Forgiveness comes only with repentance.
Not "only." If the situation is a necessity of continued fellowship, yes. But forgiveness has a necessary reflexive benefit regardless of whether the other person repents.
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Forgiveness comes only with repentance.
Not "only." If the situation is a necessity of continued fellowship, yes. But forgiveness has a necessary reflexive benefit regardless of whether the other person repents.
So an entire people must apologize for the actions of another person that they have 0 benefit from.
I think it all depends on the scope of what you're talking about.
For example - I was married to an Asian when I was younger. I know LinkH will disagree with me here (lol - we've discussed aspects of it before) - but after my divorce with her and the experience I had with her family - I swore never to date an Asian again. There simply are too many cultural differences that IMHO can become problematic in certain types of situations (mainly - I found the family to be far too intrusive in our business when I had made the decision to divorce - and it went BADLY.)
So - yeah - I said I would never date an Asian again. Is that racist? IMHO no - if I've only confined it to the dating context. Who really cares or is hurt by the fact I wouldn't ever look at an Asian as a suitable partner again? That doesn't mean I don't enjoy their company, enjoy friendships with them, etc. It just means that an Asian woman was no longer a viable marital partner in my eyes.
I agree that one should "let go" of a matter in one's heart ... but "letting go" (affecting me) does not equal "forgiveness" (affecting the other party).I know many people feel that way. For me? I choose to forgive despite repentance. Lack of forgiveness is like a poison, and it only hurts me. It certain circumstances it does take a while to let go, and allow God to do what he must. Yet, at that point? I don't even need to know what he did. I've moved on, and found peace.
lol now if you want to say TRUST may return with contrite repentance? I would whole heartily agree with you.
Not very reasonable, is it?Also....how can people repent from something (change of mind is what repentance means) if they aren't participating?
I stand by my statement ... forgiveness (of a debt) requires repentance.Not "only." If the situation is a necessity of continued fellowship, yes. But forgiveness has a necessary reflexive benefit regardless of whether the other person repents.
I remember your telling about the crazy stuff your ex was into. It's the kind of stuff that Asians typically would be less likely to be into than whites, IMO. You probably picked a statistical outlier.
But it doesn't bother me one bit if you didn't want to date an Asian after that. After the experience, Asians might have seemed less attractive to you, and may have reminded you of bad experiences. That may be the say with the OP and black men.
My father is Jamaican my grandmother's family was into politics, my grandfather had a humble up coming he was an accountant for wray and nephews rum company. My mother's family was filled with black teachers and professors. My father has his doctorate my mother has a BA and before I was born worked on Wall Street. My wife's late father had a doctorate and her mother is a CPA. I have a BA double and a minor(law school), my brother has BA(in med school), my sister has a BA(in grad school specializing in special needs education). My wife has a masters in IO psychology, her brother has a masters in business(investment banker/professor working on doctorate, sister in law an attorney, aunts uncles and cousins all educated. So where do I fit in?
I'm curious about the last part of your question...about "Where do I fit in?"
Let's say you were of school age, with your background, and were suddenly transferred into a predominantly black urban school. How do you think you would fit in, speaking as you do, etc? Do you think you could continue to do so and be overwhelmingly accepted - or do you think you would have to make allowances to "fit in"?
When I was in HS back in the 1980's...they had a busing system going where they'd bring kids from "bad areas" (basically urban black kids from Compton/Watts out in Southern California) out to our school. My black friends that grew up near me were treated like lepers and pariahs by those kids - for "speaking the white man's English", "selling out" and "not being black enough"...etc.
Do you think that type of feeling is not part of American Black culture?
By Sunnydaize
I feel racist toward black men now after my husband
I feel racist toward any black men now after years of being in an abusive, controlling, relationship with my black husband.
I am white and have always had a preference towards black men until now.
I feel resentful that whenever i was with a black male- he was often abusive or controlling or violent or a cheater.
am I wrong for now being racist toward black men?
I do not like black men at all now and feel disgusted when I hear and see the typical behaviors come out of most of the black men I have ever known.
am I considered a full blown racist now that I no longer am attracted to black men and now that I see most black males as "ghetto" and abusive?
I'm a white British guy and I'm ghetto. I have a three page criminal record.
So it might be better to just take people as they come.
We're all sinners.
White people are trying to narrowly define racism as "believing your race is superior to others," thus excusing their own racism by saying "I don't believe white is better, I just like white more." Bah.
Black people are trying to narrowly define racism by saying, "It requires having social power," thus excusing their own racism by saying, "Black people don't have social power. Bah on that, too.
Racism is bigotry from a standpoint of race. If you prejudge another person's morality or character based on his race rather than what you know about the individual, that is racism, period. It's a form of bigotry, all of which involving making judgments of another person's character based on a group external characteristic rather than his actual individual character.
When Paul declared, "Neither Jew nor Gentile," he was declaring that there is to be no bigotry among Christians, regardless of the type, whether racial or ethnic or national.
To be a Christian is to be of a culture that eschews all the dividing lines of worldly cultures. If someone claims to be a Christian but still clings worldly divisions, he needs to get into prayer.
I don't think I or black people attempt to narrow down a term. The reality is I a person with a BA in political science define racism with my understanding of my field. My wife a masters holder in psychology will most likely define racism in a way that reflects her field.
The U.N. Defines racism as: