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SoaringEagle

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as for my age and sex, Im 22/male. Grew up in a non-religious home. Was sexually active until I came close to death through a bad experience extacy when I was 17. Because of an unhealthy (tormenting) fear of God, I abstained from relationships and sex for three years, but fell back into sexual sin with females. Aproximately two years later (3 or 4 months ago), I came to my senses in response to God's dealing with my heart, and it's been about that long since I've been walking in sexual purity. I must say that this time, it's a delight for me to do so, because I'm beginning to understand holiness as an exciting thing, because holiness is the expression of the living Christ within, and the new creation and nature being displayed for anyone to see. This is the way God has chosen for those who have been brought out of darkness into the light, and been adopted by His loving kindness, to display his glory in the earth. Now I follow him out of love for him, because I see and have experienced personally his love for me. And so it should be for everyone who names Christ's name and declare him to be savior and lord.
 
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SoaringEagle

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I have been single for my life of 23 years, and while I have been frustrated with singleness many times, I can take comfort in one of the benefits: I have zero baggage. When I do meet someone special, I won't have wounds and scars that will hold me back.
If only we could all get that. One of the reasons that Christians divorce is that they bring baggage (whether emotional or mental) into their marriage. So now, they are not the only one that has to deal with their issues. Their mate does too, and possibly vice versa. Often times it's these very issues that motivates them to rush into a marriage. They aren't looking to marry so that they could be a vessel of grace and love to another believer. They're looking to have needs met, whether sexual or emotional. Thus they are only two reasons marries; either selfish or selfless. And I seriously hope they do marry someone also in Christ. So what we need to do, is pray and focus on the God who heals, and begin to trust that he'll deal with our wounds and emotional scars which are the results of past sinful relationships(there are some exceptions). Insecurity, manipulation and control, financial instability, etc. are all tendencies that would need to be dealt with by God before looking for a mate to marry. God is faithful and He will do it. But on His terms. Are we willing to wait to let Him? That, may be the determinative factor in a healthy successful prosperous marriage, or a failed disastrous one. I think I am going to start a new thread now. Thanks forsakic.
 
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