More money, more kids?

[heart of peace]

Same here, Assisi. Finances play a part in our decision to have more children - this is something that recently came up in a heated discussion on my faith board here.

I have my personal convictions on the matter and yes, finances play a part in it.

In regards to secular people having more children as they are blessed with more money, I don't really see it as a bad thing. Like Jolie/Pitts, I think they set an almost "good" example for others, instead of shunning life, celebrities and the uber rich are embracing life. This is a step in the right direction in our society that has fallen so far away from family values.

I say find the positive in this rather than the negative!

 

[indagroove]

I find the more kids you have, the less you can hang on to your money

 

[Andry]

I find the more kids you have, the less you can hang on to your money

I've found that the more I hang on to my money, the less there is to hang on too.

The more I've given, the more I have to give. Funny how God seems to work with that.

 

[lucypevensie]

I kind of think it works the other way. More money=less kids. I'm thinking generally of course. Small families are the norm these days, and so is overspending, big debt, and stuff-itis. In the past I think it was simpler - there was less "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality. A lot of the things we need today are really pretty luxurious.

 

[Redguard]

I guess finances are currently playing a role in our decision.

We just recently had #2. Mrs. Redguard has long stated that she wants do be done by the time she's 30 (she's currently 28). So we've both been contemplating whether we'll shoot for another one. Given the time constraint, it seems we'll only have time for one more if we stick to the "Done by 30" rule.

I love my two girls, but I've recently been overwhelmed with a desire for a 3rd. And no, it has nothing to do with me trying to shoot for a boy.

I told Mrs. Redguard and she says that she's on board with the idea.... but then we got into a discussion on finances and our desire to eliminate some debts, current schooling & childcare costs, and being on track to obtaining a bigger home before before finalizing that decision.

After it was all said and done, she felt that she'd be willing to push out her deadline from 30 to about 31/32 if it means that we can have #3 in a more affordable financial state.

 

[Leanna]

I guess finances are currently playing a role in our decision.

We just recently had #2. Mrs. Redguard has long stated that she wants do be done by the time she's 30 (she's currently 28). So we've both been contemplating whether we'll shoot for another one. Given the time constraint, it seems we'll only have time for one more if we stick to the "Done by 30" rule.

Oh come on, you could squeeze two in there

I told Mrs. Redguard and she says that she's on board with the idea.... but then we got into a discussion on finances and our desire to eliminate some debts, current schooling & childcare costs, and being on track to obtaining a bigger home before before finalizing that decision.

After it was all said and done, she felt that she'd be willing to push out her deadline from 30 to about 31/32 if it means that we can have #3 in a more affordable financial state.

I think these are good thoughts though, planning ahead is good

 

[seamonster]

Money has not influenced our decision of how many children to have

 

[~Nikki~]

I guess finances are currently playing a role in our decision.

We just recently had #2. Mrs. Redguard has long stated that she wants do be done by the time she's 30 (she's currently 28). So we've both been contemplating whether we'll shoot for another one. Given the time constraint, it seems we'll only have time for one more if we stick to the "Done by 30" rule.

I love my two girls, but I've recently been overwhelmed with a desire for a 3rd. And no, it has nothing to do with me trying to shoot for a boy.

I told Mrs. Redguard and she says that she's on board with the idea.... but then we got into a discussion on finances and our desire to eliminate some debts, current schooling & childcare costs, and being on track to obtaining a bigger home before before finalizing that decision.

After it was all said and done, she felt that she'd be willing to push out her deadline from 30 to about 31/32 if it means that we can have #3 in a more affordable financial state.

Now I feel old, lol ...you guys want to be done by 30, and I didn't get to start until 31/32.

 

[TexasSky]

I wanted four, God gave me two.
God knew best.

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

I wanted four, God gave me two.
God knew best.

same here, God knew best. And actually, God planned ours in such a way that He made sure we were more financially stable than we had planned to be... We didn't think about finances, aparently God did! Had things gone according to our wishes I doubt we would have been able to buy our home for example...

 

[GolfingMom]

Well...Money has definately influenced our decision. I am hoping to adopt in a few years We'll see if DH
finally agrees.

 

[Andry]

Well...Money has definately influenced our decision. I am hoping to adopt in a few years We'll see if DH
finally agrees.

Maybe you can adopt a rich kid.

JK, of course.

 

[greenie]

We're fortunate enough to live in a country that gives us generous financial assistance
http://www.centrelink.gov.au/Internet/Internet.nsf/publications/fpr012.htm

There are a number of factors though that play into our decision to have more children not just finances. Can we emotionally/mentally/physically cope with having more children, how would it affect our other children, why would we be having more children etc.
I know for me, I find peace and comfort in the knowledge that this 3rd child we are going to have is our last. I knew a lady who doesn't believe in using contraception (yes whole new issue ) and by her 5th child she was worn out, exhausted, suffering emotionally, financially, physically. So I think it's about being wise too

 

[RedTulipMom]

I've found that the more I hang on to my money, the less there is to hang on too.

The more I've given, the more I have to give. Funny how God seems to work with that.

i have found this to be totally true as well! God provides. Give and it shall be given to you! God pours blessings on you when your willing to have your hands open and let God use you to give to others rather than holding onto your money for dear life.

I kind of think it works the other way. More money=less kids. I'm thinking generally of course. Small families are the norm these days, and so is overspending, big debt, and stuff-itis. In the past I think it was simpler - there was less "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality. A lot of the things we need today are really pretty luxurious.

So true. Needs and wants are two different things..if people were willing to live with NEEDS only..they can afford MANY more children.

Now I feel old, lol ...you guys want to be done by 30, and I didn't get to start until 31/32.

i hear ya. i had #2 at 34 and #3 at 37

 

[Redguard]

I wasn't meaning to make you guys feel old! I'm sorry!

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

I wasn't meaning to make you guys feel old! I'm sorry!

Don't worry Red. I started young because I wanted to be done young too. I had my first at 22, second at 26 and will have the third at 28. If we had decided that we wanted more than 3 I wouldn't have wanted to go past 32.

 

[AnyaMa]

We would have more if we could afford them, also.

 

[Neenie1]

Don't worry Red. I started young because I wanted to be done young too. I had my first at 22, second at 26 and will have the third at 28. If we had decided that we wanted more than 3 I wouldn't have wanted to go past 32.

Ouch (rofl)

I am really keen to have another one really soon. I do feel as though I am getting a "little old" for this. But then I look around and find that I know some people who are in their late 30s and have another baby, so I probably have plenty of time. Who knows. I would get pg again tomorrow if dh agreed. Ah well.

I had first baby at 25, 2nd at 29, so I am thinking if I could get dh to agree, one more at 33, then one more at say 36/37, then call it quits. Dh has other ideas though.

 

[progressivegal]

Two would be my limit, no matter how much money we have. I've just never been a fan of huge families. I think two is the perfect number.

I feel the same. I don't care if other people have big families as long as they are able to take care of all of their children and give them the attention and necessities that they need, and as long as they are environmentally responsible about it (because that effects us all), but for me I do not want more than 2 children., MAYBE 3. It doesn't have to do with money so much (because now we can't even afford one, but I still WANT atl east one child someday). It has to do with the fact that I don't think I could afford to give a larger family the attention that they need, nor do I really want to. I come from a smaller family (2 kids) and I think it was perfect, everything was always fair and even and I never felt like I was lacking attention. There was always one parent for each kid. Not saying there's anything wrong with large families in general, (we know a couple who has adopted several children and who are amazing parents with some of the kindest, smartest, most well adjusted children I've met), just saying they're not for me and that money has little to do with it.
that said, I don't think it's OK for a couple to keep having children when they can't afford to take care of the ones they already have.
Even though I am all for welfare and public assistance, I don't think its right for someone to intentionally get pregnant again (meaning it's planned) when they are already relaying on government assistance. I don't mid it as much as I mind something like corporate welfare paying for Walmart executives golf balls, but it is frustrating to me as a taxpayer. I guess that's were my libertarian streak shows.

 

[~Nikki~]

i have found this to be totally true as well! God provides. Give and it shall be given to you! God pours blessings on you when your willing to have your hands open and let God use you to give to others rather than holding onto your money for dear life.

We have found this to be true for us too!