This is one of the only posts that actually makes sense to me.
However, how can I put my faith in a religion but only believe some of it? That's hard to do. As a feminist and as an intelligent person, I find it hard to swallow some of the things in the bible. Yet, I want to believe. It's very frustrating.
i think the choice is up to you tho.

you can believe and be a feminist, at least imho you can be.
reasons?
let's remember that the good apostle was instructing the churches at that time. let's also remember that there were good reasons for Paul saying what He had to say. Paul was dealing with the issues of the churches at the time were dealing with.
now i do believe that every dot of the scripture is useful for instruction, but when the problems that Paul was addressing isn't happening in your life or your surrounding, you be a good holy feminist if you want to be.
personally i see every reason to switch Paul's verses over to keep men that are abusing their freedom in Christ in positions in the church, and not just women.
i'm going to try to think of some things specifically with Paul about women that you "could" be mentioning here if you don't mind

i do believe that if a woman is causing harm in the church, she shoud remain silent, but i believe if a man is doing the same? he should be silenced just as well.
let's say a woman being submissive to her husband issue. well, Paul said something i think gets overlooked here..."Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church." that's a TREMENDOUS calling on the husband, as well as a tremendous calling on the wife. i believe if a man is loving his wife as Christ loved the church, why wouldn't a woman want to submit herself to that man? we know what Christ did. Christ gave us commandments to love people as we would love ourselves, Christ lived His life to fulfill the Father's Will, which was a life of sacrifice to the most extreme extent.
now if a Christian man is abusing his position as husband, then i pray the woman fights with all her might to demand that her man will fulfill the calling He placed on himself, and that is placed on Him by the scriptures and by God. and fight with it all that she can, even if it means seperation, protection, and God forbid, i hope nothing leads to divorce but i let God judge that one.
let's look back at the Old Testament maybe? the best i can say is the same thing that ebia said. the scriptures were passing on their views of God. and we see a different societal look on the sexes than what we have today. imagine, if the Bible was written today with our ideas of the heirarchy of the sexes (which is practically equal, to which i know there is flaws in it) but i would imagine it would be written differently in it.
the best i can say is search the scriptures out the best you can, and then always keep aware of your surroundings and what you need to do in your life, in the surroundings that your social positions, or whatever your involved with society, to always examine what you need to do.
i'm not trying to tell you, you should believe like i do or anything here, i just hope that it gives you some more ideas to think about looking at the scriptures as useful as you say you want to
