Calvinism is just wrong............
I will kindly disagree.
Let's see.....according to Calvinists.....
"whosoever will" really means "whosoever is elect"
"all" really means "all the elect"
What are you talking about? I need specific examples for that.
"not willing that ANY should perish" really means "not willing that ANY of the elect should perish"
"God so loved the world" really means "God so loved the elect"
Er... No, that would not make so much sense. However, I have seen a reasonable explanation for those verses, which I will post here (quoted from
http://www.gotquestions.org/unconditional-election.html, eighth paragraph):
‘Those who argue against unconditional election often use verses like 1 Timothy 2:4 and John 3:16. How can we reconcile election with a verse like 1 Timothy 2:4, that says that God “desires all men to be saved”, or John 3:16, that says God “so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life”? The answer lies in correctly understanding the will of God and the love of God. God's passive will needs to be understood in contrast to his decreed will (those things he foreordains to happen). The passive will of God includes the things he might desire in a sense but does not foreordain or bring to pass. Certainly, if God is sovereign and all-powerful, as the Bible declares him to be, then he could bring about the salvation of all men, if that were his decreed or predetermined will. Reconciling this verse and others with the many that teach election is an unconditional choice of God is no more difficult that recognising that there are things God might desire but does not decree to happen. It could be said that God does not desire men to sin, but, as part of his predetermined plan, he allows them to sin. So, while there is a real sense in which God does not take pleasure in the destruction of the wicked and desires that all be saved, his predetermined plan allows for the fact that some will go to Hell.’
Christ died ONLY for the elect
Not all Calvinists believe in that (which is called Limited Atonement). But, yes, I believe that it is true.
God predestined some people to hell, without any chance of salvation
Yes, that's essentially it.
God sends people to hell for eternity for not accepting something (Him) that He gave them no power to accept
No, not really. We do not go to Hell because we have not accepted Jesus; we go to Hell because we have sinned.
......that's like creating a blind child then severely punishing him because he can't see
No, not really. It is more like a normal child deliberately blinding himself and then punishing him. Remember that we all have wilfully chosen to sin and to reject God. The Lord simply provides some with a chance to be saved, leaving others to pay the just price for their sin.
Since nothing happens that God doesn't preordain, God must be the author of sin
No. Man is the author of sin. God did not foreordain us to sin; he foreordained us (specifically, Adam) to have free will, and we used it to sin.
^^^^^^ so much WRONG there it's unbelievable. Totally un-Biblical, and not the God of Scripture at all.
I understand. It sounds pretty unfair, does it not? I mean, God forgives some and punishes others! Sounds nonsensical, right?
That is what I thought, until I properly realised that God does not have the obligation to save anyone; we should all go to Hell. He could have chosen to save everyone, he could have chosen to save no-one, and he could have chosen to save only some. He chose to save only some.
And the only thing that is unfair in the whole story is our sin.
Now, let's see how long it takes for someone to come along and say "you really don't understand Calvinism".
Perhaps you do not sufficiently understand Calvinism. I do not blame you, because: 1) this is a minor issue of our faith, useful for interesting, secondary discussions, but little more than that; 2) it is extremely counter-intuitive, and it really provides such a radically different understanding of salvation, that it sounds unbelievable; and 3) even I, in the past, have believed in the same as you, because it seemed to make sense.
Without judging, I kindly ask you that you explore the issue with an open mind, and that you ask God to show you the unbiased truth. Perhaps you will change your mind.
God bless you!