What punishment would you give?

[HeKnowsMyName]

The teacher already mentioned her profuse apologies, so I don't even know that I'd require anything more of her. As far as punishment she already got a talking-to from the teacher and two flats (whatever those are).

Flats are like having your card punched. If you get two, you don't go to recess and have to do your work. She had to do her homework during recess time.

OK SO MAYBE SHE KNOWS IT WAS WRONG, BUT DOES SHE UNDERSTAND WHY? THERE IS A DIFFERANCE BETWEEN KNOWING AND UNDERSTANDING.

We've explained to her that what she did was cheating and lying. I hope we got it across to her

I'm wondering if she isn't understanding the work she was to do and out of frustration did what she did. Is there any way she could get after school tutoring if she isnt understanding the assignment?

She was on Honor Roll of Excellance the first quarter of school and regular Honor Roll this last quarter. The way her grades look this quarter, she'll be back on HR of Excellance the end of the school year. I honestly think she just didn't want to do the homework. One of her punishments is that she won't get to use a homework pass again even if she earns it.

Uh- I'd tell her way to go on her computer savvy and let her know how stupid I think homework is for kids in elementary school???

DH told the youth at church what she did (as a lesson to how sin starts out small) and they were all imipressed as well. LOL I totally agree on the homework at her age. We didn't have it and I turned out pretty smart. I think kids are pushed too hard at too young of an age. They only get a few minutes a day for recess which really irks me. They need exercise and play time!

Anyway, this child has lied again. She wanted to help in the nursery last night at church. I told her no, she needed to be in church (she helped that morning). She wasn't pleased with me but she went on in church. During the altar service, she apparantly went out to the nursery with some of the other older kids (the visiting preacher had called me and my DH up for prayer). When I came down, she was back on my row. Then I turned around and she was gone. After the service was done I went to look for her. She had told the lady in the nursery that I knew where she was knowing that I didn't. Honestly I don't know what to do about her lying. She's just started this pretty much. I did tell her that if Jesus was in her heart like she says, He can help her to not lie and she'll not want to lie. I talked to her pretty hard. I should have had them lay hands on her and pray.

 

[Leanna]

I totally agree on the homework at her age. We didn't have it and I turned out pretty smart. I think kids are pushed too hard at too young of an age. They only get a few minutes a day for recess which really irks me. They need exercise and play time!

I had homework at her age and I would look into the cause like someone else mentioned because elementary school burn out can be a real thing these days. She sounds smart and unchallenged, or maybe I am projecting, because I spent most of my growing up years intellectually unstimulated and forced to do BORING TEDIOUS home work. If you're burnt out at 8, it gets worse at 16. I can't really advise much beyond that without blurting out my true conviction-- homeschool her! Then you will be able to disciple her on a daily basis to correct this lying stage.

 

[pgp_protector]

Loss of Media (Computer / TV) for at least a week (or tell the wife can't handled it any more )
Letter of Apology to the Teacher(for the cheating) / Parents(for the misuse of the computer)

All homework is checked before turning in (Though we do that now anyways)

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

I can't really advise much beyond that without blurting out my true conviction-- homeschool her! Then you will be able to disciple her on a daily basis to correct this lying stage.

When she hits 6th grade, that is our plans. Right now I like the school she's in and I don't have to worry about her too much as my SIL and cousin as well as DH's cousin all work there. Middle school scares me though.

 

[sk8Joyful]

> What punishment would you give?

Originally Posted by Leanna

I can't really advise much beyond that, without blurting out my true conviction-- homeschool her! Then
you will be able to disciple her on a daily basis to correct this lying stage.
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When she hits 6th grade, that is our plans. Right now I like the school she's in
and I don't have to worry about her too much. Middle school scares me though.

This isn't only about how you feel - You do enjoy, right daily... healthily-bonded mother-daughter chats with
this "very well-adjusted, sweet, and intelligent young lady", aged 8 right? - who God loves , and entrusted into your safe-keeping , and nourishing nurture?

Praying for her welfare, that you will positively guide her healthy development, so she can blossom... as pleases Jesus.

 

[Neenie1]

I really like the idea of writing a note to the teacher.

I have to watch my 7 year old ds do his homework, I practically have to sit on him until he gets it done, or he WON"T do it.



I would also take away computer priveledges for a set period of time.

 

[Hentenza]

Been there, done most of the punishments listed in this thread. If I had to do it again I would simply give her a great big hug and tell her how proud I am that she faced up to her mistake (emphasize the mistake by repeating what the mistake means) to her teacher and how proud I am that her teacher considers her a good person. I would then ask her to write down the reasons why she is sorry for what she did in a letter of apology to her teacher. I would not follow up with additional punishment because she has already received her punishment at school (loos of recess and the embarrassment of being caught).


A proud grandpa!!!!!

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

Her teacher wrote her a note back saying that she understood that everyone makes mistakes and she thinks no less of DD. That really helped her. DD also has talked to God about this and told the church last night that she made a bad choice at school last week but God has really helped her with it. I think all of us were crying over that.

 

[Robinsegg]

I also have an 8yo daughter. She has lied before (and we already homeschool her). Her consequence was that for a certain period of time, I can't believe anything she says. I constantly have to check up on everything she says she has done. This really hits her emotionally and helps her to understand why honesty is so important.

It sounds like you're doing a great job! Just keep up the good work and keep helping her to understand why certain things are so important.

Btw, if she's doing so well in school . . . she may feel as I did as a kid, that homework is just busywork and a waste of her time. Maybe you could talk to the teacher about assigning her something a bit more difficult?

Rachel