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How often your pastor visit to your house?
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Since becoming an adult I have very rarely had ANYONE on staff at ANY church I have ever attended visit me in my home or at all. It's a problem, for sure.
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He has come everytime I've invited him.
Can you imagine a pastor of a church of 500 trying to visit everyone? If he visited one a day, it would take a hear and a half to see everyone once.
Can you imagine a pastor of a church of 500 trying to visit everyone? If he visited one a day, it would take a hear and a half to see everyone once.
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Almost never. The only times a pastor has visited in my adult life -- twice for deaths in the family (not for all deaths) and once when they wanted to convince dh to help with something. No hospital visits.
I think I prefer it this way, though... I would like real things accomplished if people are trying to help, not just more doors to answer. Everyone is different.
My Jehovah's witness pastor friend visits me every week and chats with small talk, though!
I think I prefer it this way, though... I would like real things accomplished if people are trying to help, not just more doors to answer. Everyone is different.
My Jehovah's witness pastor friend visits me every week and chats with small talk, though!
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well.... never. We try to get to church as often as we can... he's my uncle anyways, but even so... it is a large church tho.
hmmmm....
hmmmm....
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I've been at my present church seven years and he and his wife have visited twice, once for dinner but both those visits were in the early days. Nowadays it's all I can do to get a 'hello' out of him.
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msbojingles
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No one on the church staff has ever visited my home. Even on invite. Too busy.
The mormons and jehovah's witnesses visit regularly though.
The mormons and jehovah's witnesses visit regularly though.
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NacDan
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What is the purpose of having your pastor come to your home? If I knew Jim was coming to my house, I'd have to spend 3 days getting it ready for him! I'd much rather meet him over at Java Jacks for lattes.
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I think the Poll shows that the OP didn't do a great job of giving options.
NEVER should have been one of the choices.
NEVER should have been one of the choices.
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My Pastor don't visit my house. For one thing, I do not have a husband and that would put him in a comprimising situation.
HOWEVER, my pastor has always been there for me as the LORD permits him to be and still tend to others who have needs in the congregation and community.
If I could do anything for my pastor, it would be to give he and his wife a night away from home and out on the town with no one even knowing he is a pastor so he could just spend time with his wife. IF I invited them to my home, he and his wife might feel compelled to think they had to minister to me.
My pastor does call me frequently though! He is very thoughtful.
HOWEVER, my pastor has always been there for me as the LORD permits him to be and still tend to others who have needs in the congregation and community.
If I could do anything for my pastor, it would be to give he and his wife a night away from home and out on the town with no one even knowing he is a pastor so he could just spend time with his wife. IF I invited them to my home, he and his wife might feel compelled to think they had to minister to me.
My pastor does call me frequently though! He is very thoughtful.
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Have to smile at the answer Nac Dan wrote..
Sounds like our house.. with 5 kids this house is rarely tidy and especially as I like to come on CF and housework piles up some while I fellowship.. LOL
Our Pastor has never visited our house.. though he did ask me if it would be easier to come to our home.. when I met to talk about our son's baptism....
I would love someone to come visit with us.. my hubby is not a believer yet.. so that would be so encouraging..
One lady from our church.. not on the pastoral team dropped off meals for us when our oldest son was ill.. that truly made my day..
My parents visit people alot they are shepherding a church while the church searchs for a new Pastor.. they feel that is their ministry.. Though they do struggle to catch people at home.. so many times they are put off.. because people are too busy to make time to see them..
Lately God has been taking them away from visiting the church congregation and into the wider community they seem to be needed there more.. One thing that might interest those here.. is they noticed a set of units very close to the church.. apparently their church owns the land.. Well.... the Holy Spirit put on thier hearts to visit there.. and the few that invited them in were really happy to see them.. sadly saying they had never had a visit from anyone through the church.. and they were virtually on the doorstep??
I think it is really really important to touch people this way and more churches should see this vital ministry as as an opened door to show the love of God and help to encourage people!! All of us need to know someone cares and not just when we see them at church!!
Sounds like our house.. with 5 kids this house is rarely tidy and especially as I like to come on CF and housework piles up some while I fellowship.. LOL
Our Pastor has never visited our house.. though he did ask me if it would be easier to come to our home.. when I met to talk about our son's baptism....
I would love someone to come visit with us.. my hubby is not a believer yet.. so that would be so encouraging..
One lady from our church.. not on the pastoral team dropped off meals for us when our oldest son was ill.. that truly made my day..
My parents visit people alot they are shepherding a church while the church searchs for a new Pastor.. they feel that is their ministry.. Though they do struggle to catch people at home.. so many times they are put off.. because people are too busy to make time to see them..
Lately God has been taking them away from visiting the church congregation and into the wider community they seem to be needed there more.. One thing that might interest those here.. is they noticed a set of units very close to the church.. apparently their church owns the land.. Well.... the Holy Spirit put on thier hearts to visit there.. and the few that invited them in were really happy to see them.. sadly saying they had never had a visit from anyone through the church.. and they were virtually on the doorstep??
I think it is really really important to touch people this way and more churches should see this vital ministry as as an opened door to show the love of God and help to encourage people!! All of us need to know someone cares and not just when we see them at church!!
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Well, I visit my home every day being my own pastor and all, and the Chief Shepherd visits here every time He is invited.
My practice is to accept invitations to homes where I am personally invited unless some emergency need dictates otherwise. Pastors are not welcomed in every home and should not go unless invited or welcomed. And pastors of larger or growing churches have a world of other things to do besides taking a dozen coffee- and cookie-breaks a day in members homes.
But every pastor should be accessible to those he claims to serve. I do have a problem with members not being able to get past the receptionist or secretary or being assigned to an associate when they want to talk with their pastor.
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I think this thread highlights the growing rift that exists between "Christians" in America. I have had two churches that I was sad to leave. One was due to familiarity. But the other... Leaving was like losing a part of myself. I was engrafted into that body and when I had to leave it was very, very painful.
Unfortunately, this is not the usual experience. People "miss" their church, but how close are we really as the "body" of Christ? We function more like amoebas than cells in a higher organism. Everyone is self-contained and doesn't need the other "amoebas". This is the furthest thing from God's intent for His Church.
We need to pray for, and do what is necessary to obtain, unity. We need to grow in love and compassion for other believers, for other people. We need to throw away the masks we wear and start exposing our scars and our wounds and our victories. In a nutshell, we need to stop being what we think people think we are and start being what we really are. And WHO we really are.
I know this thread is about pastors, but riddle me this: if the pastor isn't moving among the sheep, and he's the leader, then what are the sheep doing? Just a thought.
Unfortunately, this is not the usual experience. People "miss" their church, but how close are we really as the "body" of Christ? We function more like amoebas than cells in a higher organism. Everyone is self-contained and doesn't need the other "amoebas". This is the furthest thing from God's intent for His Church.
We need to pray for, and do what is necessary to obtain, unity. We need to grow in love and compassion for other believers, for other people. We need to throw away the masks we wear and start exposing our scars and our wounds and our victories. In a nutshell, we need to stop being what we think people think we are and start being what we really are. And WHO we really are.
I know this thread is about pastors, but riddle me this: if the pastor isn't moving among the sheep, and he's the leader, then what are the sheep doing? Just a thought.
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I selected - other (for never).
Visiting the members' homes is something that some churches expect and I think they should be upfront and tell the pastor that before they come.
What are the sheep doing? Hopefully what we are doing whether our pastor visits or not - is living our lives according to the Word.
I don't think most Christians expect pastors to visit. Sometimes I'm amazed at the number of times posters encourage people to go see their pastor about their question. Don't get me wrong - love my pastor and any time I can call on her anytime. Sometimes I think we have unreasonable expectations of our school teachers and our pastors.
Visiting the members' homes is something that some churches expect and I think they should be upfront and tell the pastor that before they come.
What are the sheep doing? Hopefully what we are doing whether our pastor visits or not - is living our lives according to the Word.
I don't think most Christians expect pastors to visit. Sometimes I'm amazed at the number of times posters encourage people to go see their pastor about their question. Don't get me wrong - love my pastor and any time I can call on her anytime. Sometimes I think we have unreasonable expectations of our school teachers and our pastors.
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Glenda
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Wow.. When I voted 'other'.. I thought gee all these others have pastors like mine..
Maybe it is because we are a small church.. maybe it is because of a difference in culture.. but my pastors are here often.. more than once a month.. and when they are not here, they are inviting us over.. and Gloryvee always says, You wanna eat??
You see, they are from Puerto Rico & the culture is very different there.. we are family.
In the middle of winter, my Jeep broke down.. I needed a starter & something else.. I forget.. not very car oriented.. I look outside & there he is with his BIL.. fixing my car.
And it is not just us.. He is like that with everyone..
Maybe it is because we are a small church.. maybe it is because of a difference in culture.. but my pastors are here often.. more than once a month.. and when they are not here, they are inviting us over.. and Gloryvee always says, You wanna eat??
You see, they are from Puerto Rico & the culture is very different there.. we are family.
In the middle of winter, my Jeep broke down.. I needed a starter & something else.. I forget.. not very car oriented.. I look outside & there he is with his BIL.. fixing my car.
And it is not just us.. He is like that with everyone..
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My pastor has never stepped foot inside my house, and probably wouldn't even if invited. He does visit with some people though. Yes, his little cliche.
When I was a little girl, our preacher used to come to our house at least once a week. He would come every Saturday to make sure we were coming to church the next day. He didn't stay long, but he was always there. When my mom would be down with her back, he would come on a daily basis, sit by her bed, read her the bible, and pray for/with her. I loved that preacher.
When I was a little girl, our preacher used to come to our house at least once a week. He would come every Saturday to make sure we were coming to church the next day. He didn't stay long, but he was always there. When my mom would be down with her back, he would come on a daily basis, sit by her bed, read her the bible, and pray for/with her. I loved that preacher.
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Being part of a Pastoral team, one of our duties (if I can put it that way) is visiting church members.
I've found more people willing to have lunch or a coffee at a shop or whatever, than having me come over to their home. I think people are more comfortable that way. They don't have to put on heirs, their home doesn't need to be exceptionally cleaned and they don't feel like they are being judged about anything. It's just a more neutral place.
I'm with a different member three days a week on the average, the youth pastor a little more and our 'senior' pastor is out rour days a week+.
I know we still miss people. And we're only a couple hundred.
I remember being on staff on a much, much larger church - (2,000+ members). With seven associate pastors on staff, we still had people complaining that the pastor didn't care. There just wasn't enough hours in the day.
I was the church administrator and handled the phone bills. The pastor's cell averaged 4,200 min a month! That's 70 hours a month on just his cell!
I've found more people willing to have lunch or a coffee at a shop or whatever, than having me come over to their home. I think people are more comfortable that way. They don't have to put on heirs, their home doesn't need to be exceptionally cleaned and they don't feel like they are being judged about anything. It's just a more neutral place.
I'm with a different member three days a week on the average, the youth pastor a little more and our 'senior' pastor is out rour days a week+.
I know we still miss people. And we're only a couple hundred.
I remember being on staff on a much, much larger church - (2,000+ members). With seven associate pastors on staff, we still had people complaining that the pastor didn't care. There just wasn't enough hours in the day.
I was the church administrator and handled the phone bills. The pastor's cell averaged 4,200 min a month! That's 70 hours a month on just his cell!
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