Attention, Mr. Right and Miss Right. Your existences have been called into question.

[Vigilante]

I've seen several people mention here that they're waiting "for the one God has for them." How do you know that God has anyone in particular waiting for you? How do you know that God wouldn't be pleased with any number of like-minded Christians who could be awesome spouses?

If it's just a gut feeling, fair enough--not much anyone can do to argue that point.

But for those who claim that this idea is Biblical, which verse(s) do you cite?

 

[Highland Watchman]

Well, there is the consideration of Isaac and Rebekkah in Genesis. Granted, I agree with you - merely sitting around waiting for God to plop that perfect match into our laps, while whining that we are not satisfied is not really ideal by any means, nor is it Biblical. True, it is not good for man to be alone... but also we are told that we are not to have any God before the LORD... and that includes pedestaled sex-gods and goddesses...

 

[mina]

hmmm, I don't think there is just "one" out there for me. I think God would be pleased for me to marry a guy that loved Him- there isn't just a certian "one". I guess the problem i run into is there just isn't anyone the right age, who is a Christian, who is single, who i'm attracted to, who is attracted to me. So I guess i kind of am "waiting" for someone worthwhile to come along. That doesn't mean i'm a hermit. I'm involved in church, I live life. I guess i'm just trying to focus on being the right person now. I'm not going to throw myself at a guy and no guys i do know have shown any intrest at all. This summer i'm going to focus on visiting new churches and meeting new guys and girls. I don't believe there is "one perfect man" out there for me. I also don't believe i should force someone to be interested in me or force myself to be interested in someone for whom intrest isn't there. Does that make sense? I don't think there is one universial Biblical command for finding a spouse. I do think that God can work in our lives in different ways in bringing about a spouse. I think we do have a responsibility to pray for our future spouses and to be doing what God wants us to do.

 

[joanna1]

. I also don't believe i should force someone to be interested in me or force myself to be interested in someone for whom intrest isn't there. Does that make sense? .

Yes that's interesting... It's a tough one.
If God doesn't have a "specific one" for me... (which is also the way I see it)... that means there isn't necessarily going to be someone I meet and fall in love with and falls in love with me... it's a matter of picking someone and making it work... therefore should we expect to fall in love... and if we never fall in love and refrain from maryring for that reason, will God still say "but I gave you the choice" when we reach heaven and ask why were not blessed with a spouse...
Sorry thinking aloud

 

[mina]

I dunno, the avalible guys i know right now are not good choices for me and I don't think God would be pleased if i chose them. Some of them have serious problems with things like drinking and anger to the point of they can't hold a job and I don't need to enter into a romantic relationship with them to know that that type of relationship would not be a good one for me or any other girl. I do think love is a choice, but there has to be some sort of attraction to begin with, and we don't have to make an unwise choice just to make a choice. I don't think God would want us to be married to someone we were repulsed by (and i'm not just talking about looks here) or to someone that pulled us down spiritually or emotionally or put us in harms way. I do think marriage is important enough to choose wisely, and that has nothing to do with what the other person looks like.

 

[catofhope]

Sometimes the "right" person does just almost miraculously appear.
And as you get to know each other you continue to be awed at how "perfect" you seem for each other.

I must admit I didn't really think it would ever happen.
But I am certainly thrilled to know the possibility exists.

I do not thing there is just one person out there for each person.
And as the OP mentions maybe God has decided some are to remain single even if they want a spouse.

 

[Dee235]

I feel there is a Mr /Miss Right for a person, but at different stages of life it will be a different person.

 

[Niels]

I would like to think that there are many women who are good matches for me. The notion that there is only one is kind of depressing... the odds of finding her would be astronomically low. In such a fallen world, I'm not even sure it would be possible, barring a miracle.

I'm not expecting "Miss Perfect" because goodness knows I'm not perfect myself. The identity of "Miss Right" depends on who I choose, how well we get along with each other, and if it's cool with God.

 

[Marbzz]

I think God will send a person Mr. /Miss right if they believe deep down and trust that God will answer their prayers. Also I don’t think we should be impatient because impatience is really just a lack of trust in God. I think we also have to be on the lookout for people that pass through our lives on a daily basis because you never know if today or tomorrow God will bring the "one" or someone suitable into you're lives. I think it boils down to trusting in God and living by his laws first and foremost because he hears the prayers of his children.

 

[vjaine]

I've seen several people mention here that they're waiting "for the one God has for them." How do you know that God has anyone in particular waiting for you? How do you know that God wouldn't be pleased with any number of like-minded Christians who could be awesome spouses?

If it's just a gut feeling, fair enough--not much anyone can do to argue that point.

But for those who claim that this idea is Biblical, which verse(s) do you cite?

I don't know if God has anyone in particular, yet I have faith that He does. I don't think that this idea is Biblical to the extent that it's a promise from God to receive a spouse, neither does the Bible give a "one size fits all" in finding a spouse. But just like Issac's servant prayed for Rebecca, and Hannah prayed for a child, and countless others have made intercession, I use that general Biblical principle that God does answer prayers. He very well may not, but I have faith that He will, despite that possibility.

 

[archetype]

well...i thought i found mrs. right. spent almost 7 yrs together. went through so much stuff. in fact...we once broke up because of some issues...ended up both getting saved and got back together. i remember telling her...that if we hadnt given our hearts to god...we would have never gotten back together. we got married...got comfortable in our surroundings, slowly faded out of church, stopped reading the bible...divorced. so......moral of the story...i dont know how you tell the right one is...thought i already found her...i was wrong

 

[SingleDadWV]

I've seen several people mention here that they're waiting "for the one God has for them." How do you know that God has anyone in particular waiting for you? How do you know that God wouldn't be pleased with any number of like-minded Christians who could be awesome spouses?

If it's just a gut feeling, fair enough--not much anyone can do to argue that point.

But for those who claim that this idea is Biblical, which verse(s) do you cite?

This is a great question. I stand on one scripture in particular, Genesis 2:18:

NIV: The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.

Amplified: Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

I truly believe God has a person out there that He created specifically for me. Someone uniquely adapted and complimentary. Now...... is it the same person it would have been, if I hadn't run from God for so many years and always seeked him as I have now? Or did God know I would do that and have the timing all planned out? I don't know the answer to that. But I have no doubt that He has someone specific in mind.

I guess it might also depend on what your goals are. I feel I have a calling on my life, and I need more than just a pretty face who is Christian and spirit-filled. God has blessed me with a wonderful career, and I make a crazy amount of money for the area in which I live. But when the day comes that God calls me away, I will leave it all and hit the sand running. I need a partner who is in total agreement and will be loving it every bit as much as I am.

 

[SingleDadWV]

hmmm, I don't think there is just "one" out there for me. I think God would be pleased for me to marry a guy that loved Him- there isn't just a certian "one". I guess the problem i run into is there just isn't anyone the right age, who is a Christian, who is single, who i'm attracted to, who is attracted to me. So I guess i kind of am "waiting" for someone worthwhile to come along. That doesn't mean i'm a hermit. I'm involved in church, I live life. I guess i'm just trying to focus on being the right person now. I'm not going to throw myself at a guy and no guys i do know have shown any intrest at all. This summer i'm going to focus on visiting new churches and meeting new guys and girls. I don't believe there is "one perfect man" out there for me. I also don't believe i should force someone to be interested in me or force myself to be interested in someone for whom intrest isn't there. Does that make sense? I don't think there is one universial Biblical command for finding a spouse. I do think that God can work in our lives in different ways in bringing about a spouse. I think we do have a responsibility to pray for our future spouses and to be doing what God wants us to do.

Mina brings up a good point. I also pray for my future partner, that God will bless her and help her through whatever situations she is currently going through. I have also written her letters which I may/may not give to her someday, lol.

 

[Eph429]

Here we are, bemoaning our singlehood or celebrating it, whatever. But do we as parents pray for our children's spouses? I constantly do, that God would bring them a Godly man or woman. Protect them as they grow up and be strong in their faith. And that they may serve the Lord together and raise their kids knowing God. I pray that my kids can have what I never had.

MuchLoved
J

 

[Stratiotes]

I agree with you. I used to believe in the idea that there is "one" for all of us. But then after being with the girl I believed with all my heart was the "one" and then losing her, I realize now that even if there were such a thing, there is no way anyone can know for sure if they are with that "one". Now I believe that God gives us guidelines in a sense of who to choose (equally yoked, etc) and I don't doubt that he plays matchmaker once in a while, but it is ultimately our decision and our seeking that leads us to a spouse.

It seems easier to just sit back and relax and be comfortable in the idea that God will provide us with a spouse in his own time... but I have friends and family that are in their 30's and 40's who have never had serious relationships and are still waiting around for God to send them someone.

A random thought I just had... it is kind of like when Jesus saw the deciples fishing and they couldn't catch anything. He told them to throw out the net again and this time they had a ton of fish. But even though he blessed them with fish, he didn't throw the net out there for them.

 

[WendyV]

Mina brings up a good point. I also pray for my future partner, that God will bless her and help her through whatever situations she is currently going through. I have also written her letters which I may/may not give to her someday, lol.

That is so sweet and lovely and romantic, I hope you give her the letters

 

[SingleDadWV]

That is so sweet and lovely and romantic, I hope you give her the letters

Is it? ...... sometimes I feel a little silly about it. *blush*

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I heard Mr. Right fell in love with Mrs. Right, they got married, so they're off the market.

 

[Stratiotes]

Is it? ...... sometimes I feel a little silly about it. *blush*

It is very romantic. Just wait until you are married to give it to her if you do because my ex gf did the same thing and gave me letters she'd been writing since she was like 14 or 15 years old. I feel bad that she gave all of them to me and then we didn't stay together. She should have waited until she was married to give them away. But I definitely think you should give them to her because I found it really romantic and it made me feel really loved. And this is coming from a guy--girls tend to be even more moved by such things...

 

[ImperialPhantom]

There is no one single "right" person, so don't sit around waiting for God to plop that person in your lap. Get to know many potential Mr. or Mrs. Rights, even if they don't have every single little perfect detail you might like, and more than likely, one will eventually stand out above all the rest. There is no one perfect person for anyone, and when God brings two people together, it's not always with a perfect spouse - just ask Hosea and his prostitute wife. The important thing is WILLINGNESS to make the relationship work and not get so comfortable in it that you just neglect the other person's needs.