The ICERS. Those who ice you out when they are angry. Those whose makeup avoids conflict. To me, conflict is just a swinging door to resolution. I have been considering them this past 24 hours. I don't really like them. Of all the types of anger responses there are, the ICERS are the ones I am most likely to wave goodbye to with joy.
They're SUCH a lot of work! All the digging to find the answers, the manipulation, their effort to cause my world to go on 'tilt' because they have pouted and taken their marbles to another sandbox; isn't that an insecurity manifest that is purely self-centered? It doesn't matter HOW much I love them, their selfish perspective will be SURE that I couldn't possibly love them if I won't play the thaw-me-out-again-game.
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Remember Mr. Freeze?
Yet, I have to face them in family and workplace. They have to work and they are born among us. So, what's the poo on them, anyway, Jesus? Do we find peace and respite in their inevitable departure? OR Do we need to learn to embrace their failure to find a new anger style with creative responses?
I'm guessing the second option:we need to learn to embrace their failure to find a new anger style with creative responses, is Your first choice. What ARE those responses? I have been broken down from breaking IN, in the past! _I_, honestly, find relief in their absences. This type of conflict avoidance personality has been thematic and I find they take my hope to nurture and be kind to a "whole 'notha level," as ed says! NOT a good level either.
MERCY
Is it okay to take the offended-prone out of my picture? I mean, they took themselves out, anyway. Do I need to learn a NEW response toward them? Is it selfish to just be glad they are gone? Hubbs sets that type off in NO TIME FLAT, anyway. I end up playing clean-up, if I feel like it.... and I DON'T! Is that wrong?
Minister to me on this, Jesus. Bring me the information, the wisdom and the guidance on this that will confirm or refute my response to this.
To be in fellowship, to be in a working Body, we will encounter these people. Their style drains the emotional resources of the group. Is it best that they depart? Did You allow their makeup because their purpose is solitary, anyway?
More questions than answers, these last few entries. Thanks for being there, and more, for my assurance that You will answer my hope to understand, as ONLY YOU CAN.
I've listened to this teaching series, repeatedly over the last few years, GOOD'N'ANGRY.....it is AWESOME !!! Yet, I don't (still) understand, what's to do with the pouter, conflict-avoidance group. Maybe I'll listen again.
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They're SUCH a lot of work! All the digging to find the answers, the manipulation, their effort to cause my world to go on 'tilt' because they have pouted and taken their marbles to another sandbox; isn't that an insecurity manifest that is purely self-centered? It doesn't matter HOW much I love them, their selfish perspective will be SURE that I couldn't possibly love them if I won't play the thaw-me-out-again-game.
Most anger styles are difficult in some way. The healthy expression and creative response to anger that seeks resolution, peace and change is the ideal and rarest kind. Tough nuggies! In fellowship, all styles are respresented... my guess is, except the ICERS style, because they won't even come! Abandonment, isolation and rejection are their weapons of choice.
Remember Mr. Freeze?
Yet, I have to face them in family and workplace. They have to work and they are born among us. So, what's the poo on them, anyway, Jesus? Do we find peace and respite in their inevitable departure? OR Do we need to learn to embrace their failure to find a new anger style with creative responses?
I'm guessing the second option:we need to learn to embrace their failure to find a new anger style with creative responses, is Your first choice. What ARE those responses? I have been broken down from breaking IN, in the past! _I_, honestly, find relief in their absences. This type of conflict avoidance personality has been thematic and I find they take my hope to nurture and be kind to a "whole 'notha level," as ed says! NOT a good level either.
MERCY
- God not giving me what I deserve
- God's unearned favor giving me what I don't deserve
Minister to me on this, Jesus. Bring me the information, the wisdom and the guidance on this that will confirm or refute my response to this.
To be in fellowship, to be in a working Body, we will encounter these people. Their style drains the emotional resources of the group. Is it best that they depart? Did You allow their makeup because their purpose is solitary, anyway?
More questions than answers, these last few entries. Thanks for being there, and more, for my assurance that You will answer my hope to understand, as ONLY YOU CAN.
I've listened to this teaching series, repeatedly over the last few years, GOOD'N'ANGRY.....it is AWESOME !!! Yet, I don't (still) understand, what's to do with the pouter, conflict-avoidance group. Maybe I'll listen again.
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~~---->>> Love; from above and within, Shachah <----~~
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