WWJD club

[spiritwinds]

I would like to join the WWJD Club

Welcome to the club. I know you will be blessed here.

 

[Eldaah]

I would like to join the WWJD Club

Welcome to the club that's more than just a club, it's a lifestyle. We're always glad to have new members. It's wonderful to see that so many care about doing what Jesus would do. Welcome!

 

[Eldaah]

I'm going to be moving to WV on wednesday, so I'd appreciate your prayers. It's always a little bit stressful when we're moving. Please just pray that our move is safe and we aren't too stressed out by it. Thanks guys.

 

[Criada]

Praying for you, as always, Eldaah - and especially on Wednesday!
Rest in His peace.
Bless you
Sarah

 

[Eldaah]

Praying for you, as always, Eldaah - and especially on Wednesday!
Rest in His peace.
Bless you
Sarah

Thanks

 

[spiritwinds]

I will remember you in my prayers, too.

 

[cristianna]

I'm going to be moving to WV on wednesday, so I'd appreciate your prayers. It's always a little bit stressful when we're moving. Please just pray that our move is safe and we aren't too stressed out by it. Thanks guys.

Praying for a safe and stress-free move for you and your family!

 

[wolfman544]

Is it too late to join the WWJD club? If not, please count me in! Don't know how often I'll be checking in, but I think it is a great initiative and I could certainly do with constantly reminding myself!

Of course you can join. Welcome welcome welcome.
Good to have you with us here.

We all need encouragement to continue walking with the Lord in peace and in love for our fellow brothers and sisters. We need each other and we need to take care of one another. Remember those who are weaker than you and share what you have with those who are in need. May each of you be blessed and be a blessing to others.

Amen, thank you for that, very true and wise words

Haha! We've passed 30 members, and we've passed 500 posts! Not that quantity really matters, but it is interesting to watch.

woohoo

I have been trying to help them out practically, and have had a long chat with the dad (Phil). He just wants to talk about his wife - so I'm trying to give him a chance to do that without preaching at him at the moment!
It's sad the way the world reacts to things like this - when he turns up at school to collect his kids, everyone kind of looks embarrassed and no-one talks to him.
So I've been just trying to be there really.
I am praying God will give me a chance to witness more directly, but at the moment, all i feel able to do is be there.
The kids are coping - as they do.
But they really need your prayers at the moment.
Thanks for remembering them!

Bless you - I'm still praying for you too.

I will continue to keep you and them in prayer.
It is sad how people tend to back away like that

I would like to join the WWJD Club

Welcome to you too, of course you may join.
It's great to have you with us.

I'm going to be moving to WV on wednesday, so I'd appreciate your prayers. It's always a little bit stressful when we're moving. Please just pray that our move is safe and we aren't too stressed out by it. Thanks guys.

Will indeed keep ya in prayer. A safe and organized move to ya.
Remember to label your boxes.

 

[spiritwinds]

I wish everyone a blessed evening and a restful slumber.

 

[4Everloved]

I'm going to be moving to WV on wednesday, so I'd appreciate your prayers. It's always a little bit stressful when we're moving. Please just pray that our move is safe and we aren't too stressed out by it. Thanks guys.

Eldaah, I will be praying for you; moving is a huge thing to do! May God bless you and your family in your move and keep you safe and guide you in every way!

I have already been confronted by what Jesus would do....in a situation here in my life.

Yesterday, a ministry partner who has been playing mind games with me for 3 months....called me as I was leaving for shelter ministry. I won't kid around with you, I don't like this fellow.

He asked me if I would go help his teach 12-Steps on Mondays. I told him that I could not, politely explaining that I had no babysitter for my 2 year old son during that time. (Really, I don't want to help him anyway, because he's arrogant and self-important.)

He was offended and said, "But, you promised you would help me at the last meeting!"

Then he proceeded to pour guilt upon me (like he always does)

My anger was sparked toward him....'just who does he think he is?' I thought.

I did not yell at him, but I told him in no uncertain terms that God was the one who brought me to the shelter ministry, that God was my authority in my ministry and that I was not his (Bro. Calvin's) tail end!

(God has told me that I am the head and not the tail in my ministry, so I think that is why I said that to him.)

Anyway, now today I am feeling bad for the firm way I spoke to him. Is that what Jesus would have done?
Should I re-consider helping him?

He is a game-player....and I have seen him try to take over other good peoples' ministries.

Should I just leave well enough alone? Move on? Or do I owe him an apology?

Really need prayer and advice here. Thanks

 

[wolfman544]

Eldaah, I will be praying for you; moving is a huge thing to do! May God bless you and your family in your move and keep you safe and guide you in every way!

I have already been confronted by what Jesus would do....in a situation here in my life.

Yesterday, a ministry partner who has been playing mind games with me for 3 months....called me as I was leaving for shelter ministry. I won't kid around with you, I don't like this fellow.

He asked me if I would go help his teach 12-Steps on Mondays. I told him that I could not, politely explaining that I had no babysitter for my 2 year old son during that time. (Really, I don't want to help him anyway, because he's arrogant and self-important.)

He was offended and said, "But, you promised you would help me at the last meeting!"

Then he proceeded to pour guilt upon me (like he always does)

My anger was sparked toward him....'just who does he think he is?' I thought.

I did not yell at him, but I told him in no uncertain terms that God was the one who brought me to the shelter ministry, that God was my authority in my ministry and that I was not his (Bro. Calvin's) tail end!

(God has told me that I am the head and not the tail in my ministry, so I think that is why I said that to him.)

Anyway, now today I am feeling bad for the firm way I spoke to him. Is that what Jesus would have done?
Should I re-consider helping him?

He is a game-player....and I have seen him try to take over other good peoples' ministries.

Should I just leave well enough alone? Move on? Or do I owe him an apology?

Really need prayer and advice here. Thanks

It's good to hear that you didn't straight up yell at him.
That's a good question. Jesus did overturn the money-changer's tables and chase them out the the temple with a whip.
I'm not sure if this guy falls into the same category, but you are right that God is the authority, if He is saying do plan A, and mr. man is saying do plan B, do plan A.

I can't say whether or not you were too firm with him, I really don't know, but I will keep you in prayer.

 

[cristianna]

Eldaah, I will be praying for you; moving is a huge thing to do! May God bless you and your family in your move and keep you safe and guide you in every way!

I have already been confronted by what Jesus would do....in a situation here in my life.

Yesterday, a ministry partner who has been playing mind games with me for 3 months....called me as I was leaving for shelter ministry. I won't kid around with you, I don't like this fellow.

He asked me if I would go help his teach 12-Steps on Mondays. I told him that I could not, politely explaining that I had no babysitter for my 2 year old son during that time. (Really, I don't want to help him anyway, because he's arrogant and self-important.)

He was offended and said, "But, you promised you would help me at the last meeting!"

Then he proceeded to pour guilt upon me (like he always does)

My anger was sparked toward him....'just who does he think he is?' I thought.

I did not yell at him, but I told him in no uncertain terms that God was the one who brought me to the shelter ministry, that God was my authority in my ministry and that I was not his (Bro. Calvin's) tail end!

(God has told me that I am the head and not the tail in my ministry, so I think that is why I said that to him.)

Anyway, now today I am feeling bad for the firm way I spoke to him. Is that what Jesus would have done?
Should I re-consider helping him?

He is a game-player....and I have seen him try to take over other good peoples' ministries.

Should I just leave well enough alone? Move on? Or do I owe him an apology?

Really need prayer and advice here. Thanks

Ooohhh.... aaaahhh... a perplexing one.

Let me start with this: did you really promise to help him at the last meeting?

You say you feel guilt and remorse for the tone you spoke to this gentleman in. I say for now let's skip if that is or is not how Jesus would have handled it. Let's move forward to remedy the situation, and revisit with the always perfect 20/20 vision for our lessons learned.

You ask:
Should I leave well enough alone-- Well, what do you think? Have you prayed asking for direction, words and timeliness if correction is needed?
Move on-- hmm.. that's tough to answer. For me personally if it was bothering me I could not "move on".
Or do I owe him an apology-- well, that would be at your discretion.

Here's my take on it. Apparently at some time you offered assistance. This gentleman whom, as you have stated, likes to take over and is very forward humbled himself to call upon your services and take your offer.

Maybe the two of you had very clashing ideas on "helping"? It sounds like he's looking for some very hands on help... whereas you may have wanted a less direct on-stage approach.

If it is true you have offered help, then just as Jesus kept His word, I think you need to remain true to your offer.

If it was me dealing with this issue I would call, ensure I didn't offend-- if I did apologize for coming across abrupt or harsh. Then I would either explain: a) what my offer truly meant and/or b) is there another way I can assist because right now I'm just not equipped or prepared for that kind of helper role.

I know how hard and difficult it can be when personalities clash. Toss in apprehension of other's true motives, and it really can be devastating and lethal situation.

Praying for you.

 

[Eldaah]

Will indeed keep ya in prayer. A safe and organized move to ya.
Remember to label your boxes.

thanks.

I have already been confronted by what Jesus would do....in a situation here in my life.

Yesterday, a ministry partner who has been playing mind games with me for 3 months....called me as I was leaving for shelter ministry. I won't kid around with you, I don't like this fellow.

He asked me if I would go help his teach 12-Steps on Mondays. I told him that I could not, politely explaining that I had no babysitter for my 2 year old son during that time. (Really, I don't want to help him anyway, because he's arrogant and self-important.)

He was offended and said, "But, you promised you would help me at the last meeting!"

Then he proceeded to pour guilt upon me (like he always does)

My anger was sparked toward him....'just who does he think he is?' I thought.

I did not yell at him, but I told him in no uncertain terms that God was the one who brought me to the shelter ministry, that God was my authority in my ministry and that I was not his (Bro. Calvin's) tail end!

(God has told me that I am the head and not the tail in my ministry, so I think that is why I said that to him.)

Anyway, now today I am feeling bad for the firm way I spoke to him. Is that what Jesus would have done?
Should I re-consider helping him?

He is a game-player....and I have seen him try to take over other good peoples' ministries.

Should I just leave well enough alone? Move on? Or do I owe him an apology?

Really need prayer and advice here. Thanks

Well, the others have already given great advice, but I want to put in my two cents as well. From my point of view, it seems as if you might have been a little bit harsh. I don't know the guy so I can't decide for you if you did the right thing or not.

Try imagining Jesus in your tennis shoes. Would he have said exactly what you did in exactly the same way? How do you think He would react?

I'm just wondering, but what would it hurt to help him out? I'm not saying you should nessecarily, I'm just wondering what the reason is for not helping him. I don't mean to sound mean or anything, I'm just trying to help you figure this situation out. I know that some people are just plain hard to deal with, but if someone else was in his situation, would you help them? Like I said, I don't know the situation as well as you do, so I can't deccide for you. I will pray that you make the right descision. Would you mind letting us know how everything turns out? I'm praying for you.

 

[Criada]

Originally Posted by 4Everloved
I have already been confronted by what Jesus would do....in a situation here in my life.

Yesterday, a ministry partner who has been playing mind games with me for 3 months....called me as I was leaving for shelter ministry. I won't kid around with you, I don't like this fellow.

He asked me if I would go help his teach 12-Steps on Mondays. I told him that I could not, politely explaining that I had no babysitter for my 2 year old son during that time. (Really, I don't want to help him anyway, because he's arrogant and self-important.)

He was offended and said, "But, you promised you would help me at the last meeting!"

Then he proceeded to pour guilt upon me (like he always does)

My anger was sparked toward him....'just who does he think he is?' I thought.

I did not yell at him, but I told him in no uncertain terms that God was the one who brought me to the shelter ministry, that God was my authority in my ministry and that I was not his (Bro. Calvin's) tail end!

(God has told me that I am the head and not the tail in my ministry, so I think that is why I said that to him.)

Anyway, now today I am feeling bad for the firm way I spoke to him. Is that what Jesus would have done?
Should I re-consider helping him?

He is a game-player....and I have seen him try to take over other good peoples' ministries.

Should I just leave well enough alone? Move on? Or do I owe him an apology?

Really need prayer and advice here. Thanks

Hi! First of all, welcome!

Everyone has given you very good advice here - not a lot to add really!
I would definitely suggest chatting to this person and explaining how you feel - you may well find that he is feeling bad about it too!
Something I try to remember when I have a difficult situation or misunderstanding with someone is that Jesus always left people feeling encouraged - even when He had corrected them.
Maybe you could think of some positive things about this man, and encourage him too.

Praying for you,
Bless you

 

[cristianna]

Something I try to remember when I have a difficult situation or misunderstanding with someone is that Jesus always left people feeling encouraged - even when He had corrected them.

Doh! I need to heed that advice! I cherish your perspective on this. I have never, ever thought about how Jesus did leave others encouraged even when correcting. You are sooooo right! Looks like I have some work ahead of me.

 

[4Everloved]

I read all of these responses very carefully and I'm praying on what to do.

I feel sad and I've been crying today. I think I need to do the right thing and apologize and offer my help.

Will let you all know what happens and what God does.

Jesus is Lord.

 

[cristianna]

I read all of these responses very carefully and I'm praying on what to do.

I feel sad and I've been crying today. I think I need to do the right thing and apologize and offer my help.

Will let you all know what happens and what God does.

Jesus is Lord.

It's going to be alright.

 

[Criada]

I read all of these responses very carefully and I'm praying on what to do.

I feel sad and I've been crying today. I think I need to do the right thing and apologize and offer my help.

Will let you all know what happens and what God does.

Jesus is Lord.

Bless you. Praying for you.

God loves you so much more than you could ever imagine!

 

[spiritwinds]

4Everloved, you have been given sage advice. I pray you find peace and reconciliation. You must follow in the footsteps of Jesus and learn to live at peace with all people. I will keep you in my prayers.

Spirit Wind

 

[Eldaah]

I read all of these responses very carefully and I'm praying on what to do.

I feel sad and I've been crying today. I think I need to do the right thing and apologize and offer my help.

Will let you all know what happens and what God does.

Jesus is Lord.

God will work through this all, just seek His will and serve Him.

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

Trust God, He is with you.