I'm a guy in college, age 21, and recently started dating a girl about 7 months ago. I had been with a hs girlfriend for 3 years and we both were waiting til marriage. I broke up with her, because I felt she wasn't the one for me in the end. However, we fooled around, and just because we didn't have sexual intercourse doesn't mean we're pure.
However, the girl I've been dating had sex at 18 with her bf of 7 months. She dated other guys after him, they dated for 2 years and she had sex with another guy who she only dated for 6 months. Neither of those occurrences bother me, because she was in a committed relationship and I would have seen myself falling to temptation as well.
She's been cheated on in everyone of her relationships. And recently, I found out she had sex with a 3rd guy over spring break. The guy gave her attention from the first day and on the second to last day, he asked her to go upstairs, since she was "very drunk", she said yes. He asked if they could have sex and she kept saying no, but she eventually said yes. She said she cried all day the next day and the guy didn't give her any attention at all the next day.
Apparently I know of the guy which makes this last instance VERY painful for me. My friend from high school is his fraternity brother and he knows all about it.
Later, I had sex with this girl (my now girlfriend) when we were drunk and now regret losing my virginity.
I was having trouble with the whole thing and got drunk and kissed another girl apparently which I don't remember. I told her as soon as I found out and now we're both in pain.
We've given up alcohol and sex since the incident and are trying to reunite our lives with Christ, but the pain is still there.
Do we continue to try and build our relationship or is her past and my recent mistake too much to get past?
However, the girl I've been dating had sex at 18 with her bf of 7 months. She dated other guys after him, they dated for 2 years and she had sex with another guy who she only dated for 6 months. Neither of those occurrences bother me, because she was in a committed relationship and I would have seen myself falling to temptation as well.
She's been cheated on in everyone of her relationships. And recently, I found out she had sex with a 3rd guy over spring break. The guy gave her attention from the first day and on the second to last day, he asked her to go upstairs, since she was "very drunk", she said yes. He asked if they could have sex and she kept saying no, but she eventually said yes. She said she cried all day the next day and the guy didn't give her any attention at all the next day.
Apparently I know of the guy which makes this last instance VERY painful for me. My friend from high school is his fraternity brother and he knows all about it.
Later, I had sex with this girl (my now girlfriend) when we were drunk and now regret losing my virginity.
I was having trouble with the whole thing and got drunk and kissed another girl apparently which I don't remember. I told her as soon as I found out and now we're both in pain.
We've given up alcohol and sex since the incident and are trying to reunite our lives with Christ, but the pain is still there.
Do we continue to try and build our relationship or is her past and my recent mistake too much to get past?