Why do you think, some people are so cruel on the net?

[Chie]

Yes, but if you are doing a quick reply you don't get the various smileys, nor can the addition of smilies, boldafce or all caps make up for the loss of 93% of a message.

do you ever feel the Spirit in some replys ?

 

[JDIBe]

Albert Mehrabian of UCLA came up with the so called "7-38-55 Rule" a number of years ago. He proposed that words account for only 7% of a message, while tone of voice accounted for 38% and body language accounted for 55% of the message.

We loose tone and body language when communicating online, which can change the meaning of our intended message.

That's only true if....

1. You really have nothing to say in the first place.
2. You don't take the time to choose your words carefully.

I'll agree with you that you lose something, but I would say 93% is a bit on the high side.

Regarding the OP question, it's the same reason why people treat other people the way they do on the highway, treating others as if they were a "screen name" instead of a person, and treating the whole business as a game instead of a discussion.

I firmly believe 80% of all this stuff would go away if people actually had to sign their real name at the end of their post...

 

[Nadiine]

That's only true if....

1. You really have nothing to say in the first place.
2. You don't take the time to choose your words carefully.

I'll agree with you that you lose something, but I would say 93% is a bit on the high side.

Regarding the OP question, it's the same reason why people treat other people the way they do on the highway, treating others as if they were a "screen name" instead of a person, and treating the whole business as a game instead of a discussion.

I firmly believe 80% of all this stuff would go away if people actually had to sign their real name at the end of their post...

^
| What He said.

Also, one other aspect to this subject - People make FALSE identities daily - many times you don't know who you're really talking to... your "friend" could actually be trolling.
On Aol where you can have up to 7 separate screenames, I've literally seen people get busted or ADMIT LATER that they had been 3 different screenames & FOUGHT AGAINST the people they called their friends.

I think dishonesty can help cause people to take it less serious - they never who who's really who, & people use false identities to play games w/ them or attack.

 

[aflower4God]

Out of the mouth comes the issues of the heart.
Those who display lack of the fruits of the Spirit on the net displays them in their everyday life as well. The only difference is they can be bolder in their rebellion and ungodly behavior because the monitor is their defense to be accountable , but they lack the knowledge and Spirit that they are accountable to God regardless where they are at.

AMEN...I totally agree here.

I think sometimes it is because the persons saying hurtful things are hurting tremendously themselves. They have no peace or joy, and thus the only satisfaction or "entertainment" they have in life is to engage in bitter fueds.

Lashing out distracts them momentarily from their misery. I've witnessed it over and over again.

Everyone starts pointing and laughing at me!
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I think that here at CF not many people would laugh at you. HOnestly I have been to different sites and I must say that CF is one of the kindest sites! And the mods are super too!

because they are free to say it here unlike in saying it in person...they have their so-called guts to do these mean things to pretend that they're way cooler than everybody else but the truth is they're not.

Very wise my friend VERY wise!!!!

I think part of it (or even a lot of it) is the prophecy that Jesus gave us as to how it would be in the last days:

Matthew 24:12
"Because lawlessness is increased,
most people's love will grow cold​

This is just one of the areas it will really increase and spread. Plus, it's much easier to attack someone "virtually" than in person; face to face.
(many cowards around)​

OH yeah that is one of the major thoughts that comes to mind here...we are in the last days...

Albert Mehrabian of UCLA came up with the so called "7-38-55 Rule" a number of years ago. He proposed that words account for only 7% of a message, while tone of voice accounted for 38% and body language accounted for 55% of the message.

We loose tone and body language when communicating online, which can change the meaning of our intended message.

That may be true, but emoticons & smileys were created which help convey "facial" expression/emotion, and supposedly ALL CAPS or BOLD CAPS in flaming red with an underline can tell us a few things too, depending on content...

Yes, but if you are doing a quick reply you don't get the various smileys, nor can the addition of smilies, boldafce or all caps make up for the loss of 93% of a message.

I must say that I agree here is Nadine! Also if someone comes right out and says something mean...it is ment mean, like if someone wrote me a message and said that I am a stupid idiot period, they are not meaning that I am most intellegant in things however today I am an idiot. Words are words. Now if someone posted a message to me, try not to be thin skinned, lean on God, he is your conforter. I would take that as good advice. Another words I can tell when someone is being down right mean, and this message (rather messages) from that NON Christian board was VERY straight forward in accusing me of something that I am 100% against!!!!

do you ever feel the Spirit in some replys ?

OH yeah I can do so in some replys especally those that come right out in calling me names like yesterday!!!!

 

[aflower4God]

I firmly believe 80% of all this stuff would go away if people actually had to sign their real name at the end of their post...

AMen friend amen!

^
| What He said.

Also, one other aspect to this subject - People make FALSE identities daily - many times you don't know who you're really talking to... your "friend" could actually be trolling.
On Aol where you can have up to 7 separate screenames, I've literally seen people get busted or ADMIT LATER that they had been 3 different screenames & FOUGHT AGAINST the people they called their friends.

I think dishonesty can help cause people to take it less serious - they never who who's really who, & people use false identities to play games w/ them or attack.

That is sad that people do such a thing. The internet is to be a place to come and relax not to be a place to be a battle zone. Again, I come here to relax and socialize if I see something that does not interest me or a topic that I do not like I totally avoid it, why waste my time to hurt others when all I want to do is make others SMILE!

hurting other is just down right RUBBISH!!!!!!!

 

[Nadiine]

I think that here at CF not many people would laugh at you. HOnestly I have been to different sites and I must say that CF is one of the kindest sites! And the mods are super too!

I have alot of support for our Mods! I don't always like the rulings... but that's becuz I take issue w/ a few of the CF rules that they have to enforce.

I must say that I agree here is Nadine! Also if someone comes right out and says something mean...it is ment mean, like if someone wrote me a message and said that I am a stupid idiot period, they are not meaning that I am most intellegant in things however today I am an idiot. Words are words.

YOU'DE THINK HUH!! LOL
I loved it, a few times people here would make an insulting remark & then try to backpeddle by saying, "you took it the wrong way".

Now if someone posted a message to me, try not to be thin skinned, lean on God, he is your conforter. I would take that as good advice. Another words I can tell when someone is being down right mean, and this message (rather messages) from that NON Christian board was VERY straight forward in accusing me of something that I am 100% against!!!!

Uh, let me make a note about INTERPRETATION of text meaning on the net... MANY SELF PROCLAIMING CHRISTIANS DO A BETTER & MORE SINCERE JOB OF INTERPRETING PEOPLE THAN WITH SCRIPTURE.

IF ONLY they'de use the same methods of discernment with God's Word as they do w/ PEOPLE, I think we'd have alot less arguments over the Bible which in so many areas is written plainly with clear intent by the author.

OH yeah I can do so in some replys especally those that come right out in calling me names like yesterday!!!!

I know you LUV it Chie!
People often mock & laugh at me when I mention that Christians are under heavy persecution in the USA. But the attacks against conservative Christians has been escalating for years & getting alot more mean & aggressive.
It's a form of verbal & emotional abuse for what we believe -

 

[aflower4God]

People often mock & laugh at me when I mention that Christians are under heavy persecution in the USA. But the attacks against conservative Christians has been escalating for years & getting alot more mean & aggressive.
It's a form of verbal & emotional abuse for what we believe -

to you sister for having to deal with such rubbish!!!! No one deserves to be ridiculled. Let me just say this, if someone told me that I insulted them in any matter on a message board I would feel awful about it all day! Why, cause again I only come here to spread good cheer and to make friends as well!!

 

[Piedpiper123]

People often mock & laugh at me when I mention that Christians are under heavy persecution in the USA.

Three people in Turkey had their throats cut for being Christian a few days ago. One was a pastor. I hope it doesn't get like this for you in the US.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

People are insecure and angry, and it comes out more on the internet because they don't have to worry about the consequences as much. I wouldn't let them get to you. Don't respond if someone tries starting something because responding is like giving them a cookie. If you reinforce their behavior they will keep it up. When I am on forums other than CF, people will try to get a reaction out of me and I don't give them any reaction whatsoever. Soon, they don't try anymore.

 

[aflower4God]

People are insecure and angry, and it comes out more on the internet because they don't have to worry about the consequences as much. I wouldn't let them get to you. Don't respond if someone tries starting something because responding is like giving them a cookie. If you reinforce their behavior they will keep it up. When I am on forums other than CF, people will try to get a reaction out of me and I don't give them any reaction whatsoever. Soon, they don't try anymore.

Great advice sister

 

[LaceyAnnMarie]

I think some people think its ok b/c it is the net... no one really knows them, no one can see them... Sooo they can get away with being hateful... I have met people like this...

 

[aflower4God]

they can get away with being hateful... I have met people like this...

No one deserves to be treated like rubbish!

 

[Chie]

I have alot of support for our Mods! I don't always like the rulings... but that's becuz I take issue w/ a few of the CF rules that they have to enforce.



YOU'DE THINK HUH!! LOL
I loved it, a few times people here would make an insulting remark & then try to backpeddle by saying, "you took it the wrong way".


Uh, let me make a note about INTERPRETATION of text meaning on the net... MANY SELF PROCLAIMING CHRISTIANS DO A BETTER & MORE SINCERE JOB OF INTERPRETING PEOPLE THAN WITH SCRIPTURE.

IF ONLY they'de use the same methods of discernment with God's Word as they do w/ PEOPLE, I think we'd have alot less arguments over the Bible which in so many areas is written plainly with clear intent by the author.


I know you LUV it Chie!
People often mock & laugh at me when I mention that Christians are under heavy persecution in the USA. But the attacks against conservative Christians has been escalating for years & getting alot more mean & aggressive.
It's a form of verbal & emotional abuse for what we believe -

I remember when I first came here I was called a troller because I just showed up and posted the Word of God over some debate, can't even remember what the debate was, lol , and at the time had no clue to what a troller was.
The Lord has blessed me here even through all the negitivity , I have gained knowledge and wisdom in my walk with him. There are some that I love because we have the same Spirit about us, but there are more that touches my heart and I love because my Spirit feels the need in them.

 

[StrangerThings]

Honestly, anyone weak enough to be insulted by some idiot on the net, generally deserves whatever they get.

 

[aflower4God]

Honestly, anyone weak enough to be insulted by some idiot on the net, generally deserves whatever they get.

I honesty think that this statement is 100% wrong! Sorry but I do! OH I must add so you think I deserve to get what I got?....Thank you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much for your support on this!!! you have a HUGE HUGE HUGE HUGE heart!!! you are soooooooooooooooooooo kind...

It is people like you that make this world a SUNNY place...thanks bud!!!!!!

 

[StrangerThings]

Well thank you. But really, how can you let yourself be offended by what someone on the net says. You don't know them, and they don't know you. What they think only matters as much as you let it matter.

You need a thicker skin.

 

[EnemyPartyII]

Why do you think, some people are so cruel on the net?

Because they can get away with it, consequence free... very few people who are unpleasant online would dare to dream of acting in a similar way anywhere where their mothers might see them

 

[JDIBe]

Well thank you. But really, how can you let yourself be offended by what someone on the net says. You don't know them, and they don't know you. What they think only matters as much as you let it matter.

You need a thicker skin.

I actually admire tender-hearted people. At least they care about what other people think of them. When you are thicker-skinned, it's a short distance from "not caring what people think about you" to "not caring what other people think" to "not caring for other people".

I'll admit, being thick-skinned sure does make life easier, but it is harder to penetrate to get to the heart sometimes as well.

Blessed are the poor in spirit,for theirs is the kingdom of God. Matt. 5:3

 

[HannahBanana]

Honestly, anyone weak enough to be insulted by some idiot on the net, generally deserves whatever they get.

Um, no. Sorry, but just because someone lets an insulting remark bother them does not automatically validate the author of said insulting remark. That is not even remotely logical. Plus, who says that emotional people deserve to be verbally abused? The ability to easily feel emotion is actually quite a good trait to have, in my opinion. It means that the person in question can sympathize/empathize with people, which is quite important, especially in this day and age, when empathy seems to be harder and harder to come by.

 

[SonOfSophroniscus]

They probably hate the herd-animal ethic