)

Edit: Not upset about his loss, just upset that I wasted my time on him. (Yeah, all of a few days total, but still) He really was a jerk.
 
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Bitnd, when you saw/heard him in the Bible Study setting, it was a group....people don't usually let out their whole persona/feelings then. When you're one on one, that's when you get to know someone much better...as you soon figured out. Glad you liked the Chai. : )
 
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Bitnd, when you saw/heard him in the Bible Study setting, it was a group....people don't usually let out their whole persona/feelings then. When you're one on one, that's when you get to know someone much better...as you soon figured out. Glad you liked the Chai. : )

Um, I guess... but he was agreeing with me later on when just he and I were talking. Granted, there were people talking and moving around us but no one else was in the conversation. I don't see how his opinions could change that much from a group setting to a one-on-one conversation. Anyway, I'm sorta glad nothing came of it. It was making me feel... off, in a way. Strange few days. But hey, at least there was Chai. ;)


And hi stan, where ya been lately? I feel like I haven't seen you around and/or heard any wisecracks from you for a while. :) :p
 
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Um, I guess... but he was agreeing with me later on when just he and I were talking. Granted, there were people talking and moving around us but no one else was in the conversation. I don't see how his opinions could change that much from a group setting to a one-on-one conversation. Anyway, I'm sorta glad nothing came of it. It was making me feel... off, in a way. Strange few days. But hey, at least there was Chai. ;)


And hi stan, where ya been lately? I feel like I haven't seen you around and/or heard any wisecracks from you for a while. :) :p

Haha. I don't know what wisecracks are. All my posts are full of gentleness, kindness, self-control....ok, j/k. I've been around, but somebody wasn't around as much because of Chai, Coffee, guy, school, etc etc.
 
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Haha. I don't know what wisecracks are. All my posts are full of gentleness, kindness, self-control....ok, j/k. I've been around, but somebody wasn't around as much because of Chai, Coffee, guy, school, etc etc.

Yeah right.... and I don't know what you're talking about. :)
 
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