Five more years...

[Balugon]

Hmm... 78% of the population identifies itself as Protestant

And at least 40% of that 78% probably hasnt picked up a Bible outside of Christmas and Easter, another 20% probably think living a good life or OSAS (once saved always saved) is gonna get them to heaven. So really eligible bachelors percentage is like 18%, and even then, i would be hard pressed to believe the true number is that high. But thats what prayer, checking out other churches, online christian sites/dating sites, and time is for.

I would like to have at least a good relationship with my future SO by the time 5 years ends from now. That would put me at the moving into my own place category, right after graduating with my BA from college and stuff. I think having someone around might be more enjoyable than living by myself, but i tend to like my space as well, so maybe a lil time to myself would be best.

 

[Luther073082]

Hey bass, I am wondering if I qualify as single. Being how I'm in an unoffically offical relationship. . . or offically unoffical . . . or whatever.

Ok so we don't know what to call it.

The english language is so limited.

 

[deliciousBass]

But thats what prayer, checking out other churches, online christian sites/dating sites, and time is for.

Dude, that's what I was thinking about earlier. I was thinking that online dating is really a great thing for Christians. What's funny is that I've heard of pastors discouraging it and not "believing in it" because you're taking who you want to be with into your own hands. Personally, I think that's a load of BS.

 

[deliciousBass]

Hey bass, I am wondering if I qualify as single. Being how I'm in an unoffically offical relationship. . . or offically unoffical . . . or whatever.

Ok so we don't know what to call it.

The english language is so limited.

You're single. BTW, I'm messing with train. I don't think her relationship is that serious since she's coming over tonight and making me dinner.

 

[traingosorry]

You're single. BTW, I'm messing with train. I don't think her relationship is that serious since she's coming over tonight and making me dinner.

Where's the smiley guy who waves his fist when you need him?

 

[Wren]

Option 2

I had hoped to be married by the time I turned 30 and that hasn't happened. I'd like to get married sooner rather than later, but I'm in school now and don't plan to establish a career where I'm currently located. I think it would be different if I really really wanted to have kids. At this point I'm not sure if I ever want to have kids of my own and I think I might like being a foster mother instead.

 

[justanobserver]

I went with (Meh) I’d deal with it and keep on hopin’ :

a part of me likes the single side but theres that other part that misses the closeness of companionship of someone special.

 

[traingosorry]

Option 2

I had hoped to be married by the time I turned 30 and that hasn't happened. I'd like to get married sooner rather than later, but I'm in school now and don't plan to establish a career where I'm currently located. I think it would be different if I really really wanted to have kids. At this point I'm not sure if I ever want to have kids of my own and I think I might like being a foster mother instead.

^^ Everything this woman said is how I feel!

 

[Supplanter]

You know, this got me thinking that I could be married within the next five years, and when I think about the possibility of that, it doesn't seem all that far away or difficult to deal with. I mean, that isn't really all that far away and it s a definite possibility that I could meet somone, get married and have at least 1 kid within 5 years. That's a lot of life changes for a short period of time. It makes me feel better when I think about it that way. Really, I have no reason to assume that just because I am single now means that I won't meet someone tomorrow, that day will eventually come and it could be sooner than later. Just hasn't happened, yet. Ok, i'm done spilling all my optimistic thoughts out now.

 

[deliciousBass]

You know, this got me thinking that I could be married within the next five years, and when I think about the possibility of that, it doesn't seem all that far away or difficult to deal with. I mean, that isn't really all that far away and it s a definite possibility that I could meet somone, get married and have at least 1 kid within 5 years. That's a lot of life changes for a short period of time. It makes me feel better when I think about it that way. Really, I have no reason to assume that just because I am single now means that I won't meet someone tomorrow, that day will eventually come and it could be sooner than later. Just hasn't happened, yet. Ok, i'm done spilling all my optimistic thoughts out now.

You could have FIVE kids in five years.

 

[Luther073082]

You could have FIVE kids in five years.

And then I would feel sorry for you.

 

[Tamara224]

You know who has it bad? Tamara. Wyoming is so sparsely populated you're pretty much screwed if you're single and live there. Sorry, Tamara

Yep. Woe is me.

 

[soccerdad66]

Another vote for deal with it.

Rather be lonely then miserable.

 

[deliciousBass]

Yep. Woe is me.

Sorry, I was hoping you wouldn't see that

Might want to look into my Bachelorette thread idea

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Honestly, I wouldn't like that too much.

 

[IamHeather]

You know what, at this point I just want to find someone who shares my values and doesn't start annoying me after a few months. I know that, since I'm 31, I'm supposed to want to hurry up and get married soon, but I just don't. If I find someone amazingly right for me then I'd like to date a while and go from there. Maybe I'm commitment-phobic. Or maybe it's different for me because I feel a calling on my life that is really fulfilling for me. Also I think the biological clock thing is different for me because I am just not a normal girl. I don't want to be stuck in one place with a morgage, worrying about what are good schools etc, just the thought of it skeeves me out.

 

[silentpoet]

I answered other because no was not emphatic enough. I just don't have that much endurance left in me. I am running on fumes in the faith department now. That much longer would likely kill me. Or kill my faith. Also I am 33, that would make me 38 at the end of your hypothetical 5 years. I don't want to be that old and starting a family. I can see only one situation where I could last that long, God would have to appear before me like He did with Moses and promise a specific woman. Then I could endure.

 

[deliciousBass]

I answered other because no was not emphatic enough. I just don't have that much endurance left in me. I am running on fumes in the faith department now. That much longer would likely kill me. Or kill my faith. Also I am 33, that would make me 38 at the end of your hypothetical 5 years. I don't want to be that old and starting a family. I can see only one situation where I could last that long, God would have to appear before me like He did with Moses and promise a specific woman. Then I could endure.

What if you met a wonderful woman who say, wanted to date for a long time before getting married, would you be fine with that? I read somewhere that average time of first engagement is 2 yrs 11 months and length of engagement is about 16 months to 2 years.

 

[silentpoet]

I don't think I would want to wait as long as the average, because I don't think I could resist temptation that long. I think part of those numbers are skewed by the prevalence of pre-marital sex. So for me that 4+ years would be too long a wait.

 

[deliciousBass]

It's hard to say what you would or wouldn't do...

I think the right girl would be worth the wait though. We have to keep in mind that typically the right girl is someone who is a lot like us and they probably wouldn't want to wait that long either. Personally, I'm not in a rush to get married again although I do want a relationship.