I have read most of the posts here with tears in my eyes, tears of understanding.
Guess I'm the first man (widower) to post.
My heart goes out to you.
My precious soul mate was taken to the Lord on a cold December night, December 18th, 2009 from complications of lupus. Though she was very ill, she was doing good enough that her passing wasn't expected at all. It was very sudden after a brain bleed.
I felt like I was reading my own words, pnktulip, in my early days of profound loss and heartbreak. All that you are feeling is very normal and is part of the grief process. You may have done this, but I went through a grief class for six weeks. I also went to a grief counselor for some time. Even now, two years later, I sometimes hit a stump and he helps me by email, as he has many times. All of those do help, but nothing but time and God can really do healing. I know the feelings of being robbed, cheated, feeling your very heart be ripped out. A part of your heart goes with them.
Though I have come a long way, and you will too, there will still be those days of sadness and tears. God and time, that is what it takes.
God brought me and my wife together late in life. Neither of us had ever been married, didn't even have kids. It was a very special love and soul mate heart to heart connection between us. She was my perfect match.
Our lives were like mirror images, both of us "only-children", even our parents were alike in many ways.
I know our mates would not want us crying and upset, but it is hard not to be, I know that too. I'm going a bit off the road here, but I would like to add that the times we are in, prophecy being fulfilled at an alarming and daily rate, I don't think we will be separated from them much longer. A week after my wife passed on, a lady we both knew in her home town told me we may not be apart for long. At first I didn't know what she was talking about. But she got into Bible prophecy and sharing what she knows and is going on. Nearly every TV pastor and prophecy expert all agree, we may well be the generation to see the Rapture and the Lord's return. Many may not agree, but this is what I see and hear everywhere I turn to read, listen or watch.
My prayers go out to you pnktulip. Let the tears flow as they will. I never thought I would laugh again, or be able to walk in the door of that hospital where she passed away, to have lab work done. But I am doing it! God has brought me a long way. He will you too, but it takes time.
May God walk with you, and hold you near as you let the tears and anger out. He understands. He cries with you. One day very soon, He will dry all our tears and we will dwell in His house with our loved ones with no more separation, no more death, no more illness for all eternity!