So you regret the fact that you divorced your husband but you wonder if he will want the same thing. With God's help it is possible to get back together with your ex husband but you will need patience and it is also important that you pray that God will move in the heart of your ex-husband where he will desire marriage to you again. Another thing you want to do is ask yourself which actions you committed in the past that led to the divorce and once you figure out what those actions were, do a study of the Scriptures to see why those actions are sinful and then you need to repent of them and resolve not to commit those same sins when reconciliation with your ex-husband occurs.
Be Sincere In Your Apology To Ex Husband
When you meet with your ex-husband to discuss reconciliation, allow your ex-husband to let off steam by expressing his displeasure with your actions and attitudes towards him during the marriage and listen carefully so that you will know what he expects from you if you marry him again. For example, if your ex-husband says that you were covetous after money and that your spending habits caused financial hardship in the marriage, consider your attitude towards money and decide to practice biblical stewardship with finances. Or if he mentioned a lack of submission to his leadership, you should tell him that you will resolve to be more in submission going forward.
Seek Counseling Before Marrying Again
It is a good idea for you and your ex-husband to meet with the pastor so that you can discuss the problems that caused the divorce and get practical steps from the pastor on how to do things differently so that you will not repeat the same sins again during the second shot at marriage. Meeting with the pastor also allows him to determine if the two of you should marry again in light of the fact that things didn't go well the first time. If the pastor feels the two of you should not marry again, you want to consider his insight seriously.
Forgive and Leave Past Mistakes Behind
If you and your ex husband both want to marry again, you do not want to carry old emotional baggage into the new marriage because it hinders your success in it. Forgive each other for past wrongs and think like the apostle Paul in the book of Phillippians where he states that while he has not yet attained perfection, he presses forward to the high calling that is in Christ Jesus. Also consider Colossians 3:17 where it states that whatever you do, do as unto the Lord.
Keep Your Besetting Sins in Check
In the book of Hebrews chapter 12, it states that we should do everything we can to lay aside the sins that easily besets us and we do this by praying daily that God will mold yours and your ex-husbnand's heart in such a way that you will recognize when you are sinning against God and against each other. Once you recognize those sins, repent of them and ask God to transform your mind in those areas by understanding the Scriptures. When you do this you will have better accountability in the marriage.
Conclusion
While divorce is painful for married couples, it doesn't always mean that there is no hope for reconciliation. Just as God reconciled the world unto Himself through the perfect sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ, God can cause divorced couples to get back together again. It will take a humble heart, confession and repentance of past sins, a desire to live godly after Christ in all areas of life and the desire to truly make things right in marriage the second time around. If you and your ex-husband would abide in Christ daily and put your flesh to death regularly, there is no limit to what God can do in the restoration of your marriage.
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Be Sincere In Your Apology To Ex Husband
When you meet with your ex-husband to discuss reconciliation, allow your ex-husband to let off steam by expressing his displeasure with your actions and attitudes towards him during the marriage and listen carefully so that you will know what he expects from you if you marry him again. For example, if your ex-husband says that you were covetous after money and that your spending habits caused financial hardship in the marriage, consider your attitude towards money and decide to practice biblical stewardship with finances. Or if he mentioned a lack of submission to his leadership, you should tell him that you will resolve to be more in submission going forward.
Seek Counseling Before Marrying Again
It is a good idea for you and your ex-husband to meet with the pastor so that you can discuss the problems that caused the divorce and get practical steps from the pastor on how to do things differently so that you will not repeat the same sins again during the second shot at marriage. Meeting with the pastor also allows him to determine if the two of you should marry again in light of the fact that things didn't go well the first time. If the pastor feels the two of you should not marry again, you want to consider his insight seriously.
Forgive and Leave Past Mistakes Behind
If you and your ex husband both want to marry again, you do not want to carry old emotional baggage into the new marriage because it hinders your success in it. Forgive each other for past wrongs and think like the apostle Paul in the book of Phillippians where he states that while he has not yet attained perfection, he presses forward to the high calling that is in Christ Jesus. Also consider Colossians 3:17 where it states that whatever you do, do as unto the Lord.
Keep Your Besetting Sins in Check
In the book of Hebrews chapter 12, it states that we should do everything we can to lay aside the sins that easily besets us and we do this by praying daily that God will mold yours and your ex-husbnand's heart in such a way that you will recognize when you are sinning against God and against each other. Once you recognize those sins, repent of them and ask God to transform your mind in those areas by understanding the Scriptures. When you do this you will have better accountability in the marriage.
Conclusion
While divorce is painful for married couples, it doesn't always mean that there is no hope for reconciliation. Just as God reconciled the world unto Himself through the perfect sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ, God can cause divorced couples to get back together again. It will take a humble heart, confession and repentance of past sins, a desire to live godly after Christ in all areas of life and the desire to truly make things right in marriage the second time around. If you and your ex-husband would abide in Christ daily and put your flesh to death regularly, there is no limit to what God can do in the restoration of your marriage.
Source go to Christian Family Resources
