Friend problems

[Chococat]

I have this friend online and we used to be very close but now I feel we are drifting apart partly because she is always too busy to talk to me (which I understand as she is about to move house) but also because she has so many other friends and I'm beginning to think she prefers their company to mine - this one girl especially. Now I know people need more than one friend but I don't like it when a friend's other friends start to crowd you out of her life. What makes it worse is I don't have a home computer at the moment so I can't be online as often as that other friend who has a home PC as do all her other friends so they can talk to her a lot more than I can. I've told her how I feel but she just denies she is pushing me out but I sometimes wonder if she just wants me when she has no one to talk to (I live in the UK and she lives in the US so the time differences are a problem too). I still care for her but I'm beginning to feel like she just doesn't need me anymore. She just doesn't understand how I feel and despite her reassurances I can't shake off the feeling that now she has this other girl as a friend she doesn't really want me anymore.

 

[Onlythingavailable]

This is just my personal observation and experience, but people tend to have periods when they are closer to one friend than they are to another. After a while it switches around and they are again closer to that other friend etc. The odd thing is that this isn't usually a choice, it just rotates like this.

Now, of course, what you suspect might be true, but it might also not be. Why not assume the positive instead of the negative? If she doesn't want to be friends, it's not the end of the world either. Friends come and go, really good friends usually stay, and God always stays.

 

[Chococat]

This is just my personal observation and experience, but people tend to have periods when they are closer to one friend than they are to another. After a while it switches around and they are again closer to that other friend etc. The odd thing is that this isn't usually a choice, it just rotates like this.

Now, of course, what you suspect might be true, but it might also not be. Why not assume the positive instead of the negative? If she doesn't want to be friends, it's not the end of the world either. Friends come and go, really good friends usually stay, and God always stays.

Thanks for the reply OTA. This girl still insists she wants to be my friend but I really do wonder sometimes if she just wants me when she has no one else.

 

[Chococat]

Well praise the Lord I did manage to sort things out with my friend and clear up a few misunderstandings. I'd still appreciate your prayers because while it is good to have things out in the open we both really hurt each other in the process and while we are friends again I think some healing will need to happen on both sides. However I believe that God will bring us both through it as I realise now I have a really genuine friend in her.

 

[Onlythingavailable]

That's great, praised be God! May He continue to bless your friendship.

Praying for you and your friend.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Things work out---some stuff is just seasonal. In fact Life is based on seasons and seed-time and harvest.

Sometimes you just have to pull a few weeds and the old garden is good as new--