If you and your spouse are believers, you have better resources at your disposal to solve marital problems because Christ lives on the inside of you and you have the Holy Spirit to help you understand biblical truths in God's word. In addition, you have guidance from your pastor on this issue during worship service and in private meetings with him as a couple. Divorce is not an option when two believers marry so this is why courting couples must get to know each other thoroughly before marriage. Here is how you can solve marital problems biblically.
What If We Have Sexual Problems?
The Bible has a few things to say about sexual intimacy in marriage. In Hebrews 13 it states that marriage is honorable by all and the marriage bed is undefiled. Furthermore, 1 Corinthians 7 states that married couples must not deprive each other of sexual intimacy and this also includes bargaining with your spouse in order to either not engage in sex or to have sex with him or her. Aside from this, maybe you and your spouse need to try new sexual positions or if the two of you have let yourselves go in appearance, work on this area. If necessary, visit a therapist who specializes in sexual health. Try to include sexual intimacy into your schedule a few nights out the week in order to rekindle the passion.
What About Arguments?
Anger should not dominate the disagreements you have at home. If this is the case, the both of you need to walk away from the conflict temporarily and cool off so that you will not say things that you do not mean. In the book of James, James says that we are to be slow to anger and in chapter 3 of this book he talks about how difficult it is to tame the tongue. Another thing you need to do is compromise with your spouse on certain issues to keep peace in the home. For example, if you want to homeschool your children but your wife disagrees, you can compromise by having the kids homeschooled up to high school then they can attend a private school.
Pray With Your Spouse
This is important in resolving marital problems because when you allow God to take control of the conflict in the home, He will work in each of you and point out areas of the marriage and in yourselves individually that are not in obedience to Him. During prayer if God is leading you to repent of certain sins, you should do this and ask for the grace to be better spouses to each other.
Get Some Humor
When was the last time you and your spouse laughed together and had pure fun? One reason why you could be experiencing problems is because the both of you are taking yourselves too seriously. Joy and peace are fruits of the Spirit and God wants you to have joy no matter how hard times get in the marriage. Laugh at the little mistakes you made during the day. Play board games together and watch some funny movies on the weekend.
Make Bible Study A Habit
When you study the Bible, you will know what God has to say about conducting yourselves in the marriage and about how to raise your children the right way. In addition to the Bible itself, purchase some study materials that are biblically sound on marriage and go over the material with your spouse so that the both of you will be strong spiritually.
Conclusion
With divorce rates being very high, you may wonder if you have what it takes to have a strong marriage. The answer is yes and the key is mortifying the flesh and its' desires on a daily basis with the help of the Holy Spirit. It has been said that marriage matures people because of the many things it requires. Finally, keep your focus on God's will and never put excess confidence in your spouse to meet your needs.
Source go to Christian Family Resources
What If We Have Sexual Problems?
The Bible has a few things to say about sexual intimacy in marriage. In Hebrews 13 it states that marriage is honorable by all and the marriage bed is undefiled. Furthermore, 1 Corinthians 7 states that married couples must not deprive each other of sexual intimacy and this also includes bargaining with your spouse in order to either not engage in sex or to have sex with him or her. Aside from this, maybe you and your spouse need to try new sexual positions or if the two of you have let yourselves go in appearance, work on this area. If necessary, visit a therapist who specializes in sexual health. Try to include sexual intimacy into your schedule a few nights out the week in order to rekindle the passion.
What About Arguments?
Anger should not dominate the disagreements you have at home. If this is the case, the both of you need to walk away from the conflict temporarily and cool off so that you will not say things that you do not mean. In the book of James, James says that we are to be slow to anger and in chapter 3 of this book he talks about how difficult it is to tame the tongue. Another thing you need to do is compromise with your spouse on certain issues to keep peace in the home. For example, if you want to homeschool your children but your wife disagrees, you can compromise by having the kids homeschooled up to high school then they can attend a private school.
Pray With Your Spouse
This is important in resolving marital problems because when you allow God to take control of the conflict in the home, He will work in each of you and point out areas of the marriage and in yourselves individually that are not in obedience to Him. During prayer if God is leading you to repent of certain sins, you should do this and ask for the grace to be better spouses to each other.
Get Some Humor
When was the last time you and your spouse laughed together and had pure fun? One reason why you could be experiencing problems is because the both of you are taking yourselves too seriously. Joy and peace are fruits of the Spirit and God wants you to have joy no matter how hard times get in the marriage. Laugh at the little mistakes you made during the day. Play board games together and watch some funny movies on the weekend.
Make Bible Study A Habit
When you study the Bible, you will know what God has to say about conducting yourselves in the marriage and about how to raise your children the right way. In addition to the Bible itself, purchase some study materials that are biblically sound on marriage and go over the material with your spouse so that the both of you will be strong spiritually.
Conclusion
With divorce rates being very high, you may wonder if you have what it takes to have a strong marriage. The answer is yes and the key is mortifying the flesh and its' desires on a daily basis with the help of the Holy Spirit. It has been said that marriage matures people because of the many things it requires. Finally, keep your focus on God's will and never put excess confidence in your spouse to meet your needs.
Source go to Christian Family Resources
